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Q: I'm not sure how to do a wow'kerpow introduction so I'll get right into this.

I have a friend who I sometimes can't stand. It's not that she's not nice to me or anything. She just has the way of manipulating things to get them her way, and to make everyone side with her, no matter what the situation. She could MURDER someone and somehow get everyone to sympathise with her. Or something.

Before I go into the next thing, here's something you should know: I'm incredibly jealous of her. I'm jealous of the fact that she can manipulate people and they don't see what's going wrong. She's also really pretty and really clever and I could stomach that before because it wasn't my whole life, but here's the next part.

Ever since I met her, she's been taking bits of ME and making them better, but making it herself. For example, I get a haircut, and so she gets one exactly like it, but somehow pulls it off better. I say I like some bands and people say it's wierd or something. She says she likes the same bands and HEY! ISN'T SHE THE COOLEST?

So, my friend, who this girl Im jealous of had an argument with has a new bunch of friends outside of school. I met them and they are really lovely, and I have a crush on one of them.

I told Brainy + Clever about it and she said he sounded cool and asked me how someone awful like my other friend managed to meet someone like that. So anyway, I'm going out with them this Saturday, and told her so because she asked me if I was busy.

Suddenly, today, she's best friends with the girl she had an argument with and I can already feel myself getting pushed out of the picture, because I KNOW she'll manipulate this other girl to get what she wants - the GUYS.

I'm just so frustrated because I thought this could be the one thing that I had that she couldn't have. But she's gone and twisted it again and now it's hers.

How can I stop feeling so JEALOUS of her and stop feeling like she's taken my whole LIFE? How can I not feel so worthless and think that I can't be myself anymore because all she'll do is take that and turn it into something bigger and better and make it a characteristic about herself?

Don't tell me to find new friends, or talk to them, because I tried that and it didnt work. Plus, she'd only befriend my new friends and make them like her better anyway.

Sorry for the long question, answers are much appreciated.

To end jealousy, you need to start being happy for her. Here's what I mean. You are jealous because of a talent she has. Well, you know that you don't have that talent and you know that what you do will be mimicked by her. So, instead of trying to fight it, join it. Be happy that she has the ability to adapt, and happy that she is getting along really well.
And know that because of her, everything YOU do is immediately considered good. Like the bands. When you liked it, it was considered "Uncool". Now that she like it, it is considered "Cool". So, if you say you like certain bands, they cannot say the it is "Uncool", for that would contradict her. And not only that, but you can say that you like them when they were "Uncool", and show proof from CD's and dates of purchace and junk.
One thing that I want you to remember before I end this. This girl is nothing. Absolutely nothing. She is only what you put into her. She has no personality whatsoever, as her personality comes from what you give her. You do. And who is going to succeed in life? One who leads, or the one who follows and copies?
Think about it.
-Steven

Rating: 5

Concise, intelligent and not sugar coated. Thank you.

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Hello! My name is Steven, and I am a mentor. Yes, that does mean that I help other people. I have helped over 1000 people to date, and have helped some individuals for over 1/2 a year. The miracle of my life occurred 17 years ago. I say miracle only because 1/4 babies survive to be born.
I am the first born of 2 children, and I am also the black sheep. I listen to Classical Music, so you can call me a weirdo. :P. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so take no offense if my answers never seem to end.
In school, I get As and Bs. More Bs really. I play trombone, and was the section leader of the trombones at my school. This year, I am the captain of the entire brass section. I am an Eagle Scout, so I guess that says I'm persistant? You make the call. I am a 3 time varsity letter winner, looking for a 4th next winter. I also participate in the musical, where I am a Bass 2. :)
I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
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-Steven