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Everytime i talk on the phine with my boyfriend and we discuss sexual stuff, like maybe taking our relationship to the next step, i start to shake and i shake like i'm really cold, but i'm not..and even hours afterwards i keep shaking. What's going on?

Shaking is definitely a fear reaction. You don't say you feel nervous, and your shaking goes on for quite a while. I'm definitely not a professional, but I think something is up here. If you have access to a psychologist or councilor, I suggest talking to one. If not, find someone you can trust with your fears and secrets - someone who wasn't around when you were a baby or kid - and talk to them about it. Let yourself ramble on.

Try some experiments - does this happen whenever you talk about sex with anyone? Does it only happen when you talk about certain particular parts of sexual interaction? Does it only happen on the phone, or do you start to shake when you talk about it in person? What about when your write about it?

I agree with previous advisors that you should not go "to the next step" until you've at least figured out the cause of the shaking.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks..but I don't think it's that serious.
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