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My boyfriend and I have been together for two and half years, and we are both eighteen. We are both very different from one another. I'm asian, I grew up with strict parents, I don't party much, or go out much. I like to do things around the house to keep me busy, like reading and writing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not boring and I know how to have fun, and I'm allowed to do anything that I want. Whenever I do go out, I'm pretty much the life of the party. Him, on the other hand, he is black, his parents were never really strict on him growing up.. he parties a lot and likes to go out all the time. He gets mad, or annoyed at me because I'm not the type to party and go all out. I get mad and annoyed at him when he parties too much. We both love each other, but it seems like that is what we mostly argue about nowadays. I'm not going to change my ways to satisfy him, and he isn't going to either. We talk about it, but even still, nothings going to change. How can I go about if an argument starts again? It just annoys me when he says to me that I don't know how to have fun, or that I'm boring. We both just have different definitions on the word fun. Any advice will be nice. Thanks.
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Neither of you should have to change who you are to please the other.
However, subtle compromises might be necessary to make your relationship work.
At least, even if no change is made regarding behavior, you both need to accept the other for who he/she is. A big part of love is acceptance- taking the good with the bad.
Now, I know that sounds really preachy... and I'm sorry. But I do mean it all sincerely.
Perhaps if you find you're arguing more than having fun together, it's a sign that the relationship is fading. Not all relationships will last forever- I know you said you're in love, but sometimes there are bigger things.
I guess if I were you, I'd let him go party on his own when I didn't feel like going out. I'd try to explain to him and ask him to accept that I need my "me" time, my quiet time at home.
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