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Q: A few weekends ago a bunch of us went gown to Galveston to celebrate a friend getting a full ride scholarship to college. Well, we were, of course, drinking.

I went home with my best friend and he was driving. We both had been drinking. Well, I didn't think anything of it and we were doing fine until we got into our neighborhood and we got into an accident...with a pole. Yeah, you're thinking omg a pole what could have happened. Well, he was speeding and we ended up pretty messed up and my best friend car was totaled. I broke my jaw and are, and cracked my skull.

Well, needless so say, our parents were PISSED. We both aren't allowed to do anything until the end of time.

Looking back at what happened now, I realize how irresponsible we were. And not only could we have killed ourselves but others out of stupidity. We're both DONE with drinking. I can barely even get into a car with out freaking out now.

There is still a huge problem with our parents; they have lost trust in us. Complete trust. I even over heard my mom telling my best friend that she has lost all respect for him as well. Neither one of us has any idea how we can help regain our parents trust. I for one value it and cannot live knowing that they dont trust me. Any one have any ideas? 17/f
Trust is hard to earn, and easy to lose. Especially in something like this. However, you are having something coming up that will help you regain trust permanently. College.
Yet, that still leaves out now. All I can say is that to gain their trust, you need to get high grades, be totally honest with them about everything, and do things to help out as often as possible. Volunteer at a nursing home, maybe. Spend time with your grandmother. All nice comunity service things. Old people are really good to be around for trust. Get involved in the better clubs in school, like a rotary club if they have one. And keep those your morals in life.
Then, they will start trusting you more. If you get good grades in college, you're back with a semi-clean slate. It usually takes a year to get their trust completely back, but they will give a little bit back at a time.
And I'm really sorry about the crash. :(
-Steven

thanks...ughh this is gonna suck though :/

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I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
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