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Hey everyone! My name is Jessi and I'm 15/f/IL. I've always been excellent at giving advice...or so I've been told by my friends. So you can ask me anything and everything...although I have a rather special talent for makeup emergencies (considering my mom sells it) and for dealing with affairs of the heart. (Some of my friends automatically come to me for boy problems.)And, without further ado...my advice column!
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k i FINALLY met a guy, after like a year of being totally single...hes gorgeous, plays football, around my age, and seems like a pretty kool person.. well he started trying to talk to me like last week..but then i went to tahoe for a week and he kept in touch with me EVERYDAY..he called me alot n we talked alot..then i came back yesterday and he met up with me and we hung out for like 5 hours.. from this hang out, we found out that we are TOTALLLL opposites..he is tha biggest PARTY guy i know..he smokes n drinks alllll the time..n he KNOWs that i think its the biggest turn off, yet he talks about it n stuff. and right when i first saw him at the spot we were suppose to meet, he was sitting down, smoking a cigg, and was like "hey wassup..lemme juss finish this stoge." so i waited there for like 2 minutes, just standing there waiting for him to finish his stupid cigg...after that we walked around n talked...we got to know eachother really well...but we are, again, TOTALL opposites..he said that im different then any other girl hes ever met cause all of them drink and smoke and are like stupid..he said im the first girl that hes ever had a real good convo with..we are really attracted to eachother physically..and im really into him, like even tho we are opposites i really wanna still try and make this work..and we were talking about how different we were, then he was like..well u know whut they say, opposites attract...aCouple my friends were around and i introduced them to him..and i walked off cause my phone rang, and they told me that they asked him if he liked me and he kinda didnt answer it fully, but he basically said that im totally different and im cute, and smarter than any other girlz hes met, but im kinda uptight..he told them that we are both shy right now..he said that he doesnt think id be able to handle his friends becaues they are total partiers..then like when we were about to like go home for the night..his goodbye SUCKED. like his friend called at the same time we were both leaving, and he answered it, and then he turned to me and said something like who should call who? then i was like u can call me onli if u want to..then he was like okay ill call u after football practice..then that was like it...its weird cause hes totally opposite from me...but i wanna try it out..the thing is, im really scared that hes not gunna call me again cause hes not into the fact that we are so opposite...i dunno im kinda down..whut do u guyz think?? [so sorry its long]
thanks!!!!
Personally I think there is NOTHING wrong with the whole "total opposites" thing. I mean, I certainly would NOT want to hang out with someone exactly like me all day. That would be so boring! I want some variety, you know?
But about the cigarettes and drinking and partying...maybe, if you really like this guy and start going out with him, you can be a good example for him. I wouldn't preach about not smoking and drinking, that would just lead to fights. But maybe he will see how smart you are and how cool you are, and how you don't have to smoke and drink to be cool. I don't want to make you feel obligated to be this guy's mentor and good example, however. So don't feel obligated AT ALL.
Also, if you do start dating him, don't let yourself get drawn into his crowd and start smoking and drinking just because they do. Respect your mind and your body, and go by your own rules. You can be friends with his friends, but you don't have to be exactly LIKE his friends. And if he thinks you're being uptight...oh well. You're just being you, and that's all that you can do. Don't try to please him by smoking and drinking.
Oh, and one more thing: make sure you aren't going out with him JUST because he is attractive. Look for other things, like his compassion, politeness, his sense of humor or how he treats you.
Just do what's right by you. Everything will be okay if you do.
(Rating: 5) wow..thanks so much..i appreciate every little thing you said and im going to go by what youre telling me , which is basically just being me and going along with it..if it works then it works, if it doesnt, it doesnt..thanks ALOT!