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Sporkster here, and I've got a question for you lovely people here on Advicenators:
I've got this "friend" of mine who's been rather...hard to get along with lately. You know who you are, "friend." Anyway, in Study Hall one day she just errupted like Mt. Vesuvius. I mean, over something so petty she just blew it. My boyfriend had moved to another table to take a quiz and she came over to sit with me. There's this stupid rule my SH teacher came up with stating that only two people can sit at one table until ten minutes prior to the bell rings. My boyfriend finished and came back over, and right before I was going to tell him to wait a minute so I could finish talking to her she just..."*slams book together, packs up bookbag, moves* Fine, I see who's more important, I'll just move! *mutters incoherently*" I just was...shocked. She didn't even give me a chance to tell him that I needed to finish talking to her. Anyway, she's been really sore over this for the past week or two. I mean, she doesn't sit with my boyfriend, me, and our friend anymore. She never talks directly to me, however, she has this obsession with talking ABOUT me. She's lied about my boyfriend and me, giving people the impression that I'm some sort of slut. This is really starting to annoy me. Not the fact that she's talking about me, but that she's lying about me. I really do wish she wouldn't be so sensitive and...paranoid. Our friendship has been an ongoing battle ever since my boyfriend and I have been going out. I don't really want our best-friend friendship back, I just want to come to terms with her and "agree to disagree", if you will. But she won't even compromise with that! I've tried everything you could possibly think of and then some, but she doesn't want to listen to a word I say to her. Can anyone offer some sort of ideas for getting her to just listen to me for five minutes to sort things out? Any input would be appreciated, though I am looking for good, well thought-out, helpful answers. Thank you in advance for every good answer. (link)
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If it's hard to get her to listen to you at school, maybe you need to call her up on the phone to talk.
It sounds like she's a little jealous of the time you're spending with your boyfriend. Or perhaps she's jealous that you have a boyfriend. Or maybe you've been leaving her out and/or ignoring her without even realizing it, and she's hurt by that. (just possibilities I'm throwing out there...)
I guess the only other thing I have to say is don't be too quick to give up on this friendship. If you guys were best friends, it's pretty drastic to want to drop her as a friend completely, though I understand that you may not be as likely to want to turn to her all the time with how you say she's been acting.
One idea... do something outside of school with her- have a girl's day some weekend- watch chick flicks, or go shopping, or paint each other's nails- something you wouldn't do with your boyfriend, so he won't feel left out, but something to rekindle some of your friendship and give you both a chance to talk through your problems.
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