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A lot of people judge me on what they see but never really know whats going on. I'm not close to perfect and I'm not afraid to show it. So many things have happened to me that it seems surreal sometimes. But now I'm finally happy with myself and my life. So haters keep hating because I realized how blessed I truely am.

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Ok, I'm going to go through all of this and try to not sound vain or concieted. I'm just going to be totally honest because I am the 'advisor' of our group and I am totally killing myself trying to help her.
So my friend Angela and I were fat geeks two years ago. I was the one with the sense of fashion though. Last summer, she went on vacation and came back totally transformed and in shape. She has a really nice body now. I passed on all my advice to her and she started wearing designer labels and boots and pretty much copying my "style". I didn't mind though, like it's flattering to me that she would take whatever I said to heed.
Over the last two years, I got thinner too but I a little overweight and not nearly as thin as Angela.
The problem with Angela is that she isn't the prettiest girl on the block. She has a huge forehead which she has covered up with bangs but now her face is totally square-shaped and it kind of looks like a block. She has no-lips, not thin lips, just no lips. The thing that stands out about her is her gorgeous blue eyes and her body. Anyway, she's not very attractive but she's a very nice and honest (although sometimes she annoys guys by nagging and starting arguments).
So I don't have that great of a body but I'm lucky, I inhereted good genes from my parents. I'm not as beautiful as mother but I'm fairly ok.
All my other friends are really pretty too.
So we recently found out that Angela was upset because the rest of our friends complemented me more than they complemented her. Well, I was pretty mad because I didn't think she should be that superficial. People usually commented when she went the extra mile to get ready when they do that all the time to me. Honestly, I thought it was a fair trade, I was... I guess prettier than her but she has a great body.
Now guys aren't all that interested in her. She's pretty much labeled herself desperate in fun (something no one should do even if they're joking, in my opinion). Some guys say it's becasue she comes on too strong and some say she isn't that pretty.
Recently, this guy told one of my friends that he thought I was hotter than Angela. That friend told Angela and Angela hinted that she didn't understand why. When we're all together and I talk about how so-and-so might have been hitting on me, she agrees with everyone when they say that he probably was but I can kind of -sense- that "Yeah right" is on her mind.
For example, if a guy in our class talks to me a lot, the next day, she'll wear a more revealing sexy top to the same top and try to talk to him a lot.
I'm wondering what's going on with her. Does she think I'm ugly or something? Is it jealousy? Or she thinks I'm unattractive and doesn't think guys will like me? Is she competing with me? She doesn't do it with my other friends and they're prettier than me and have better bodies. I'm afraid that this thing will escalate and I'll lose her.
I need to know how to fix this- and also try to get her a boy friend because she really wants one too. I rate 5s.

I think that she is jealous. But I don't think that she thinks that you are unattractive because she probably wouldn't have copied your "style".

She is showing signs of an unfaithful friend. I think it is best to talk to her. Let her know how you feel. Let her know that you don't like it when she tries to compete with boys, etc. Just make sure you get your point of view across.

I don't think that you should try to get her a boyfriend because if the relationship doesn't work out you will be the one to blame. Trust me I'm saying this from experience.

I wish you the best of luck! :)

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(Rating: 5) I don't see why she could be jealous though, I've never been treated any different by anybody from her.
Well, I kind of feel bad for her because she's obsessed with finding a guy (all her siblings have significant others). I just figure if she could get into the dating thing a little bit, it won't hit her as such a shock when she gets out of high school and maybe she can start dating guys for fun instead of just because it's what is expected of her by her family.

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