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I am 21 yrs old and have been dating this guy for 3&1/2 yrs now (started my senior year of highschool) and I love him very much, but for the last year or so Ive gotten to the point where I just don't know if I can see us together forever anymore (like all girls dream) and am wondering if I should stay or go. We have been getting into alot more fights, way more easily than before and most of them are due to the fact that he is obsessed with video games and puts them ahead of hanging out with me all the time. Lately, hes gotten into this new game that has quests with alot of people on certain days of the weeks; scheduled quests. And he decides to not hang out with me and play instead even though its a friday night which is one of my nights off (no college the next day or work). We rarely see each other the way it is this semester due to classes and work and homework that this is ruining my time with him and it bugs me how he doesn't care. Even when we do hang out, when I come over to his house I have to get him off his game and its hard work. I just don't feel like a priority anymore, and because of this I get angry easier and then make him mad and we get into fights. He thinks I nag on him too much and I think he doesn't prioritize me enough. I love him sooo much, hes very honest and true to me, but I'm to the point where I'm jealous of a game?! This just doesn't feel right. The only other thing (other than his good points) stopping me from breaking it off with him is the fact that we have a class together and i don't want to have this stuff affect my grades and I am very 'addicted' to him (i love him soo much and dont know how to live without him anymore). Should i stay With him? Should i break it off? If so, when? Thanks for any advice you can give me.
Hey wow, how did my girlfriend get on here and ask questions about me? And how did she age 3 years in the process?
Yes, this is the same kind of ordeal my girlfriend and I go through. I play a lot of World of Warcraft, and if I doing an instance with a bunch of people or something, I'll usually reject her offer to go somewhere in favor of playing. Not only that, but I am rabidly anti-social and don't want to go anywhere anyway. So we came to an agreement. We both go to school at the same time and get out at the same time, Monday-Friday. We both have lab at 2:30-5:30 on Tuesday. We ride with each other to and from school, everyday. I tend to only have Tuesday and Wednesday off. Wednesday is the only day I truly have off: No work, no school in the middle of the day. Wednesday is MY day: she can't ask me to go do something I don't want to do and get mad at me for it. However, any other day when we are both home is fair game, even if it's just for an hour or so.
I've also tried to get her involved in some games as well. She really hates games, but it isn't so bad if I'm there with her. She enjoys Puzzle Bobble, at least, and WoW if I'm helping her. But other than that, I get off my ass and go do things with her at least once a week if possible. So, my advice to you is to try and designate some time together. There are certain times he can have to himself, and others when he is all yours.
Also of note: Due to his nature, there is no way he'd get another girlfriend if you left him. If you do leave him, he will realize what has happened and take you back, this time realizing what he has done. Last ditch effort, but worth a shot.
Edit: No problem. I'm very experienced in the "real life sucks I'm gonna play WoW instead" department. Should it come up again, hit me back. - K'
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HI, i liked how you firsthand have been in this situation like me..and yes its WOW that he plays..how coincidental..maybe you know him on there-jdubs he goes by..hes a female character but is male lol..i dunno maybe maybe not..anyway..i did take a break from him(not really due to the game but just some bad fights, the game didnt really come into play as bad until now, now he takes days off of me to play, good days that friends and me are free and instead wants to play..) and yes when we were on the break he obviously doesnt want anyone else and yes hes antisocial(in the fact that he has friends but WONT call them, they call me usually..random times they call him) and so when we were apart I got calls to do stuff with HIS friends(that i made thru him) and no one caleld him..so that didnt help but yea..he wanted me back wtihin a week..but that was probably alittle less than a year ago..sometime in the spring of last year i think that happened..(and one of his 'friends' tried to hook up with me LOL) but yea i took him back and he said hed change..but now that the games taking over him i just dont know what to do..he gets so mad at me mentioning him to get off the game and i get so mad waiting hours to hang out with him..and having to watch his stupid game..hes so into it that he wont leave because he 'doesnt want to ditch ppl' but ditches ME instead..what the hell? god..i dont know what to do..im soooo seriously close to breaking it off..i dont think i could even think of the father of my kid (eventually someday when i have one)being like this..how could u tell them to get off their games when he wont? anyways..write me again-id love to get more help from you..you seem very helpful in this situation..thanks a bunch!!
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