Allow me to introduce myself, I am the Knight Owl. Or, as my friends know me, Sean. I can't guarantee that I can solve your problems. But the majority of the people I know seem to come to me for advice. I listen to people very well, and I assess. Sometimes I can offer suggestions, other times there are no suggestions. But I promise to try my best. Remember, everyone has problems, I know I do. All you need to do is ask. I invite you, to talk to me on AIM or Yahoo, if you want to ask me privately for some advice.
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Okay...this is gonna be kinda long, but i really really need help. There's this guy I know, Alan...and he moved here from Utah, and I had a crush on him when i first met him, we go to the same church. well, i was real close to telling him, but one of my BEST friends took him. Then dumped him 8 months later. my mom invited him and his sister to come with us to Great America, a few months later. well, i finally got the guts and told him, and he told me he didn't really really like my friend like he does me. and we held hands on the ride home, and I'm only 13, and our religion says we arn't allowd to have a relationship until we're 16. and so i was really nvervous, esp. since his little sis (10 y/o) was sitting right next to us. It's been a year, and he keeps trying to hold my hand and kiss me an stuff, and i really don't think it's appropriate, and I've told him time and time again, that i think it's not right, and that we should wait a few years. well, he won't stop, and now we're in highschool. I'm really uncomferatable around him, esp. when we're alone. How do i get it through his head, i've tried just ignoring him, and i've tried talking to him. I dont' know what to do. His family moves around a lot, and i really don't want to let him down, cuz i know his past, it's been really rough for him. what do i do, I don't know how long he'll be living here. so I dont' know if I should just let him go, and tell him i don't like him, or just to put up with it until he moves again.
PLEASE HELP, i Rate really really High!
Signed,
Confused and stressed (link)
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Well, you have to ask yourself, how important is religion? I know that in some christian sects or denominations, everything is a sin, dancing, movies, music, holidays, and that is just plain ridiculous. But in the end it all comes down to one's personal beliefs. What I believe may not be right for someone else. You say your religion discourages dating before 16, which is unnatural, but okay. You say you like him, which IS natural. Its basic instinct, and a part of the human development to become attracted to a potential mate. I'm not out to shatter anyone's religion, I'm just trying to tell you that religion does not have ALL the answers. 99 times out of 100, if you ask God for guidance you won't get a reply, this is what I've experienced, however its all faith. So in the matter of how you should deal with it, ask yourself, how strong is your faith, and how important is your religion to you? If you find that your faith is more important than this guy that you have a crush on then tell him flat out, no, you are sworn to uphold your values that are issued by your church. However, if you do some soul searching, and find that your religion just doesn't make sense, then enjoy your new boyfriend. I'm sorry if I shook your religious pillar, but sometimes it has to be done. And I hope to my gods, that I helped you with your issues regarding this boy, and your God.
-The Knight Owl
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Thank you...A lot, you really did help.
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