Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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so i started taking birth control in octoberish for cramps, and since then i have gained a huge amount of weight. i am so insecure with my body, and no matter how much i work out or watch what i eat it doesn't change and i can't lose weight. do certain pills alter results such as gaining weight? should i talk to my doctor about it? ah.. :( :( (link)
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Yes, some birth control pills do make you gain weight. Obviosuly your not happy with it so I would strongly suggest to go back to your doctor.
He/she should be able to prescribe you a different type of pill and if that doesn't work there are other methods that birth control such as - Implanon (which is inserted into your arm)
- Nuva ring (which is inserted inside your vagina)
Plus many other ways. Consult your doctor for more information.
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my friend is starting to get really obsessed with this one guy and quite frankly i don't think he is going to like her in that way. she is nice and all but i don't think he wants a girlfriend. and plus he doesn't really know she exists. so how do i make her like him less, i don't want her to get hurt =[. (link)
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I'm really sorry but you can't really stop someone from liking someone else... it's just the way to cookie crumbles!!
You can however, encourage her to like someone else or take her mind off of him. Don't say bad stuff about him because she doesn't really want to hear that.
Or if it drives you up the wall, tell her politely that you don't really want to hear about her obsession. Without being rude of course.
Hope I helped. :)
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When my friend first started her birth control her doctor checked everything to make sure all her baby making stuff was okay and in the right shape?
Mine didn't she just handed it to me?
Should I have gotten a full scan on my "stuff" to see if I am okay before starting?
Is it normal not to have a checkups on that stuff before going on birth control?
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All doctors have a different way of consulting with their patients. Some doctors like to investigate more then others.
I didn't have a check up or anything when I got my birth control. The doctor did however give me a detailed speech on what happens if I miss a pill and the pill doesn't work when your on antibiotic etc...
If your worried about it, go back and see your doctor and ask them to check you out. Other wise if you feel comfortable with the birth control your on, you've got nothing to worry about.
Hope I helped :)
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My parents snooped through my stuff. they said that i hadnt been acting myself, and yes, i wasnt. i was really depressed and i had written some suicide letters. well... they found them.
they took me to the hospital for a mental health evaluation and now i have to go to a cousler. I dont tell my parents anything so why would they expect me to tell a total stranger whats going on in my life? I dont know whether i should open up. or if I should just keep my business to myself. Any adive on coping with depression would be nice. and answeing my question is greatly appreciated. Thanks. (link)
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Ok, first of all, although you really don't want to, you have to believe that your parents really do just care about you and are trying to help you.
I do admit that I don't agree with them going through your personal things though.
Besides that, I think you should open up. This counceller isn't your family so it may be easier for you to open up to he/she and you may be amazed by the outcome!!
You'll probably start to feel happy again. Just try it to start off with and see how you like it, if you feel comfortable with the whole situation then continue going to see the counceller.
If how ever you don't feel like it is working then don't give up straight away, you need to give it time to work out and to sink in. Or you could do a bit of research yourself and find a counceller that you think you'll be comfortable with.
I personally think you should go through with getting some help because there's nothing worse then feeling depressed.
Or if you don't feel like talking to someone in person, talk to someone through here, like me for instance :-D
Hope I helped :) Good luck xoxo
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sorry in advance, because this is long..
okay so on spring break i re-met this guy, will, that i met at the same resort 2 years ago. the last time we had been a little flirty, but that was the extent of it. when i saw him this year, he asked me if i wanted to hang out one night. we hung out for about 3 hours, and he fell into the ocean (we laughed about that for a while...just wait, this will be relevant later). the next night, we hung out again and he kissed me for a long time. we hung out a couple more times...and kissed for probably 4 or 5 hours total (not kidding). he asked me for my screenname before he left, and we've been keeping in touch ever since. he's been really sweet and conversation has come fairly easily to us up until now. he asked me if i saw what we had as a "fling", which i had originally thought it would be but don't anymore....i told him this and asked him the same thing but he didn't want to answer "because after it's all said and done we won't have anything to talk about anymore". but every night before he leaves he makes a point of telling me how much he misses me. i'm wondering if you think that he really does like me, and if you think it's weird that he won't tell me if it was a fling or not. i want to know what he thinks without asking him upfront, because i know we can't have a long distance relationship. thank you bunches (link)
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Perhaps that also what he's afraid of... having a long distance relationship.
To me it sounds like that he likes you but he's not quiet sure of where he should take things. IT sounds like he's in his comfort zone.
Or.. he doesn't want to have a relationship with you and that's why he doesn't want to answer your question.
I think that you should ask him upfront, just remember though, are you ready to commit to a long distance relationship and will you be willing to commit to it 100% if he says he wants to??
Things might be great and all to start off with but after a while, who's to say that things might get difficult? You never know how your feelings will change once you realise you can't see him everyday or you can't kiss or cuddle him or just simply hang out?
You really need to think things through before you mention anything to him.
On the other hand, it is nice to have that someone there that you can go home and talk to and be comfortable with.
So maybe just clear a few things up with him before you go ahead.
Good luck :)
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I don’t know why this is bothering me, I always think out of the box. I mean I just don’t think of the now and always the future and what if‘s. When I told my friend that I liked her she doesn’t feel the same. Today I remember that I and she were talking about her story she had to write for English class. She was talking about the main character is semi based on her. She said “she needs a guy friend” I ask her “will It be infatuation with the both of them? and i kno that you hate romance stories” she said “short of but it be like her liking him but afraid to be serious with the relationship because what if it doesn’t work out and it will effect there friendship”. I didn’t say anything but change the subject. Now I began to think that she was talking about us. I am being stupid to think that because she does like anyone and me. But I know I like her…
She isn’t talking about our situation, when I told her how I felt. Right?
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Perhaps she spoke to you about her story and tried to tell you that she's not interested.
She's probably finding it hard to tell you that she doesn't like you the way that you like her and she doesn't want to face hurting you by telling you that straight out.
Honey, you can't ignore your feelings towards her, your probably going to feel something for a long time but it's something that your going to have to cope with.
She obviously loves your company and your loyalty and friendship and doesn't want to ruin that by having a relationship with you.
I personally think that you need to talk to her, you need to sit her down and ask her how she really feels about you.
If she says that she doesn't like you in that way, then you need to respect and accept that in the best possible way that you can.
She also needs to understand that if she isn't interested in you, then she needs to be very patient, give you time, space and support so you are able to accept what she has told you.
Don't let your feelings come between your friendship though if things don't go your way. I'm sure you'd rather have her in your life then not at all.
I'm sorry hun, good luck :)
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I really hate being jelous of people...but when one of my friends gets everything: everyone likes her, she gets stright A's, got into the TOP chior, has gone to EVERY top band thing, pretty, outgoing, everything i am not....I don't want to be jelous of her.....
Any ideas on how to make myself feel better around her?(everytime i am around her i feel so inferior and like she could be friends w/ better people) (link)
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Hey there,
Why don't you try to become equal with her. Every person has their own qualities and your obviously taking more notice of hers instead of your own.
Try to concentrate on yourself and the highlights that you've got and flaunt them.
Don't compete with her, that could possibly end in a mess but just try to equal things out.
Good luck, Hope I helped.
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ok so first off i'm an 18 year old guy. i've been in a relationship with my dream girl for now 7 1/2 months. she's 17. she's the first girlfriend that i've ever had. before me she dated a guy for 7 months, they broke up about a year and a 1/2 ago, but that was pretty much it for her. we're both deeply in love with each other. before her i was depressed and miserable but she changed all that and since we've been together i'm happier than i ever could've imagined. i know that she's really happy with me too. so basically we can't get enough of each other. something that has really been getting to me lately is the issue of sex. in 7 1/2 months we haven't done anything sexual at all, no blowjobs, no handjobs or anything like that. i kind of thought that was a good thing for the first couple months because we were able to make something great together without sex or anything but lately it's been getting to me. i'm really sexually attracted to her and it's just driving me crazy. i know that she's strongly attracted to me too, she's said so and i'm exactly her type. we've both sent each other alot of nude pictures and there was no big deal about it. i feel completely comfortable sending them to her and she feels the same. we do touch each other alot, not sexually however. for example, sometimes we'll just lay on her bed for 4 hours snuggling up with each other really tight just talking about how much we love each other and stuff. we have this thing where we tickle each other alot. we tickle bare skin like the stomach, back, and she likes tickling my "man boobs". she also likes giving me wedgies. she's jokingly admitted that the whole wedgy thing is just an excuse to touch my ass. lately all that touching stuff has intensified. i get the feeling that i really need to do something. i know that alot of the time sex is bad for young couples but its been 7 1/2 months and we've made such a solid foundation already without it. i don't really want to go into like real sex until maybe prom night, which is in 2 months. i want our first time to be special and romantic. i do want to do some of the other stuff though. i want to go down on her so badly because i feel like she deserves it and i want to make her feel good. i don't even want a blowjob or anything else all that badly because i just want to make her feel good. she has told me that her ex went down on her while they were dating but she never had sex with him, she's still a virgin like me. it's embarassing to say but i know how to do all of the stuff because i looked it up online. there are alot of times when we have the opportunity to do stuff, both our parents work alot. i really don't know how to even get into that situation. people have said to just kind of "explore" while we're making out and go from there. i'm kind of an awkward kid and i'm somewhat unconfident and very scared of failure even though i've gotten all the info i need from websites and friends, both male and female. so if anyone could help me out i would much appreciate it. i know i probably sound weird but i'm just really confused about the whole thing. (link)
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Hey there, First of all I want to say AAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW! You sound like a really sweet guy and quiet frankly, there aren't enough guys like you around the place!!!
Secondly, It sounds like that you two have a very strong connection with each other and you really enjoy being with each other.
Obviously she's not going to reject you with sexual favours because she's already had a bit of experience previously, so thats good to know.
Thirdly, I say go for it. If you think the time is right and you two care deeply for each other, then it sounds like it's the perfect time to express your love in a more passionate way.
There is absolutely no right or wrong way to have sex, it's all about the persons personal preferences and the two of you will only learn from experience.
Don't make your relationship all about sex, I don't think your the type of guy that will but sometimes it just needs to be said.
It is however VERY important to make sure that the two of you are protected. I don't give a crap about these people who thinks sex is better without a condom, wrap it up!!!!
It's better for the two of you to be protected then to be sorry and have a sexually transmitted disease that you can die from.
Later on down the tract when things are a bit more serious and more committed, then unprotected sex might be something that you can discuss with each other.
If your worried about how your girl might react when you try to take things further, just let her be in control, give her the impression your ready to have sex and just let it happen, don't force it, it's not something that can be forced or planned. It'll happen when the time is right for the both of you.
Or you can talk to her about it, let her know that when she is ready, your ready to take the next step in your relationship. Be very supportive and understanding if she isn't ready because at some stage she will be, desicions like this can take time.
It's not just all about the sex, cuddles and kisses are just as important, it makes it much more special and much more relaxing and rememberable!!
I hope I helped :) Goodluck!!!
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Hi I am 17/f and my prom is on beginning of May and I was wondering what hairstyle would look good with this dress I purchased.
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c180/Sk8RcH1cK1773/promdress.jpg
My boyfriend said he would love to see me with soft curls (almost wavy) kind of hair because he likes my hair not tied up and stuff... Would it look okay with that dress???
Oh yeah my hair's bit layered and it's 4 inches past my shoulder... Not long but it's not short either...
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Because your dress doesn't really have a back to it, your hair in soft curls would look absolutely stunning.
If you wore your hair up, your back would be showing too much and it would look a bit bold. Wear your hair down and it will take the boldness away.
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So the boy that I recently was talking about to see if he liked me has asked me out...Of course I said yes but there is just one problem...I am his first girlfriend. Can you guys please tell me like how to act towards a "beginner" because I don't want it to seem like I'm moving to fast or to slow... (link)
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How did you like things when you were a beginner?
Just remember to act comfortable around him and make him feel comfortable. There's nothing worse then being awkward with the guy you like. Just move in nice a slow when you think the time is right.
Don't think of it as you being his first girlfriend and all, that will just be weird. There's going to be a lot of firsts with you guys because everyone has firsts with each other.
While he's trying to make a good impression because your his first girlfriend, your also trying to make a good impression because you like him :)
Good lucj, just be cool!
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is it healthy to repeatedly have sex? (link)
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It's healthy to want to have sex and it's healthy to explore and try new sexual things but to have sex continuously could leave you with a urine infection of some sort.
But you'd have to be having a fair bit of sex to get that...!
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ok so here is the story.there is this guy that i have gone out with a couple of times.we sit pratitaclly in each others laps when we are alone but dont do anything.and i have noticed that he gets hard when we do this.i let him tickle me all over .he lets me tickle him all over also.and now all of a sudden he gets hard. who is thinking of when this happens?it could be me right?
can anyone help me.plz.
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Who else would it be? It's not the girl across the room now is it? She's not the one playful teasing him is she?
Or he might not be thinking of anyone, he could just like the feel of what the two of you do. He could be aroused by touching your body or he could become hard when you touch his body.
Either way, guys don't necessarily have to be thinking of anything to get hard, he could just be in the mood. :)
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HELLO,
My 16 year old neice stole my daughters $350 sunglasses she bought with her own graduation money at a family x-mas party. This week I saw my neice wearing them. What to do. Parents are unapproachable and can be hostile. What should we do?? Neice is in counseling for similar issues.
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This situation obviously needs to be addressed whether it be your niece or her parents.
Even if they do get hostile, they probably react that way because they either don't want to believe that their daughter is doing this or they don't know how to deal with it and they are embarrassed.
If your niece is having counselling then obviously telling her off and making a massive deal out of it could make things worse. She's obviously going through some issues and stealing could be one way of calling out for attention or help.
Don't hold back on not taking the sunglasses back though, what she did was wrong and she needs to realise that she can't do things like that.
Take them back regardless of how messy the situation is. It's not right!!
Talk to her parents and let them know that you are aware of the troubles she is going through but she can't just help herself to things that aren't hers. Just let them know that your not mad, even though you probably are.
When ever she is around your house or your daughter just keep prized possesions away or locked up and out of her reach until she can over come this habbit.
Hope I helped :)
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This boy that is my friend that I dont like flirts with this girl who is my friend constantly.I dont even like him I only like him as a friend and I get jealous when he flirts with her.What does this mean and why am I doing this? (link)
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Maybe your not jealous because you like this guy.. perhaps your jealous because you want something like that too?!?
Perhaps you want the same attention from a guy that this guy is giving your friend!!
It's normal to feel jealous over something like this but your friend could possibly like the attention. Don't ruin it for her by being jealous, go find your own fun with a guy ;)
Hope I helped :)
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Hello peoples!
mmmm, well heres the thing.
i am the youngest in my family, and i have two older brothers, one 16 and the other 18.
the one thats 16 isnt much of a poblem, but my oldest brother is ALWAYSSSS in my buissness.
its so annoying. how do i get him to stop? (link)
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Well for starters, he's become an adult! Your 4 years younger then what he is, he's looking out for his baby sister obviously!
It can be annoying or maybe he's just trying to be a part of your life. I'd take advantage of it. There is nothing worse then not getting along with your siblings.
If he gets to involved and too annoying just sort of go of on your own. As long as he's not invading your privacy or going through your personal things it shouldn't be much of a problem.
Perhaps talk to one of your parents about him?! Maybe he's said something to them or maybe he just wants to hang out with you!
:) Hope I helped
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what does it mean when your guy friend tease you and stuff and we joke around a lot but my friend says we flirt sometimes he wants to borrow my bracelet (normal ones not girly) that i really like. Other day he took my bracelet and run off and he gave it back to me after that day. and today he wanted to borrow my other bracelet and i made him borrow his necklace and we traded and borrowed things from eachother does this mean anything? (link)
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It could mean something. It could mean that he likes you and he wants to have something that makes him feel close to you throughout the day.
My boyfriend used to wear to bands around his wrist, one that represented me and one that represented him, until they broke :( lol
It just depends on how you interperate it. But to me is sounds like he likes you :D
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im kind of scared for sex ed because i think it will be embarassing especially learning about it with guys... and im really not looking forward to it. i think it will be akward. is this normal? and can you please share your experiences? (link)
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I think everyone will be embarrassed to learn about it. People just react differently. Just because some of the kids muck around and make jokes doesn't mean their not embarrassed, they probably are but they try to hide it!
Just relax and listen. It's important that everyone learns about sex!!
Sex Ed just isn't about learning about sex, you learn about the male and female body and how things work and progress in the human body. Like women and babies for example. Periods, all sorts of things. Things that relate to sex.
So don't be embarrassed, just stay calm and relaxed and you'll be fine :)
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okk..
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me and my boyfriend have been together for 19 months... he has liked his ex. and my best frends before.. while we were going out. but i forgave him casue we have been through alot.. it yeah we love eachother.. but a while ago i had a ONE day thing for this kid.. it was stupid and nothing.. he found out.. it took a while for him to belive me but he did.. and things were amazing. we just stopped fighting and everything was good. i completly stopped talking to the guy.. he never stopped talking to any of his girls and i dont have one guy i talk to.. hes kinda jelilous..lol ok so now the SAME ex girlfrien he had a thing for told him that when i liked this guy we kissed. witch DIIIIIIIIIID NOT HAPPEN.. but he would rather belive her than me.. i love him and wanna be with him so how do i get him to belive me.. he already called the guy and he said he didnt.. but he still dos not belive me..
what do i do..? (link)
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He obviously has trust issues!! He either doesn't trust you or he is using this as an excuse to get back with his ex.
Either way, if he believes his ex, I would be absolutely furious!!! He should have no reason to believe her. They broke up for a reason and if their not over each other he shouldn't have formed a relationship with you!
Second, he's probably hurt from what he heard. I mean if you were told that about your boyfriend, of course your going to ask questions. You might not think you wont but you will!
Third, you need to talk to him. Ask him if he trusts you! If he says yes then there shouldn't be anything to worry about, you two should be able to get on with your lives. If he says no, then I think it's time to find someone else. You can't have a relationship without trust!!
Obviosuly you trust him a lot if he is getting around with his ex girlfriend!
Hope I helped! :)
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im 28 and my girlfriend is 32. she has two girls daughters one is almost 2 the other is 14. the 14 year old has a father that is not in her life. her step dad (father of the 2 year old) who she didn't like past away. she tells her mom that she cannot see me. how could I make this better? we really want to be together. (link)
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I think this young girl is scared she is going to be hurt again if she lets you near her mum.
I mean as you said her dad is not in her life and her step dad has passed away, every father figure she has had is not there anymore.
She is obviously going through some issues of her own and is finding it hard to deal with these issues.
I guess the best thing for you is to show her that you really care about her mum and the two girls. If you become her friend she might find it easier to accept that you want to be a part of the family.
You need to think about some issues yourself though, like are you ready to make a commitment to this woman who has two children? This is a huge step and a massive commitment that you'll have to make.
This girl obviously can't handle change or something is bothering her. You need to respect her and give her time to come to terms. In saying that, her mum needs to put her foot down and tell her that she can't rule her life, she is the child, not the mum.
At this stage putting your two bobs worth into this girls life and the rules and regulations she has isn't such a good idea ;) She needs to know that she can trust you and that your not going to up and leave.
I hope I helped! Goodluck and I hope everything works out for the best :)
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here's the deal i've falling head over heals for this guy sam. Well he liked me before so we uuse to talk alot. and he found out i liked someone else so he kind of backed off. and now i relize i like him and he doesn't like me he told me he likes this girl alex, she's very pretty and perfect. but me and him don't talk anymore and well i try and he does too.. i think he likes me but what do you think?
well first he always starts the conversation in school, on the phone, and on msn. he always so shy when he says hi to me in person he smiles and blushes soo cute :)
anyway he avoids well not avoids me but we hardly talk and he's saying its because i am around alot of guys but seriously when i'm not he doesn't take the chaance. he stares at me alot and sometimes i stare back and he smiles at me. he loves teasing me.. and he compliments me alot too ..
he tries real hard for us to hang after school.
and even when he does things tha don't get me mad at all he always apologizes. does he like me? should i tell him i like him ?
what should i do? (link)
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I think you should tell him, how else is he suppose to know other wise?
He does sound like that he likes you a lot and obviously you like him. If you don't say anything now you might loose your chance!
He sounds like a really nice caring guy who would take care of you. Most definitely make a move, don't come on too strong though. That can be a turn off.
Just keep it sweet and simple and he'll come back for more!!
Good luck. :)
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