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Q: okay so...i totally have this thing going with this amazzzinggg guy. i really love him. like i really do. this isnt just like one of those 2 week things and then your over him. i really love him. and idk it just seems its so much easier to talk to him on the computer. but i HATE THAT. i want to beable to talk to him in REAL LIFE...it really annoys me how i get like that. i mean i dont like freak out or anything...its just like so much easier on the computer. so thats why im happy schools coming soon and i get to talk to him. any good tips to calm down...or good lines to say? anything ill rate high. thanks a bunch! love, -me
I know what you are talking about. The reason why it is so much easier to talk on the computer is that you have so much more at your disposal. You have the internet, which is larger than the largest library ever. Also, you can stall more when you are asked a question or given something to talk about. Lastly, you don't have to see his expressions.
The way to overcome all of this is to just go in cooly, and just let it naturally come. Try to act relaxed so that you appear this way to him. And sooner or later, you are what you make yourself out to be. That's why lies are so powerful for good and evil. It can help you in life if you lie to yourself. Only on certain things. Like saying "I am calm" to yourself repeatedly does just that.
-Steven

thanks hun that helpes a bunch.

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