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Q: okayyy so, i already had my period this month. [august] started on the 15th, ended the 18th.. but yesterday the 31st i started again.. is something wrong here?????? i wasn't suppose to start till later in september..

help?

It could be stress. It could be a change in hormones. You could have became more active. It isnt a big deal dont worry about it.

Q: 15/f (soph in high school)

okay so.. this is gonna be really long and confusing sooo im sry. okay theres this guy i went out with for a REALLLY long time. lets call him "A". so i broke up with A at the beginning of the summer but i still kinda like him. like whenever i talk to him again i like him more. i dont kno i never really stopped liking him. and he like keeps asking me to hook up with him and stuff. like i dont think he likes me, i mean he could but all of his friends hate me for some stupid reason (probably bc i go to a different school than him...its stupid) so he would never admit to it. but then theres this other guy. lets call him "B" (he goes to my school). hes one of my REALLY good friends. well i kind of like B but i think he likes this girl in another state. which is really stupid bc nothing will ever happen between them. she lives on the other side of the country! well he like flirts with me and we like text/talk all the time and like there was a dance last night that me & my friends decided not to go to and he texted me and he was like "where were you tonight?". which means that he like cares somewhat right? since at the dance last year he was like all over me. ok just to make this more complicated.. theres this other guy. lets call him "C" (he goes to my school also). well C is like one of my best guy friends too. i was talking to him a few days ago and he told me that he liked me. this was on aim. i havent seen him since like july but like we talk a lot and stuff. i told him i didnt know who i liked. i told him i was deciding. and he asked me if he was one of the people i was deciding between and i just said yes bc i didnt wanna make him feel bad. so now he like really thinks he has a chance. but i dont like him.. but i also dont want to hurt his feelings. so what should i do about him? theres this other guy too. lets call him "D" (he goes to my school also). hes another one of my good guy friends. i was talking to him online a few days ago and he was like "you hate me" and i was like "what? no i dont" then he told me to rate how much i like him on a scale of 1-10. he said 5 was really good friends and more than 5 was more than friends. so i said 5 (because i only like him as a friend). and he like got all mad. so i dont know what to do about him. then theres this other guy lets call him "E"..jeez this is getting complicated haha i hope youre following all of this. but anyways he goes to the same school as my ex and theyre really good friends. anyways E calls and texts me all the time. hes told me before that he likes me. and he says all this cute stuff all of the time. i like him as a friend hes really funny and nice. but i dont really like him as more. i mean i flirt with him and stuff but hes just a fun guy ya know? like even if i did like him i couldnt go out with him bc my best friend went out w/ him in like january and also hes my exs best friend. anyways hes basically like obsessive. like i feel like hes stalking me sometimes. so idk what to do about him. like i want to tell him to back off.. but then again i dont want to hurt his feelings. then theres this other guy. lets call him "F". ive been kinda on & off about this guy. sometimes i like like him and sometimes i dont. hes really confusing bc sometimes he like picks fights with me and then other times he flirts with me like A LOT. like he keeps asking me to hang out but then when we did him & his friends like ditched me & my friends. i think it was kinda a joke but i still got mad at him. so i dont kno whats up with him either.

HELP?

The boys you dont like just tell them you wwant to be friends if they like you. They may take it the wrong way, but why lead them on?

Your REALLY good friend, he needs to stay that. Cuz if you and hime date, and you break up then you might hate each other. But if you really think its worth it then go for it.

If you really like the first guy and he really likes yo be with him. That isnt hard.

Q: well I have this friend that i've been best friends with since she moved here. Me and her have been through thick n thin because she got mixed into the wrong crowd and left me to do drugs and stuff. She finally got caught and we are best friends again but her mom has her on like lock down. Well yesterday was my friends suprise party and she went and it was her first time hanging out with someone besides me in pretty much 4 months! And she totally was acting like the center of attention and kept like pushing me out of me way when i tried to talk to MY FRIENDS. im not jealous of what she was doing just annoyed. what can i do?

Tell her. She may not realize that this bothers you. She was just excited too. She hasnt been out in awhile. But just let her know that shes doing it.

Q: Hi, i'm 18/f i'm a senior at a high school and well last year i had no trouble at all when it comes to sleeping like this year i want to try to sleep early i know that you can sleep what ever time the hell you want. but like for me whenever i sleep late like late late and wake up at six to go to school i get like soo tired and hate it. and when i come home i take a nap like 3hrs.

because i dont sleep early enough and all. and i hear and my brother told me that sleeping late is bad for you. and that it's not good for your health i hear that you maybe/can gain weight from sleeping late. and i hate sleeping late i try everything to sleep early.

here is my question. if you want to so badly sleep early how do you actually sleep early even if your tired or not but need to sleep early. what do you do to try i want to know so when school starts in two weeks i want to be able to sleep early and wake up early without being so tired in the morning. is there any way that i wont get trouble of sleeping early?

and yes i did try closing my eyes about 10 or more minutes to sleep early but it's not working. is there any any other way besides that.

thanks i would like to know sooner as possible asap please it would be nice to know !

Stop taking naps. STay up as long as you can until its that time that you want to go to sleep. Also, your going to have to train your body. Just lay down. You dont have to close your eyes. Just lay down at that time. stare at the roof. Turn all the lights off. You eventualy start falling to sleep And set your alarm for te time you want to get up. Stay up when it rings. Stay up just like if you were going to school.

Q: okay well, heres a little backround information...
josh is my current boy, brandon is my x-boy.

in basic form: josh skrewed some girl while going out with me and i have him admitting it on recording but i havnt said anything to him yet, and brandons step dad wants to do everything he can to mess my life up and upset me and my family. and now that brandons coming back i dont know what to do... help please! please. brandons coming back into my life again in a week.

in long form:
josh and i have always had a thing but had never gone out. brandon and i had gone out, and we where going out untill brandon got locked up. at first it was okay, we sent eachother letters, but then we couldnt anymore. so i broke up with him. i loved brandon so much he ment everything to me. i thought he was the one, the one i was gunna marry. anyways, josh started making moves on me while brandon was locked up, somehow he wone me over even though i voued to stay with brandon. i started going out with josh and it was awesome. we have been going out since january. now brandon is getting out in about a week, im so skrewed because im still head over heals for him. he had my friend that got out on a pass from being locked up call me and tell me that brandons still in love with me.

but get this...
this person that called me also let me listen to a recording of my current boy, josh when he was drunk and he admitted skrewing my friend sara! and he said that he would do it again. i havnt said anything to him yet but oh my is he going to get hell. and my parents dont like him because hes not white (im white.)

and brandon, his dad called my parents and tried to skrew up my life by telling them terrible lies about me and saying that brandon didnt want anything to do with me although it isnt true. but my parents dont like brandon either because hes been locked up.

help please, please.

HONESTLY. you dont need either of these guys, but.
Dump josh. Tell him that you know and how you know. Also. Your friend Sara, you should confront her. You should do it while josh is right there. If you want to be with brandon, be with him. But if he gets locked up again, leave him alone. Cuz its always something better than that. Your parents dont like either of them so there isnt anything you can do about them. And as far as Brandon's dad, your relationship aint got nothin to do with him so dont worry about what he is saying.

Q: I believe it is illegal for companies to sell tobacco products to people under the age of 18 in Australia.
I recently heard that you are able to smoke when you are 16 in Australia. But how can this be if you cannot purchase tobacco products if you are underage?

Can somebody clear this up for me an tell me the legal smoking age in Australia??
Any links would also help.
I tried to look for myself but with no luck.

Thanks.

I just read somewhere that the parents can legally buy the child tobacco products if they choose to let their child smoke.
So you were correct the legal age to buy is 18, but the legal age to light up is 16.

Q: My boyfriend and I are going to plan parenthood for birth control tomorrow and we were wondering what to expect. How exactly do you ask for it? Is it free? What do they do?
*we've looked at the website already so please don't just give me their link.

depends on where you are. They are going to make sure you arent pregnsnt. And then they are going to put you on some form of birth control. Cant telll you if its free, because it depends on where you are.

Q: 15/f

i just started highschool, and me and my best friend arnt in any classes together. and she hardly calls me. i always have to call her, and she always tells me she has to go. usually she always called me.

what should i do?

let it go. you and her are growing apart. just dont call and she will wonder why you arent calling and she may call you. But in the mean time, try and make new friends.

Q: What are some inspirational words like believe, hope, and inspire?
I'm doing a project and need some other words besides those =]

hope--

achievement, ambition, anticipation, aspiration, assumption, belief, bright side*, buoyancy, concern, confidence, daydream, dependence, desire, dream, dream, endurance, expectancy, expectation, faith, fancy, fool's paradise*, fortune, gain, goal, hopefulness, longing, optimism, pipe dream*, promise, promised land*, prospect, reliance, reverie, reward, rosiness, sanguineness, security, stock, utopia, wish

believe--

accept, accredit, admit, affirm, be credulous, buy*, conceive, conclude, consider, count on, credit, deem, fall for*, have, hold, lap up*, opine, posit, postulate, presume true, presuppose, reckon on, regard, rest assured, suppose, swallow*, swear by, take it, think, trust, understand

inspire--

affect, animate, arouse, carry, cause, commove, elate, embolden, endue, enkindle, enliven, exalt, excite, exhilarate, fire up*, galvanize, get*, give impetus, hearten, imbue, impress, infect, inflame, influence, inform, infuse, inspirit, instill, invigorate, juice, motivate, occasion, produce, provoke, quicken, reassure, set aglow, set up, spark, spur, start off, stimulate, stir, strike, sway, touch, trigger, urge, work up

Q: okay, so i've been dealing with acne for quite a while, and recently it has been going away..When i was in Maine for a vacation it seemed to go almost completely away, but now that i'm back it's starting up a little again. What could it be? Also, I took showers everyday in the morning. At my house, i usually take them in the evening. do you think that could affect it? Thank you.

nah. Just a change of everything. You were probably a little less stressed. The heat could have helped you a little bit. whatever kind of soap or body wash you used. It wasnt the shower though.

Q: I missed them on monday so could someone try to get it for me? i've tried youtube/google/yahoo.

go to mtv.com click shows. Look at the video records or whatever its called
....what is it called? Oh the episode guide.

Q: um well like
i hang out with all types of people in school
but i dont really have a
staedy set of really good friends

there mostly like aquaintances...

what should i do

*just commit to one group
and dump my other friends

Help!
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Why dump any friends? You can hang with everyone. If you like them all hang with them all.

Q: Hi, I'm 15/f and I know it's kind of far in advance to be thinking about careers, but I'm thinking of going into the field of psychiatry (not psychology). I was just wondering, what would typical day be like for a psychiatrist working in a hospital and a psychiatrist working in an office? Do they see patients often? How is a therapy session with a psychiatrist different from that of a psychologist? What I know, is that psychiatrists are medical doctors and can write perscriptions. Answers would be greatly appreciated.

Well you have to figure out what prescriptions and what ailments this person has. Something can look Like something else. And certain stuff can have the same symptoms. You may have a lot of patients daily just depends on the place your at. If your in a busy community with lots of people there are going to be more people with more problems. Most medical Jobs like this one hhas a 9 to 5. But if you have your own office you can set your own hours. Then your sessions can be as long as you'd like them to be.

Q: okay. i got verizon finally and i tried using that site with my Virgin mobile but it never worked.

so i have a few questions cause i already got like.. three or four new things..

A. its free correct?
B. i never got an activation code.. why?

On the page somewheres Or under "my account"
It has check box if you have verizon.

Yes. Most of the ringtones are free. It will say under the ringtone. 0.00 if its free.

Q: okay so i just had my birthday party and i invited my ex. and for some reason we started falling for eachother again. the night wqas perfect. until i found out that he yhad a gf ...... yeah and they have been on and off for a year. anyways... after that i felt horrible for his gf and didnt feel like talking to him. now he texts me every night and calls me baby and beautiful and tells me how much he likes me. and i hate it and love it at the same time. i love it cause i want him to but i hate it cause i feel horrible for his gf. what do i do?? everyone is telling me that i only live once and to go for it but i dont know......wwe went out for five months btw. please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He is your ex for a reason. And if he is sending you all this stuff when he is with her, just imagine what he will do if you and him get back together!
Leave that alone!!

Q: Is there anyway to prevent scarring?

Two weeks ago, my clear face all of a sudden got attacked with numerous numbers of pimples (aka acne) in large sizes and they're still on my face and I've been using acne medication but nothing changed.

I think it's going to scar my face now. what can i do?

Just keep your face clean. Dont pop them. If yu do use qtips and stop immediately when you see blood!!! Then put alcohol on it to cleanse it. Make sure your hands are always clean. And use a very hot wash cloth, as hot as you can stand it. That helps too!! Im pretty sure it wont scar if you dont mess with it too much!

Q: This is a pretty big problem for me, I'd love to hear some different takes on it since I can't speak to any of my friends about it. I changed the names...

I know for a fact that my best guy friend(Drew)'s dad is cheating on his wife. His "girlfriend" happens to be my best girl friend(Laura)'s Aunt, that's how I know about the situation (she told only me about it). To complicate things more, Drew and Laura used to go out a couple years ago, Laura knew about the affair and didn't tell Drew.

I have a lot of trouble with all of this, because my father had an affair, and when I found out, i had reason to believe my ex boyfriend knew about it and was so upset and hurt to think that he would keep something like that from me.

I don't think it's my place to say anything, but if Drew finds out, he'll KNOW Laura knew all along (I mean this affair has been going on maybe 10 years, maybe more....)
and with her knowing, he'll ask me if I knew... could I lie about that?

anyways, morals are hard to figure out I'd love some imput.

thanks, much love.

WOW totally not your business!!
Tell him nothing. If he does find out I doubt he would even ask you if you knew. The reason I say this is its somebody else's aunt. He may ask the girl. You cant be upset about an affair. Yea, understand that you went threw it, but it was never your fault. You didnt make any of them do a damn thing. They are grown. So just live life.

Q: 17/m

Ok, so i have a problem with girls when it comes to hooking up. Sure i can talk to girl all night, say at a party. I have no problem with talking and flirting, but i can never seem to take the next step and hook up. what do i do

Let the girl take control. If she wants to hook up with you she will.

Q: I got this in my inbox
"I would like to start off by saying that I have been to specialists for my condition and have been dealing with this problem for all my life but just did not know of the problem until I got pregnant with my daughter 8yrs ago. Until you go through what I have gone through or anyone else, you should not judge people I have been put on medication after medication. No one can sit and tell someone go see a Doctor. Due to most of the majority already have and have been on medication. If you are a doctor I feel bad for your patients. And if you are not DON'T GIVE ADVICE! Cause you have not a clue of what myself and I am sure other people go through each and every day.

Thank You for crappy advice! "

What is this about? I don't give advice about those things.

They may have clicked a wrong name. If you dont know. Dont respond.

Q: 14/f
so theres this guy... and ever since the third grade off and on we have both really liked each other. well we went out for like a week but we broke up but hes still my BEST guy friend. so im not really racist or anything but hes indian. im white. i really like him. i just dont know why but i cant get over the fact. i dont know what to do. and i know i sound amazingly shallow but come on. you know it has to be different dating a person of a different race..... thanks

Its different dating any other person, because everyone acts in a different manner. I say, keep crushing on him and just let him stay a friend. Who wants to ruin a good friendship? You may get into a relationship, and something may happen that causes you two to break up. Then you may not be able to maintain a good friendship anymore.

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Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!

I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!

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