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Hiya, my names Claire. I'm 16 and I live in England. I live with my dad, my older brother and my younger sister. I have a pretty complicated family situation, so although yours may not be the same, I can probably replate to something of the confusion and hurt people with broken families feel.
I'm a Christian, and I guess that is reflected in most of my responses to questions. Compared to some people, I've had a pretty good 16 years of life so far, not huge amounts to complain about. But there have been times when I've really needed to rely on God to pull me through and he's never EVER failed me. I trust his promises completely, and I depend on Christ with all my heart

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okay, so i know everyone says sex hurts. i can't even put in a tampon without it being painful... what if i have sex and it's EXTREMELY painful? what can i do? i'm not having sex ANY time soon at all... so no "omg don't have sex" talks, please.. but i'm just wondering because if i can't even put in a tampon without thinking i'm doing it wrong or it hurting, how am i even supposed to have sex??
thank youuu

Wow I actually know exactly how you feel!
I don't know how old you are, but I'm guessing if you're saying you're not gonna have sex anytime soon, you're probably still growing and stuff. I'd say don't worry about it, people grow and develop and the more you get used to yourself, the easier that kind of thing will become.
Also, when you do choose to have sex, make sure it's with a guy who's like your best mate as well as your boyfriend/husband. The kind of guy you will have discussed this with first, many times, and will know exactly what you're scared of and how to make it easier.
Don't worry for now, and trust your body to know what it's doing!
Hope this helped
Claire
xxx

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(Rating: 5) haha thank youuu!!
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