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Q: Why is love so confusing, hard to understand? I don't know if i like my friend or not... He was in one of my classes last year and I only really got to know him this year. My date for homecoming is a guy who I became friends with just this year, he's in three of my classes. While talking to him today, I casually asked him if he was doing anything after school today because I wanted to go over to his house to see his new dog. But then he told me, "listen, i want to go to homecoming with you, but i don't want to go out." Ouch. If i had wanted to go out with him, I would have been hurt. But I told him i had no intentions of going out with him. But now that i think about it, the day before, he seemed mad at me and was avoiding me for some reason, and i felt really depressed about it. It was only till i talked to him and he told he wasnt mad at me that I felt better... does that mean i like him? Because when he finally talked to me, my heart started beating really hard... does that mean i like him? Any advice will be appreciated :)
No, it does not mean that you like him. It means that you are friendly with him, and wanted to remain as such. You thought that you lost a friend at that moment, because you had slipped out something that sparked a fire. It happens, and you always miss a friend that you lost just as you would miss a love. You felt better because you realised that he was still going to be your friend, and he was not mad. It was like your best friend getting mad at you, and then you realise that she isn't at all.
Your heart was beating hard because you weere nervous at that point. Normally, when you execute something like that, your heart always beats harder, due to nervousness. Has happened to me even in non-person situations. Often during football games. It's just being nervous.
-Steven

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