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15, almost 16, female.
Little brother is 12 almost13.
we fight all the time. I try so hard to be nice. and most of the time I am nice. I am always sharing, and even if I getsomething new, I always share it, and I am tollerent of our different taste in music. He likes heavy rap and metal, and those are the two I despise. Although I enjoy love songs, they are not my favorite, he despises them tho.
I want to be a good big sister. I want him to come to me when he has a girlfriend, or when he has girl trouble, or something good to tell me. I want him to be able to come to me. Now when he needs to be driven to a friends house or somewhere with a friend, he despises when I drive, ( I have my permit) but, I know I need the practice so I can get my liscense, and My parents, of course, are with me, and they are okay with me driving my brother and his friends. But I will be getting my liscence in 5months, and I want him to want me to drive him. I want him to look up to me, and like it when I drive him or pick him up from places. I do try to set a good example too!!
Any tips? Is he just going through a stage? How can I be more tollerent when he is bad??
thank you so much in advance!!
-Kelsey-
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It sounds as if you and your brother are in a bit of a "round robin" situation. You need to stop and get off the whirlwind. Catch your breath. Take yourself to a quiet comfortable place (where no one will disturb you) and breath in slowly to the count of 8, then breath out slowly to the count of 8. Do this for as long as you can (at least 10 minuets at a time). Notice how you feel while you are doing this. Feel each breath as it goes in and out. Notice what parts of your body are tense for some reason. Then, start to release the tension in these areas one area at a time. At least try to get your entire body relaxed before moving on. The object here is to get your body into a relaxed state for as long as you possibly can before restlessness sets in. While you are in these states you can cocentrate on goals, your faith or anything you feel you want growth and accomplishment in. You can do this sitting or lying down. Take some time to disentangle the mess you have found yourself in. Answers won't come to you at first, but if you do this every time you feel overwhelmed and out of sorts you will begin to understand for yourself what is going on and how to handle it. I would wager that you already have an inkling about how to make things better. You're just not ready to perceive (acknowledge) it and that's OK. All good things come to us when we are ready. Do this little exercise I gave you as often as you can. You will soon find you are better able to handle that little brother of yours.
Something else that works for me is this. Ignore your brother. Don't listen to him. What I'm saying is don't let him get to you. I know, there are times where he will get to that button and maliciously grind away. At first this won't work, but keep practicing it. Eventually it will become second nature. I do that relaxing exercise, I explained earlier, in my head. If someone is yammering at me.....I start slowing down my breath. I still listen to them, but I start relaxing the parts of the body that happen to be tense. Once I feel relaxed I will respond. An interesting side note; the conversation in my head changes dramatically from my tense state to calmed relaxed state of mind. How I approach the problem is totally different from what it would have been had I responded immediately. Learn to do this and it will help you through many intense times.
Namaste,
LULABELLE
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