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In your opinion, is 13 years old too young to be fingered? If you really can't get any STDs then what's the harm?

Honestly, age all by itself is a bad thing to look at. I lost my virginity at 12, and looking back on it, I don't regret it, but I also don't recommend it. I don't think it's ok for a 13 year old to be in a romantic or sexual relationship with a 16 year old, or a 10 year old, or anyone older or younger than that.

If there are two 13 year olds who are comfortable with their bodies, and want to explore them a little more, there's nothing inherently wrong with that - even if that exploration involves putting pointy body parts in bodily orifices.

There are health issues - for both parties. Some STDs - herpes for instance - are spread through skin to skin contact. As in, Person A has genital herpes, scratches themselves the day before the sores become visible, then touches Person B's genitals before washing their hands. Person B may contract herpes. Scratches on mucus membranes tend to be a bit uncomfortable, and are more likely to get infected then scratches on exposed skin.

There are also social issues involved. Parents in the USA almost universally think 13 is too young for their children to do anything sexual - even though most of them got their first kisses around that time. If having rumors spread about you might be an issue, you might want to talk about that first. You may also want to consider if you might have to lie to your parents, or how much trouble you could get into. Honestly, at 13 I was more concerned about the rumors, but it is something to consider, however briefly. :)

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