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Well, I'm not exactly sure how to put this, because I doubt this question has been asked on here before. I have this boyfriend, and its a long distance relationship, I live in Oklahoma, and he lives in New York,I've known him for more than a year, and we met online, yes, this sounds unbelievably stupid of me, but trust me, I am not a girl who falls for a guy quickly. So, I've met his parents over the phone, seen his family on web camera, and hes sent lots of pictures. So, after we fell in love, now, to give some background, I've never felt this much in love before, I waited a year to start talking about personal things. We started getting, well, really really close. You know, we started to talk about sex, and whether we were virgins or not, and then, it got farther. It took me a while to get into it, but we started to talk a little dirty over the phone, I felt it was wrong because I'm only 15, but I went through with it because my other 4 sisters had been like this with guys at a young age. Not that I wanted to be like them, the main reason was I really loved him, and it truly felt right. But, lets just say that it went farther, farther than any of my sisters have went on the phone, I know its pathetic to freak out about going far on a phone with a guy, but heres the point. I am thinking that my family knows, which is really bad. My sister had made some rude comment mentioning it, and my mom was talking to me about it. She was saying that it one thing to be talking nasty things on the phone, but any farther than that is to the point where any of me or my sisters should not ever be able to talk that guy again. I love my boyfriend so much, I cry and get horrible chills at night, thinking hes going to be taken away from me, so I made a decision to stop talking this way on the phone. But, I have 2 questions.

1-Do you think people suspect or know?

2- Do you think doing this with him was wrong? And can anyone give me some advice what to do?

Also, I've already told myself that I won't go down the path of having sex at 15, I truly think that this was a better way to express our hormones, and if we met, we would continue expressing it this way until we were old enough. Please make note of that.


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~*Carissa*~

For one, I think that your family knows about your distinct relashinoship, which may be bad. If they are asking you all of these direct questions which is a total match to your conversations and what's going on, then you've got to believe they have a clue about what you're doing. If you don't feel completely comfortable about talking dirty on the phone to him then just don't. Tell him that you don't feel comfortable doing it. If he cares about your feelings, then he will stop so that you can feel comfortable in your relashionship. If you know that you are going to regret what you are about to do then just don't do it. I'm not saying that online and phone relashionships are good, but if you guys know almost everything about eachother and feel right doing it, then yeah, I guess it's ok. I hope I helped, and if you have anymore questions, send me a message in my inbox.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks, my boyfriend respects my decision, but we just wish that wouldn't have to be the case.
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