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I made out with my boyfriend last night and my older brother walked in on us (we were in my room with the door locked but my bro just has to stick a penny in the door too twist it.. if you know how those work yeah)... He came in and got really really pissed and started yelling at my bf (which made him leave), My brother had me in tears, he acted like he was my parents he was yelling at me and everything... I mean all we were doing was making out just sitting there not even laying down or anything. Im 14 and hes 17 but he was sooooooo mean and he told my parents so now im grounded for a frigin MONTH!!! I was so pissed at my brother and he said he didnt want me too turn into a slut (wth all we did was makeout) So this morning he was in the living room and he told me my bf called and my bro told him he wasnt allowed to call my house anymore... WHY IS he taking this so out of proportion.. I started crying again so i told him i hated him and that i wished he would die and burn in hell... :( That got me grounded for even longer but i didnt mean it :( Ive tried apologizing and he wont listen too me. Does anybody know how i could apologize too him and handle this whole situation all together because if not i could lose my BF.. because hes not allowed over here and my parents say i cant see him :(.

Heh... Sorry to say this, but I know EXATLY how your brother feels. I'm an older brother too. I know that if I see my sister making out with a dude, I'd have to raise hell! I dunno. I think this is an older brother thing. My friend does it too. I positive that your brother is angry at you because he saw you making out. Not laying down doesn't matter.
You see, I'm sure you're brother loves you very much. (you probably hurt him when you said that you hated him and wished that he would burn in hell... I would feel very bad if my sister were to say that...) You have to understand, he was with you since the day you were born. He remembers you when you were in infant, (I'm pretty sure... 3 years is kinda close) You both grew up together. Now he's seeing you making out... That's a bad transition. It's very hard for us older brothers to get over the vision of our little sisters making out with boys. Its probably burned into his head... It's pretty hard to explain. But I'm sure that this is how your brother feels. He feels that he should always protect his sister from all things sexual, or anything close. Plese understand.

As apologizing... I think you should give him time to cool off. (Maybe 2 weeks... maybe even 3. This is big) Then once he's cooled down, give him a big hug (ugh... sounds too mushy for me!) and say that you are deeply sorry for saying "blah blah blah" and that you didn't mean it. Then give him some chocolate. (I dunno, it might make him feel better!)

Also, show him this answer and ask him if what I said is true. THEN rate me and tell me what he thinks. I really hope I helped. And please understand that his reaction is a normal, older brother thing.

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