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Hey, I’m usually the one giving advice. I don’t need advice. I just have a question and I want to know your opinion. This question is for deep thinkers. Long answers are encouraged as well as comical ones.
I’ve seen quite a lot of “love” questions, asked by adolescences. What would you call "true love"? Many people have been saying “I have a boyfriend and I REALY love him” and “she said that he loves me” or things like that. I’ve seen these questions being asked by 13 year olds! Teens DO have deep affections for people, but I really don’t think that they are capable of TRUE love. How can there be love if teen relationships only last 2 months or even 2 years! 2 years is quite long for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but shouldn’t love last a LIFETIME? I agree that teens think that they are in love (I’ve been there) but I wouldn’t call that love. I would call it more like, “deep affection”. After all, if love between teens is really “love” then they shouldn’t break up, right? I think that teens are too young and “unexposed” to have TRUE LOVE. Even adults. They mistakenly call their relationships “love”. If it was actually love, then shouldn’t there be less or no divorces?
I think that yes, you are in correct in stating that many teens/ young adults mistake the first dizzy rush of affectionate feelings for someone as 'true love.' Nearly everyone will have that first special someone (usually someone you blew it spectacularly with) who's attentions were worth more than gold to us- a puppy dog obsession. That said, I think that once people become truly self-aware and self-possessed they can experience love at any age. However I truly believe that love can whither in the same way it can grow. As you said, even adults who claim to be 'in love' may break up which hints that maybe they are putting the wrong term to their feelings. I feel that a teenage relationship can remain forever sweet because it end in love- you part because your life demands it, but you do not forget. People always claim that you 'never forget your first' and I think that is certainly true. But I also think that once a person is in love, if they fail to work hard at it, or give the relationship the time it needs, then love can slowly dissolve. i think that the majority of people who fall in love truly mean it, but love doesnt necessarily last forever (unfortunately).
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Thank you. Very well said. You're explination makes sense.
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