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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.
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This is kinda a long one but I really need good advice.
There are these three girls I'm friends with at my school. We were all like a group of four and basically the "popular" group if my class has one. Well at least I was really good friends with them. Maybe I'm just paranoid but it always seems like two of them talk about me. I'm pretty sure the third one doesn't because she's always really nice to just about everyone. Well me and one of them got into a fight the other day and aren't talking. She's really close with the other one I think talks about me. I'm pretty she's mad just just because her best friend is. But the thing is, she acts all nice to my face and stuff.
I have other friends to hang out with but most of them aren't in most of my classes. Going to school is hell anymore though. I have my boyfriend and that's like it. I can't really explain this dilemma to him. He knows vaguely of it and that's like it.
I know what my "friends" can do. This one girl was really popular and everyone wanted to be friends with her and they turned her into a complete loser so everyone hates her and talks about her. I don't want this to happen to me.
The girl whose mad at me is not the apologizing type and I'm not apologizing to her.
So what do I do?
I rate 5's!
I want to start this off by saying that when I answer a question it is to give you the best advice as I see it according to my experience in life. It may not be the answer you want to hear, but it is always given in the spirit of love, honesty, and in the hopes that your situation will improve based on a spark of clarity gleaned from my thoughts. You see, I have to tell you, I don't think your friends sound like much of a loss. Their behavior is a bit childish and down right mean. They turned a class against a perfectly nice person because they could? I can't think of one good reason a kind and loving person would do something like this to someone else. This sounds more like vindictive and envious behaviors which are fear-based emotions. Your friend was afraid of the competition, didn't like her personally for whatever reason, so she destroys her. I don't understand this concept (I don't want to either). You also have a fear to overcome. You fear that you will lose some sort of status if you were not friends with these people anymore. Fear is a strong emotion. If you fear it, then it will be so. One way to overcome this fear and still maintain popularity is to be really friendly to everyone. Say hi and smile to everyone (always have a friendly smile). Become involved with other people. You might even consider the girl they destroyed. She may be a very nice person who was undeserving of this treatment. If rumors start floating around, just laugh at them. Don't let them bother you. Rumors really can't hurt you unless you let them. Build your own popularity in your own right. Why give away the worth of your popularity to someone else. Your popularity is yours, it belongs to you. Your classmates already identify you with being popular. Simply continue doing things the way you always did when you were hanging with your mean friends with one exception. Do everything with kindness. Start being friendly with everyone, including the considered "losers". Don't slight anyone and that does also include those mean girls. Always be friendly and kind towards them too. Yes, I bet you're correct; those girls are talking about you. So? Let them. If you don't let it bother you then they will lose interest. People do mean things to others to see the reaction and to feel powerful. It's a thrill in a way. If they get no reaction then it becomes boring. They lose interest. They can't control you. If they can't get to you to react to anything they may do then they have no power. They will see the uselessness of continuing on the destructive path with you. Also, if you have your own popularity base, you will become valuable to them and very powerful on your own. You don't NEED them,but if they are nice you could include them in your presence. Good luck in all of this. I do hope that your success in popularity exceeds your expectations and you find yourself surrounded with battalions of loving dependable dedicated friends.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the adive.. it's really good. The only thing is I can't really be nice to the "losers". I've done so much to them in the past that I can't really make up for it. But thanks alot!