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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.

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(15/f)Well my life is really hectic right now. Some things have happened recently that are really stressful for me...well i just havent been myself lately && my boyfriend has noticed it. Things arent the same like they used to be. Dont get me wrong i love him a lot but idk if i can handle a relationship anymore. All we do is fight now, and im just always moody now and he deserves way better than me. With everything going i just cant handle the whole bg/gf stress. Yes ive tried talking about it to him but he doesnt get it... I told him we were over last night (that was deff. the hardest thing ive ever done)...its just horrible that i had to do that because its like now all i feel is like sh**.. First i was just like "I have to do this" and now i feel like I need him more than anything. Weve been dating for 7 months, and its like i just blew it. He told me that if i did this that he was never gonna take me back && i did it, so i lost him :(. Idk what to do im so confused. And i cant take a break because those things never work out and besides he said he wont take me back anyway. Hes online right now and he nor I have imed each other. he was really hurt when i told him and he was seriously about to cry :(. Now all i can do it cry because i feel like such a low-life loser. I do love him but its just difficult, really really difficult...If anyone can help me out with this i would really appreciate it..xox

The things that are going on in your life right know that is causing this stressful behavior is what you need to address right now. Your right, you need to talk to someone about this and your boyfriend just isn't equipt to be able to handle this. That is why he was unable to understand. He is just not in that place in life yet to understand more complex issues. That doesn't mean he can't be helpful to you (but I'll come back to this). If you can't go to a parent right now, you must at least seek someone who is trained in complex issues in life. You can go to your school councelor. If they can't help you directly they know the kinds of organizations out there that can address these complex life issues with you for free. These organizations are usually confidential. Seek some kind of assistance.


As for the reason you broke up with your boyfriend. Could it be that you felt like you had to break up with him before he broke up with you? That you felt you weren't being the "perfict" girlfriend and he would eventually brake up with you anyway? Just a thought. I did that when I was your age. Regardless of your reason I have an idea for you. Contact your boyfriend. Tell him how much you care about him. Explain that you are not trying to get back with him as a boyfriend/girfriend situation. You know that you have ruined that. But, you really need his friendship right now. You are confused and are not making the best decisions. You don't want to hurt him anymore than you already have and you can't stand how badly you made him feel. Tell him that because of the stress you are undergoing right now you thought that this was the best for him. You were thinking of him. You hated what you were doing to him with all of the arguing and felt he didn't deserve that. Tell him that his friendship means a lot to you. Explain you need someone in your life that you can trust to talk to and he's one of the only people you feel you can express yourself with. Explain that you understand if he can't talk to you right now but, you want him to know that he never did anything wrong. It was never about what he did. You just didn't like what you were doing and you hope he will understand this. Try this approach or something similar. I don't think you have perminately lost him if you contact him from this approach. He's hurt, but I think if you are sincere with him and share with him to the best of your ability what is going on, he will stand by you as a friend or boyfriend. You will simply need to be patient with him on this. You have hurt him very deeply. People sometimes do things they regret later when they react from hurt and anger. If he's angry with you let him vent. Listen and don't interrupt no matter what he says. Agree with whatever hurtful thing he may say about you. Remember, you hurt him and he is coming from this place of hurt. You show him that you can understand the hurt he is experiancing and he has a right to these feelings. If you are there for him and let him vent it's a good chance that he will calm down and want to be friends. Don't push, let him make the suggestions as to what kind a friendship it is to be. You just want your foot in the door. Once it's in it probably won't be long before you are completely through the door. Good Luck and let me know how things work out for you. I do feel for your plite and hope it turns out in your favor.


Namaste,

LULABELL

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(Rating: 5) THANK-YOU VERY VERY MUCH. you helped me so much x0x♥
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