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ok im confused at school i get made fun of alot because im smart. well normally i just bottle it up and dont do anything because im weak but what i have noticed is sometimes i will get so pissed off that if anyone who hasnt even done anything to me so much as slightly bothers me i blow up at them. i guess i just want to know how can i channel my anger more so at the ppl who piss me off because i hate blowin up at my friends but i cant blow up at the ppl that make fun of me cause im weak as shit and im just confused i dont know wut to do can someone please help me..

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If students are being assaulted at school, and the school system is aware of it and does nothing, the parents need to take action. If the school system blows off the parents, then it's time to take legal action. Usually the threat of legal action will be enough, especially if heavy hitters are involved (like the ACLU). I don't care how good the test scores are, if students are being assaulted as part of their school day the school system is negligent. What you described happening to that girl isn't harassment, it's assault. I don't have enough details on what's happening to you, but I'm guessing it's assault as well.

If your parents are dismissive, try talking to other kids who are targets. Hopefully someone's parent will be brave enough to speak up for you. If not, perhaps if several of you carry around little recorders and then anonymously send the tapes to both the school board and a local paper, something will get done when they realize your not just being melodramatic.

The best survival tactic I can give is to move in groups.
* When the bully comes up and starts picking on one of you, allow that person to shrink back into the group and try to have two people replace him/her in front of the bully. It will force the bully to change targets. Keep this up, that way no one gets the full force of the attack, and hopefully it will delay or reduce the number of punches thrown.
* Don't be silent. Everyone in the group can file a complaint every single time an incident occurs. Encourage your friends to keep a journal of incidences too. If nothing else, after you graduate, you all turn in your notebooks as testimony that something needs to be done to shape up that school.

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with the exception of rainbowcherrie, who had such good advice on handling anger that I will skip advising you on that, I don't think the previous answers were horribly helpful, so I'm gonna give it a go.

Are you being teased only with words, or is there any physical contact going on? For instance, is someone always bumping you into the wall, pinching you, taking your pencils and throwing them in the street, sending spitballs at you, etc. If there is any sort of physical contact going on, you need to talk to an authority figure and see what they can do about it. You don't have to be beaten to a pulp before they should do something.

I know that "just words" is a bit dismissive. Words are powerful, and can hurt. If you are not in danger of being punched, expand your vocabulary enough to insult them back without them knowing what you said, or practice witty comebacks to their usual insults. If you are in danger of being punched, don't egg them on, but talk to an authority figure about what can be done to insure your safety at school.

You may have better luck if you talk to your parents first, and have them be the ones who talk to the authorities at school.

Also, it may be helpful to know that once you get through school and get off to college and/or work, things will be very different. People with a purpose (like building a plane, or balancing ledgers, or making artwork) interact civilly with each other because they have that common goal and realize that they need to work together.

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(Rating: 5) yes there is physical contact and dont you think i have told ppl i know this girl that was sexually harassed by this kid he touched her forced her to kiss her and such and our school system did shit about now dont get me wrong we have one of the best school systems in the U.S it is just that they have a lack of care besides the kids that make fun of me if it wasnt for summer school then thy would stil be in 4th grade and im serious even my teachers say monkeys are smarter than some ppl in my class litraly of course all my teachers expect great things of me bcause of how advanced i am in everthing but w/e i have already tried all that and srry for blabbing on and srry for swearing
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