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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college
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okay well i know this is kinda a retarded question but...
you know serta matresses? well can you actually buy a stuffed serta sheep from them? if so wats the direct link to do so?
thnx in advance :]
http://www.google.com/products?q=serta+sheep+plush&ie=UTF-8&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1
ok i have been working this job for a year but i was not making enough money to just work there so i got another job...my boss was cool about it but i needed off 2 days to train but then i found out i needed another day off so i did not want to ask off for that job another day so i asked off to help my sister when i was really training...Well i got off and i went to train well my boss called my other job asking if i was there and when they said yes he fired me... i was wondering if you think it is right that he called my other job? I mean i gave him a reason that should be good enough its my personal life.
I don't think is was right of him to do that, but you definitely shouldn't have lied about it. It sounds to me like your other boss was just looking for a random excuse to fire you and you gave him the perfect opportunity. To answer your question, though, it was kind of odd for him to do that to you.
In the future, don't feel like to have to make up excuses to go train for another job. Tell them what happened, you made a mistake, and offer to take extra hours another time if they get pissed at you.
If you are upset about this, maybe you could go and try to talk thinks out with the boss that fired you and you could apologize and ask for another chance.
I have a boston terrier that's about 5 years old, and a new kitten. And well, my dog likes to get into the cat litter box, and eat the uhm...dung. =/ and my mother knew a woman that her dog use to do that, and it ended up getting liver cancer. and we can't move the litter box..and i was wondering if they made something to like...spray on the litter pan, so the dog wouldn't go near it?
or something, anything really...
because i really don't want my dog to die. =[
Unfortunately, I haven't heard of any such spray. You're going to have to do some strict training.
Try to keep the litter box in an area where the kitten can access it, but it can still be under close watch. Every time you catch your dog getting into it, pull him out and give him a firm "NO." If that doesn't get you anywhere, keep telling him "NO" but then try spritzing water in his face. I know that sounds mean, but it's just water and it will help him to get the point.
When you kitten gets bigger and understands how to use the litter box properly, you should keep it in a high place where only the cat can get to it.
im a freshman in highschool
turning 15
im about 5'
[yes im short]
but i have really small boobs
i know its normal to have small boobs
especially if your a small person
but im only a 32A
and it bothers me that i cant even fit into a 34A
my other friends:
one is about 5' 2' or so
and she wears a B or C
also, i have a friend who is almost the same exact height as me
but she wears a B
it just bothers me :/
what should i do?
All I can tell you is you're only 15. You still have lots of time to develop and grow. If it would make you feel better, start wearing padded bras that will make your breasts look fuller.
I'm sure you can make this conclusion, but I would like to point out that height has nothing to do with your breast size. Weight actually doesn't either. It depends on what's in your genes. If the women in your family usually have smaller breasts, then you probably will too.
Later in life, if you are still unhappy, there is always surgery, but I would hope that you could appreciate your body for what it is. Small boobs have their perks too, you know.
Do you guys have any come backs to boys that say stuff like "If I could change the alphabet I would put U and I together" and then you say somthing like "I like it the way it is with a N and O." If anyone knows anything like this that would be much apreciated. Thanks.
If a guy says "How do you like your eggs in the morning?"
You could say "Unfertilized."
HAHAHA that's my favorite!
Here's a web site with a bunch more:
http://www.butlerwebs.com/jokes/insults.htm
ok well vday is in a few days, and i realy wanna make somthing absolutly adorable for my boyfriend. weve been goin out for almost 5 months. were both 15, and weve known each other a while. i love him alot and wanna make something cute but not too mushy he'll deffinatly remember :). any ideas plz? all are appriciated, thanx :)
I think it would be cute if you made him a hollow book. I made one for my boyfriend for Christmas and I put some pictures of us inside of it and I wrote little love quotes on scraps of paper and stuck it in there. Here's directions on how to make it:
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Hollow-Book
It is somewhat time-consuming, so you'd better get started. You can decorate with all kinds of little things for cheap from Joann Fabrics.
i started Yaz a few weeks ago and i was wondering how long it took until it fully worked and my boyfriend can actually penetrate in me without me getting pregnant. i hope i dont sound to weird!!
thanks ahead of time.
Ashleigh
When I started birth control, but doctor cautioned me to wait a month for your hormones to get in check. After that, you should be fine. I still recommend using a condom, though.
And by the way, the only weird questions are the ones that aren't asked.
=)
My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, have been together over 2 years and we were each other's firsts, and about 4 months ago I started on a birth control pill, Yasmin, because we both decided it would be safe for us, but even though I am on the pill, we still use condoms for extra security.
Over the 4 months I noticed a big change in personality, I cry a lot for no reason, get depressed for no reason. Go from being o.k. to really mad. I also have gotten a major rash all over my body, and some smaller ones. my skin has also become dry and itchy. sometimes my arm or leg feels like i have to stretch it, like it is tingly, and doesn't go away. I am tired no matter how much sleep I get, I am very irritable and anxious. I also seemed to have lost some interest in my bf all together, as well as sex.
I have a feeling it is from the pill, and I have heard of other girls having strokes, major blood clots, and mood problems from being on Yasmin and I am considering going off of it.
The thing is, is do I stay on this pill, and deal with these problems and other potential ones, or do I go off the pill, but worry about getting pregnant by just using a condom? I just don't feel like me when I am on these pills and I want to go back to my normal self. But I hate the stress of thinking something can go wrong while just using a condom. I really don't know what to do. He wants me to go off of them for the sake of my health, i'd like some opinions please!
Thank you!
Your best bet is to talk to a doctor. ASAP. If the pill is giving you a rash, something has gone VERY wrong.
You should know that there are hundreds of different kinds of birth control pills. Each one is a little different. If you go see a doctor, he/she can help you find a birth control that's good for you without all the side effects.
If you insist on discontinuing the pill for good, talk to your doctor about other birth control methods and the two of you can worth something out.
When do I apply? Junior or senior year? Beause if I apply this year (junior), then how will colleges know the results of my senior year(such as graduating with honors or my grades..)??
Thanks in advance :]
You apply in the spring of your junior year. Your high school automatically sends all your Senior Year info to the colleges you applied to.
:-)
-EDIT-
I would like to point out that the person above me is only 16. I am a college freshman. I think I would know.
Thank you. =)
i have been running outside for about 2 weeks but its been cold lately and i just get bored from running outside so i was wondering if i could just run in the same place for like 30 minutes.. would that be the same kinda? if not, how is it different?
It's not exactly the same because if you are actually running, you use your muscles to propel yourself forward, which doesn't quite occur while jogging in place.
Anyway, I think that would still be fine if you jogged in place. You know there are exercise tapes where you walk in place for so long while doing different things with your arms. They have 1 mile, 2 mile, and 3 mile versions. That might be something you could look into if you want to start exercising indoors.
next year my sister is going to high school im just really afraid she wont be ok in it. shes very different from everyother girl she isnt a follower she will do what she thinks. but shes barley makin it in school and she is very umm, emo or goth. NOT sayin it in a bad way. on friday their was a big fight between one of my friends a huge football player and a emo kid. he was so bloody. catholic school. i hate that guy hes a faggot but my sister is JUST like him. but she would fight back. shes a very tough girl. she doesnt make new friends that easy. she hates school shes depressed. im afraid if shell never make friends or get beaten up or fail out. she hates our parents she talks to me. her best friends now, i hate every one of them. she picks the worst people. next year i will be a junior and shell be a freshman. im her big brother ill kill anybody trying to hurt her. im more afraid for her and her freshman year than me on my freshman year. what do i do?
I think it's really sweet that you care for your sister the way that you do.
Your sister is going to face high school just like every other teenager. She might face some bad things like those that you mentioned, but she sounds tough. I'm sure that she will be able to handle anything high school dishes out in the long run; especially with a brother like you.
All you need to do is let her know that you're there for her and let her do the rest. Give her space to meet people and make her own mistakes. She'll learn from them and life will go on. Don't smother her too much, but encourage her as much as you can. Offer to help her do homework and what not. Try any way possible that you know would motivate her to get good grades and make new friend.
Read it and so
1. For it to not hurt her what should i do, i get the slowness, but should i go in a little really slow? Like how will it stretch?
2. So if the wetness stops then it means I'm doing bad? Or just that shes had enough?
3. As for getting off as a male, I'm sure you know its messy, whats the best way to do it (to avoid messiness)?
4. Would girls find it weird if the guy just asks whether or not what they did was enjoyed?
Thanks alot!
1) Practice pushing your finger in a little tiny bit at a time. Have her tell you when it starts hurting so you don't go in any farther. It's hard to tell exactly how it will stretch or how much. You'll know she has adjusted when it stops hurting her.
2) This could mean both. It would be a good idea to ask her if she wants to keep going at the point when she isn't wet anymore. If she says she does, you have to practice different ways to get her "excited" again. Stroke her hair, kiss her neck, etc.
3) Perhaps you should just wear a condom or bring an extra pair of underwear along when you know you're going to be fooling around.
4) That's not weird at all. It's respectful and it means that you care about her wants and needs.
I'm glad I could help!
Is it normal not to feel pleasure from masturbation? As in, not feeling pleasure from actually inserting my fingers? I do get pleasure from clit stimulation.
I know alot of women don't get pleasure from sex but I'm a virgin and I'm just wondering if it's normal not to get pleasure from masturbating and if I don't get pleasure out of it does it mean I won't get pleasure out of penetration?
You probably won't feel physical pleasure from penetration. Lots of girls are like this, I am one of them. There are many sex positions you can do that will stimulate your clitoris at the same time of penetration.
It's nothing to worry about at all. That's just another reason it sucks being a girl; we have to work harder to get true enjoyment out of sex.
:-)
Lots of questions, So to refresh I'm 17/m and my girlfriend is 15 16 soon, So anyways we talked a bit about getting more intimate and we were both for it, I just have some questions about some things.
1. Shes the kind of girl that likes me for me and the rest doesnt really matter, so will she think I'm kind of pathetic if i get off fiarly quick (within 5 minuites)?
2. When fingering her, I'm the first person to ever do it and when i try to go into her vagina she says it hurts, i knew that that would happen shes a smaller girl, is it normal for it to hurt her though? Are there times when it wont hurt or does it need to be stretched?
3. Where is the clitoris on most girls(be as blunt as you think will lead me to know where)
4. When a girl is wet will the wetness continue or does it naturally stop?
5. How hard is it to find the "g-spot"? is it noticable?
6. Since we started all of it we havent really talked much more about it, I'm curious if she liked what i did or not, so should i just bring it up and say "did you enjoy me doing that to you?" or something like that.
***Plase answer all 6 questions in order if you can also if you could number the answers accordingly to the questions it'd be great! any and all advice is appreciated!***
-C
1) You're still fairly young, so it's normal for you to get off fast. I'm sure your girlfriend won't mind at all. If it ever becomes a problem, I've read that you can "exercise" yourself by trying to stop the flow while urinating and that will help you to last longer.
2) It is definitely normal for her to hurt. Be very slow and gentle with her and use only one finger to start. Over time her body will stretch and adjust.
3) The clitoris is right at the very top of the vagina. It's a little tiny point. You should be able to feel it no problem. It's maybe the size of a pencil point.
4) The wetness will continue until she is done being sexually aroused. So, yes, it naturally stops.
5) I haven't found it yet. Frankly, I haven't needed to. I know that is located within the vagina, but, personally, I feel that clitoris stimulation feels much better anyway.
6) I would definitely ask for feedback. It's a good way to know that you're pleasing each other.
:-]
Why does my mom want me to stop being a tomboy so much she is doing anything she can she is even buying me the fake football jerseys instead of the real ones she wants me to stop so much does anyone know why??
Every parent has plans for their children the moment they are born. Your mom probably expected you to grow up and be a miniature version of herself. The fact that you want to be different is probably what's making her rebel.
If you feel comfortable, ask to talk to your mom about it and ask why she won't except you for who you are. I'm sure your mom doesn't mean any harm by it because she only wants what's best for you. Parents aren't perfect either and they make mistakes sometimes. That's where communication is important.
You just keep being yourself, but try to make amends with your mom at the same time.
on my poster for D.A.R.E i need to put things that drinking alcohol can cause. I have death, arrested, bad grades,no job/ money, and car crashes. anything else i can add?
*thanx*
Loss of friends is a good one.
People shunning you because they think you're a loser. (By "you" I mean the alcoholic/drinker)
Extreme emotion change.
Bad judgment i.e. sleeping with weird strangers.
Killing innocent old men walking across the street... sorry that happened to my uncle.
ANYWAY
I hope this helps. D.A.R.E. was the best!
I want to get a job, find the right boy, eat healthy, drink only water and fruit juice, be nice to everyone, meet a friend online who i become like secretly BEST friends with and share everything with and possibly talk to on the phone and plan to meet someday when i grow up, get a better reputation, make my body the right size, study hard and get better grades, push myself to work hard, finish drivers ed so i can get my permit, be happy and peaceful and not stressed all the time, go to church, make friends, develop a BUNCH of talents. hmm help :)
1) Go apply for one.
2) Join clubs and activities and meet new people. Maybe the right boy will be there.
3) & 4) Good for you! Just don't starve yourself.
5) Practice being patient and you'll be a lot nicer.
6) My AIM is Obsdabeff07 :D Or you can go look in a chat room.
7) Make good choices and learn from your mistakes.
8) Exercises three times a week for a half hour.
9) Find a study method that helps you focus.
10) Find ways to motivate yourself i.e. pep talk, making a list of goals, etc.
11) Talk to your school about driver's training classes.
12) Practice breathing exercises so you can keep your cool and make sure to take a half hour a day to just be good to yourself.
13) Find a friend to go to church with. Worshiping is funner in pairs.
14) see 2)
15) Do things you love and keep doing them.
Good luck!
14/f ok so there's this new girl, theresa, right? shes really cool & everything & we hang out a lot. but like she doesnt like one of my friends, sarah. but sarah is like all over theresa it almost looks like she wants to like marry her or something (not really, but you know what i mean) but i dont tell sarah that theresa hates her. theresa told me to but i won't, it's too mean. & theresa & sarah & me sits on the same lunch table since we're friends & then theresa goes to sarah, "ok, stop trying to impress me you are WAYY too annoying i really don't like you. you think you're cool but you're a loser." then she goes, "cmon hailey, let's go, " (im hailey- not giving out real names some people from school go here so) & i follow her to another lunch table. sarah & theresa wants me to choose sides. please if you're going say, "Don't choose a side, be neutral" that's sort of obvious & it's also obvious it's NOT GOING TO WORK! Just tell whose side it is better to be on. theresa is a little harsh & bitchy but its true that sarah thinks she's all that, so i don't know??
It's not fair for them to put you in this situation. In all honesty, neither of them seem like very good friends. You need to tell them either make up and stop being immature or you won't have anything to do with either one of them. It doesn't sound like Sarah ever did anything harmful to Theresa, so I don't know what the heck Theresa's problem is. Try and help the two of them work their problems out. If they still act immature, go hang out with different friends.
Hi i'm 17 years old and me and my boyfriend (he is also 17) have been dating for 2 and a half years. I am so in love with him and I know that he loves me, but I think that since we have been dating for so long that he feels like he doesn't have to be romantic or say things like "I love you so much blah blah...you know the stuff that makes you feel happy really in love. Well how do I tell him that I miss it when he use to say stuff like that to me and how he used to treat me special. Now I feel like we are some married old couple I mean don't get me wrong everything is good I just miss that first time feelings of when he said sweet things to me. I'm sorry if this is really confusing ,but Idon't know what else to do.
Maybe you could start doing sweet things for him. He'll be so smitten with you that he'll start to want to do nice things for you. Send him love notes for no reason. Randomly stop what you're doing and call him just to say you love him. Bake him cookies/brownies/cupcakes (because food is the best way to a guy's heart :D).
Start doing the sweet things for him that you want him to do for you. If he's a good boyfriend, he will start doing nice things for you again.
I've been dating by boyfriend for 2 and a half years as well. It's really hard to stay close because I'm at college and I often feel the same way you do. I started about a month ago doing those little things for him whenever I could and things got a lot better between us.
I'm 15/f, I'll be 16 in about 2 weeks.
My friends and I want to volunteer somewhere, but we're not sure where. They're 15/16/17 as well. We were thinking of volunteering at the Ronald McDonald House. I wanted to like set up parties for the Super Bowl, birthdays, etc. for the kids. But, for Key Club, we went, and it just seemed like you'd sit at a desk. That's not exactly what we wanted to do.
Anyway, any other ideas of where we could volunteer? We live in Cleveland, Ohio, if that helps.
Thank you :)
You could go to your local elementary schools and offer to read to little kids. Or you could offer to help tutor them in math or science. I'm sure that any elementary school in your area would love you and your friends' help with some things going on in the school.
I help little kids read every week and it is one of the most rewarding experiences I've ever had. :-)