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Well this young man, is all that I am looking for right now, I am so afraid to give him a chance because I had just jumped in a relationship last time and got hurt. So should I follow my heart or should I weight things out first? Please Help
You should do both. Follow your heart but maintain a clear head. Make sure that what you are feeling is not simply that chemical attraction called lust. This is something that we get all mixed up about. Most of the time people confuse lust for love. Then they find themselves in loveless relationship wondering what happened. They do not want to leave it because they have some memory of something they have confused with love and think that somewhere in this relationship it still exists. Others think that because they have made a commitment to someone that must be love. They did feel something in the beginning, right? Follow your heart, but take it slow. Get to know this person. Listen to his conversation about how he treats other people. Is he always running out on is friends? Is he loyal? Does he gossip about people a lot? Does he call people back when he is expected to? Does he respect other people's feelings? These are a few questions but I'm sure you can come up with many more. I'm just pointing out that you should simply take things slow. Become friends. Be observant. However he treats others is how he will treat you. And something I have learned from experience. People treat people closest to them worse than they do someone they hardly know. You would think that this would be in reverse, but no. You can lust for a lot of people, but love is much rarer.
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LULABELLE
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the advice