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I love my mom and all but she really bothers me. I am 13 and I`m kind of mature for my age. My mom said I could get my belly button peirced a yeah ago and she said yeah after I turned 13 and now shes saying no. I turned 13 April 25th and its so unfair I`m getting to really hate her so now she asked " What do you want for Christmas?" and I said. " A new cell phone and a my belly button peirced" and she goes "Your not getting neither your phone is fine."
My phone is a peice of sh1t and falls apart like 5 times a day. And I really want my belly button peirced and she said yeah last year so it`s completely unfair. My little brother gets everything he wants its unfair to me.
How can I convince her to let me get my belly button peirced? And how can I explain that she is unfair to me?
Thanks in advance. I`ll rate 5`s!!
Well, this is all a part of growing up. Your mother may have said yes a year ago thinking that you would probably change your mind and want something else by the time your 13th birthday came along. This time it backfired on her. Most parents use this technique to keep peace. Why argue about it now when in a year you will move on to wanting something else. Your mother may think that you are too young to have your belly button pierced. It is a very sexy thing to do. She may not think you are ready to fend off the kind of advances that will ensue if you were to adorne this sexy statement. Your mother is probably not worried about young men your age. She is worried about older men. Their perception of you will be that you are much older than you are if they were to see this. She's probably worried that you will find yourself in the kind of trouble that you can't emagine and to be honest I don't think she wants you to ever have to. She probably wants you to enjoy your youth for as long as you can because once it is gone, that's it. You may want to rush things (I know I did), but once you are out of your youth you will miss the simplicity of it. When you become older you will wish that your biggest problem be convincing your mother to let you have your belly button pierced. Be patient with your mother. She's doing the best she can and she is trying to take the best care of you as possible. When I was your age my mother did some things very similar to what your's is doing. I felt just like you. It is very confusing. Here's this person who you have looked up to and learned lessons of proper behavior from and she is doing something that you are told you are not suppose to do. You feel betrayed, lied to and mislead. Also, about your brother. He's probably not asking for things outside his age level. That's why it appears he gets anything he wants. I had a younger brother too. How aggravating they can be. I have a suggestion for you. What I think you should do is ask your mother if you could have a talk with her. Don't be confrontational. Be nice in your tone of voice. Let her know that you've discovered that it is possible that she may have used the technique of saying yes to something thinking that in a year it would go away. Ask her if this is what she was doing. Ask her when she truly does think it will be ok for you to do this. Explain to her this is not going to go away, but you realize what her fears may be with this. Ask her to help you to understand why she doesn't want you to do this now. Politely listen to her without interruption. Then renegotiate with her. Ask her what timeline she think is appropriate. If you don't like what you hear, don't get mad. Try for something in the middle of what you want and she wants. If she's adamant, don't argue. You have plenty of time to work on her. At least you will then know exactly where things stand. You can't overcome objections if you don't know what those objections are. If your real sweet and understanding about it and you show your mother that you are open to her viewpoint. Then, you will be coming across mature to her. You will be on your way to convincing her that you are mature enough to have your belly button pierced. It could be that she will at least give you the phone you want for this christmas. As aggravated as you are with her, she is also with you. This may be a reason she is not giving in to anything you want for christmans. There was a saying that my parents use to say all the time to me when I was trying to get things my way. It goes like this, "It is easier to attract flys to honey." I hope I have helped.
Namaste,
LULABELLE
(Rating: 5) Thanks alot.