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Ok i always have a tough time talking to guyz i like.. i always get so shy and locked up... and the thing is i get all shaky and nervas. It's so emaressing! I no they probably feel the same way but it seems so hard... what should i do?

I'm sorry it took me so long to answer.

Talking to someone you have a crush on is hard, and while it does get easier, for some people (like me) it takes an awful lot of tries.

Immediately, you can try simple calming exercises - like taking a deep breath right before you walk up, or thinking about something calming - like the beach, or your favorite flower, or your backyard when you were little. I find that repeating mantras (commonly suggested for relaxation) doesn't work when I want to speak, because I have a tendency to say the relaxation mantra rather than what I wanted to say.

Over the long term, you can practice the things you can imagine saying to them. Start by rehearsing it in your head, picturing their face. If you have any privacy at all, turn up the radio, pretend he's standing right in front of you, stand the way you want to stand, and say what you want to say out-loud. Start with the simple stuff, like saying hi. You'll know your doing a good job pretending if you start getting nervous. :)

There are also methods for getting them to start the conversation - making eye contact, smiling, and then dropping your eyes and blushing is a classical "I'm interesting but shy" move. Some guys may find it cute and attractive that your really shy - especially if you can get used to them and have an interesting conversation once you relax.

If the guy is talkative, ask him about himself, or something he loves. He'll get on a roll, and you'll be able to get away with smiles, nods, and a few wow's or "that's really neat"'s.

Hope some of this helps. :) Good Luck!

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(Rating: 5) omg THANK YOU!!! lol that really REALLY helps loads!! lol :D
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