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My boyfriend and I have been dating since I was in eighth. He is currently a senior and I'm a junior. I haven't made a decision as to where I'd like to go to college yet because I don't want to be far from my boyfriend. Yes, I know I am young but my boyfriend and I wanted to eventually get married and live together when we both got out of highschool. My question is this: Do you think it's the wrong thing to do choosing to go to the same college or one near the college your boyfriend is going to, just to be near to him? I know people that would think it's a stupid idea, but I want to be with my boyfriend. We've talked about it alot and I'm not sure what I'm going to do! I was even thinking about this back when I first started dating him 4 years ago. These four years have gone by fast and I figured I'd have a plan in place by now. I just need help. I don't know where I should go! Also, I don't even know what I want to do for a living, so I was going to see if there was anything at the colleges that he chose. Does that seem like the wrong thing to do? PLEASE HELP! I'm so lost and confused.


I'm going to make a departure from my usually rational advice and tell you to go for it. :)

It's totally normal to not have a clue what you want to do. If your boyfriend is going to a University, it should have plenty of options available for you. You can enter as "undecided", and make up your mind later.

If your boyfriend is going to "Party U." on a sports scholarship and the school's only programs are football and underwater basket weaving, then you probably don't want to go there. :)

If you don't know what you want to go for, picking any reasonably good college for the first two years should be fine. When you decide what you want to do, you can decide if you will need to change schools.

I usually tell people not to make big decisions like this based on teenage relationships, but one of the very few things I regret in life is doing the "right and rational" thing and going to the "good school" rather than following my heart when I got out of high school.

Good Luck, in your choice of schools and your life. :)

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(Rating: 5) Thanks! That was great advice!
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