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Q: I just started my Sophmore year of highschool. From the begining of Freshman year 'til now, I've lost MANY friends for stupid reasons. Mainly because I got into a fight with one girl that I was best friends with and then she got all of her friends to hate me too. Which was about 15 people. How nice right?


Anyway, I have a reputation of being a bitch. Because.. Well, I CAN be. But I'm really not when you get to know me.



I really want to try to change my reputation on being a bitch, I want to show people that I AM a good person and attempt to make new friends. But I really need help on changing my reputation. Any ideas?
I think I can help due to the sheer fact that I have 2 people within this body, and one is a bitch.
The way to change is sort of simple, sort of not. What you need to do is first find out what a bitch is. They comlain about stuff that cannot be changed, they constantly get into fights, and typically cause a lot of drama. Then, you just change it. Before you go and lecture a person, ask yourself whether it is right or not, will it make you seem like a bitch? It will make quite a commotion internally, but you will stop yourself.
Do this with most of your life. It will be hard, not doubt, but it will help.
What I have learned is that good years and bad years alternate. Freshman Year was your bad year, you will have a good year this year. Just be nice to everybody, and friends will just naturally come. Nice long talks with people work miracles, if you don't get into any fights. :)
-Steven

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I am the first born of 2 children, and I am also the black sheep. I listen to Classical Music, so you can call me a weirdo. :P. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so take no offense if my answers never seem to end.
In school, I get As and Bs. More Bs really. I play trombone, and was the section leader of the trombones at my school. This year, I am the captain of the entire brass section. I am an Eagle Scout, so I guess that says I'm persistant? You make the call. I am a 3 time varsity letter winner, looking for a 4th next winter. I also participate in the musical, where I am a Bass 2. :)
I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
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-Steven

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