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Hey everyone! My name is Jessi and I'm 15/f/IL. I've always been excellent at giving advice...or so I've been told by my friends. So you can ask me anything and everything...although I have a rather special talent for makeup emergencies (considering my mom sells it) and for dealing with affairs of the heart. (Some of my friends automatically come to me for boy problems.)And, without further ado...my advice column!
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Ok, over the past few weeks a lot has been going on. I'm fixing to make some big transactions and I'm going to have to leave a lot of my close friends behined to move to a different location. Something that's always been very hard for me, is dealing with CHANGE. I know it's like that for a lot of people, nobody really likes change yeah yeah. But I always get extremely depressed when I have to change things in big ways, especially if I love the way my life is going. I just feel like everything is going to fall apart. So, I guess what my question is, is has anyone ever had a hard time with change, and overcame it.. if yes, then how so.. I mean if there even is an awnser.
Thanks.
There have been PLENTY of changes in my life, and I just tried to embrace them. See them as an adventure.
I moved in the second grade, and even though that was a long time ago, I remember very clearly being so nervous about not making any friends because I'm really shy. But a girl named Sarah came right up to me and asked if I wanted to play with her and her friend. I have been best friends ever since with Sarah, almost 8 years, and we haven't even had any classes together since then. So in your move to a new school, you're just going to have to be yourself. I'm sure there will be plenty of people willing to hang out with "the new kid."
But back to change. Change can be really hard...and what I do nowadays if I'm feeling overwhelmed or scared or stressed, and like I don't think I can get through it alone, I ask God for help. I ask him to help me pull through this, because later in life you will be able to look back on this big change and say, yeah, I was really strong then.
So my advice is to just embrace the change. You can make even more friends, get a new room that you can redecorate (fun!). And don't forget you have family to lean on during this time, too. They're going to be affected by the change as well, so they will know exactly how you feel. You're never alone in situations like this. So just remember: change can be good. In fact, it can be great. I got a best friend out of it!
(Rating: 5) that was awesome advice!