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okay theres this guy i like and he likes me.. this saturday night... we're supposed to do "something". i no what it is because we talked about it. Well... to get me out of the house.. he's gonna say that we're going out to eat then to the movies. I think we still might go to the movies. im not sure yet. But then all weekend we're hanging out. I just have to let him know what time i have to work.
Well this morning.. he asked me if i was seriously ready for it.. i told him i am. i just keeep getting nervous when we talk about it. Like yesterday... my older sister rode with us.. i knew he wanted to talk bout it becuase i saw the look on his face.. so i made her ride the bus today.. and we did talk bout it. Mostly the whole way to school. Should i go through with it? I mean we both want to but we're both scared too. Because he's 18 and im 15! and as u know he can get introuble for it. but i dont want him to get introuble. We both want to go through it.. i definately want to. I never did n e thing with a guy b4. i knew him for 9 years so its not like im gonna do it with a complete stranger....
please let me know....

Maybe... maybe not....

Are you trying to tell us that the two of you are thinking about having sex this weekend, but your nervous? It's normal to be nervous before trying anything new.

If so, here's a checklist.
1. can you discuss sex with him - directly, using the words "sex", "pregnancy", and "disease"? You seemed to have issues using the word "sex" here.
2. what method of birth control are you using? do you both know how to use it? what it's failure rate is? If you get pregnant, what will you do?
3. will this be a regular activity, or is this a one shot deal?
4. how much lying will this involve? are you comfortable with lying? will you have to lie to your parents? your friends? his parents and friends? who can you you talk to it about? You both really need to have at least one other person you can talk to about the situation (in addition to being able to talk to one another).
5. Are both of you virgins? If not, has he been tested for STDs?
6. Will you be able to get the proper medical care? After you have sex, you need to start getting annual "well woman" exams, especially a pap smear.

Given the tone of your post, I'm going to suggest that you not have sex with him this weekend. Go ahead and go out with him, even make out with him. If the two of you have already been touching each other inside and outside of your clothing and you feel an intense need to do "more" with each other, try using your hands to get each other off. Have plenty of tissue up to clean up with. If you've already done that and still want to do more, try oral sex. Flavored condoms are not that hard to find, or that expensive. He can cut one up the length to make a dental dam for performing oral sex on you.

Please note that depending on the laws, he can still get in trouble for doing these things. I don't know what state your in, what the age of consent is there, or what the details of the law are. Some states have a "min age gap". http://ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm has the min ages for many countries and all the US states.

Don't rush these things, don't let anyone else rush you. Make sure that he knows that it's ok for you changing your mind at the last min, even if you've agreed already to do a certain thing. You'll be a little nervous your first time, but it should "feel right" enough where you don't get to the point of asking a forum on the internet if it's "ok".

If in doubt, wait.

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(Rating: 5) WOW thats alot!! i keep thinking about it and i know he does too. We're both ready to do it!
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