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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.
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I fell in love with my bestfriend (typical). but he used to and still says that he loves me more than he has ever loved a girl in his life. and the other day he told me that he had a girlfriend so obviously i was heart broken. SO appearently he "loves" me only as a friend. yea its confising i kno, geeze. So i just want some advice on how to get over him...like what should I do and places I could go to get him out of my mind, because i really dont want to ruin this friendship. It was just my fault on falling for him.oh yeah i just turned 17 and ima girl and hes 19.
There are a couple of exercises I think would be helpful. I got them out of the book, "Brain States", by Tom Kenyon, M.A. Find yourself a quiet place where you won't be disturbed. Sit or lay in a relaxing position and breath in slowly to the count of eight, then breath out to the count of eight. Once you've slowed your body down to match your breathing start to notice what is tense in how you are holding your body. Start to let the tension go in each area of the body one area at a time. Hold this relaxed state for as long as possible. You can also use this state to achieve a myriad of goals or personal growth work....
.... slowly transcend into these exercises:
Choose a visual memory you have of you and your best friend. Be sure it is full of the love you feel for him. Caution: It is important that you know that before you do this you want to be very sure that a memory is not that important to you.
1. Notice your emotional reaction to this picture in your head.
2. Notice if the picture is in color. If it is in color, change it to black and white.
3. Notice if the picture has a frame around it. If it doesn't put a frame around it. Notice your emotional reaction to this picture.
4. Notice if the picture is moving or still. If the picture is moving slow it down until it is still. If it is still, make it moving. Notice your emotional reaction to this change.
5. Finally, notice if the picture is clear or fuzzy. If it is clear, make the picture fuzzy. If it is fuzzy, make it clear.
6. Now look at this changed picture in your mind. What is your emotional reaction to it now? Is it different than your reaction to the original picture?
Note: If you prefer this new reaction, leave the new picture in place. If you prefer your first reaction, bring the picture back to the way it was.
You can see how this exercise can be used to lower the intensity of your feelings towards your friend.
Exercise 2:
The purpose of this exercise is to attune you to the various physiological shifts that occur with this modality of experience.
1. Recall a happy feeling. Intensify it. Make it stronger. Where do you feel this emotion most clearly in your body? Notice the physiological sensations in your face as you feel this emotion.
2. Recall a sad feeling. Intensify the feeling and notice where you seem to feel this emotion. Notice the physical sensations in your face as you feel this feeling.
3. Recall an angry feeling. Intensify this feeling and notice where in your body you feel this emotion the most. Notice the physical sensations in your face as you experience this feeling.
4. Now take a deep breath and on the exhale imagine that the angry and sad feelings are leaving on the exhaled breath. Now recall a calm feeling and take a moment to be in this calm feeling.
You can see how the use of this exercise can help you be in control of your emotions instead of your emotions in control of you. This doesn't get rid of a feeling you have for someone. I don't think you ever really want that. Now, what you do is, use these same techniques when you are out in life, for example: if you are around your best friend and intense feelings start swelling up in you...you could start lowering your breathing rate, release any tense areas you are experiencing (usually the abdominal area), and then releasing this emotion on the exhale. This will help you a lot if you will practice it. After a while it will be so simple as to think about it and you will experience the state of mind you wish to be in. I am not advocating getting rid of emotions. I think love is very important and each time we love someone this special feeling should be treasured. I don't think all is lost with you and your best friend's your timing is off. I think it is still a possibility for you at some point. What I hope you use these exercises for is to lower the intensity of these feelings for now. It will help you to see things clearly. You can also apply these exercises to your life as a whole. Good luck!
Namaste,
LULABELLE
(Rating: 5) wow, great advice, thank u so much!