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Q: Three girls. Used to be friends with them. Now I'm not (long story) and they're bitching about me behind my back. The part that makes it upsetting is that act really lovely to me when I'm around... and I'm a trusting kind of person. It took ages for me to believe it.
Would you please tell me what to do? Is it better to...
1)...confront them, and a)hold a grudge b)forgive them OR
2)...ignore them, and a) hold a grudge b)forgive them.
3)start a hate campaign.
Or if you have an alternative I'd be glad to hear it (but I'm not changing schools!)
First off, if you confront them, something darastic may happen. They may turn on you, and they will not be nice and all when you are around. And they may begin spreading words aound about you, lowering you. And hate campains are NOT the way to go, as nothing good ever comes out of it.
So, just ignore them. I would forgive them, because I believe all people deserve a second chance, and they are no exception. Don't ignore them to the point that it seems like you're mad at them, just don't pay attention to them. It'll seem a lot worse if they talk to you and you don't talk back.

Thankyou-
Your advice was extremely good ( very level headed) and I appreciate it loads.
UrsulaX

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