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Hey everyone! My name is Jessi and I'm 15/f/IL. I've always been excellent at giving advice...or so I've been told by my friends. So you can ask me anything and everything...although I have a rather special talent for makeup emergencies (considering my mom sells it) and for dealing with affairs of the heart. (Some of my friends automatically come to me for boy problems.)And, without further ado...my advice column!
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OK so theres this new boy at school and like i talked to him before i talked to him at school online... and hes really nice n stuff and last nite we had our first football game! and then afterwards there was this party at my friends house so i invited him to come... he did and we had soo much fun, but i think he likes my friend Michelle, like followed her around n stuff... and like talked to her the most but hes just sooo great and perfect like he got up and danced in a cirle and he doesnt even like know ne one.. like hes the new kid! i love his confidence and how he acts and i dunnno but then my x boyfreind was there and he was like sorta mad at me for like being with the new kid... and my x is like my best friend... but he broke up with me! but i really really like the new kid a lot! so how do u think i should deal with this?
First I would say that you have to remember that you cannot please everybody.
Of course, you don't want to go and hurt your ex on purpose, but if you're truly friends with him and you are both over each other, there should be nothing holding you back from asking out this "new kid".
I am going to quote a very good friend of mine: "If you like someone you should just get it over with and ask them out. Then, if they say yes, great! But if they say no, it's okay, you know that they're not interested and you can just forget about it and move on."
Sometimes it isn't easy to move on just like that, it isn't always that simple. But you can see where you and this new boy stand. If he does say no, maybe you should really be yourself around him and open up. Maybe then he'll be attracted to you because he knows you better.
I also know it's not always easy to just ask someone out like that, because you're afraid of rejection. It's normal, everyone is. But I told my guy friend that I really liked him, you know, that way, and he didn't like me that way back. But we are still friends and talk all the time, and there isn't even that awkwardness that I thought there might be. Getting it over with is just the way to go.
So ask out this new boy, and don't worry about your ex. It'll be okay, as long as you do what's right by you.
(Rating: 5) thanks a lot ur advice is gooda and it seems like u care!! but i dunno....