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I wanna do something more than just hug my b/f. I just don't know how to ask him how he feels. He may wanna do it but be embarrased to ask me too! It's really confusing. Should I ask him?
Thanx
~Kayla~ (link)
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Hi, yes if you want to. You can bring it up in a conversation someday. It might be a little embarrassing but I think it's great that you want to check things out with your partner, well done! Daniel.
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ok, it is my first time having sex and i really dont know what to do. plz i want guys to answer this question, what turns on a guy while having sex, and what should a girl do during sex(like positions and what to grab and stuff)
thanx in advance
plz help (link)
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Hi, I can give you a brief guide of what to do, but remember you don't have to do it but here it goes. Push your boyfriend slowly onto the bed and undo your shirt. Take it off then slowly undo your pants or skirt and everything until your left with your bra and nickers on. It's really embarrasing I know, but any way. Maybe then take off the rest of your clothes and then do a little shake and brush your hair back with your hand. Then go on top of him, start undressing him, and then kiss him while turning him over on top of you. And then move backwards and forward, you should find that if he's turned on and you are that your vagina will open up and his penis can slide in easy. Embarrassing I know but then just try and explore and enjoy until he gets that turned on that he ejaculates. I suggest that if you are going to have sex then use contraceptives. If you feel unsure then don't do it. But otherwise try and relax and enjoy. No one is perfect the first time. Daniel.
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I am not a registered user of myspace, but am pretty familiar with the site. I’ve known for awhile (by stumbling across some history on his computer) that my boyfriend of almost a year uses myspace not as a social networking site, but solely to check out hot chicks profiles. For some reason, this really bothers me. I don’t mind that he checks out porn online—I have no problem with Playboy, Penthouse stuff. However, the fact that these chicks are real people who are not posting their picks for some dude to drool over is kind of creepy. Also, it upsets me that he would want to check out regular chicks online and use them for sexual purposes. I know mentally cheating should only be a problem for insecure 16 year olds, but I am having trouble getting past this. I will talk to my bf about this but wanted an outside opinion first. What’s your take on the issue? Would it be out of line for me to ask him to cancel his account? (link)
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Hi, for a start you have every right to feel awkward about this. But sadly he is a typical male, alot of males do it even mid-life men and seniors. The problem sometimes with men is that they are not always satisfied with what they've got, were as other people would love to be in there shoes and have a lovely girlfriend like yourself. In away he is cheating on you, and you have every right to confront. Bare in mind though that he's a typical male and still a teenager. Daniel.
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As you know, I recently put in a question. I'm doing a lot better and have a new little puzzler for you. If you have't read my other question, my boyfriend is moving to Belgium. I was just wondering what i should get him for a going away present. Something really special and personal. Love, ringo8mybaby. (link)
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Hi, maybe a picture or something small like a necklace or ring you might have is useful for rememberance. Anything that feels special to you is a good idea as well. Daniel.
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I'm 13. I have a MAJOR crush. But, according to my friends, he's not just a crush anymore. Well, I really like him. When I got ahold of his email, we started chatting online all the time. Finally some of my friends dilivered his message. He liked me too. One day while we were chatting he asked me out to the movies. I couldn't believe that I wasn't able to go. Anyways, now, according to my friends, he's my officail boyfriend. That the part I'm not so sure about. I mean, a boyfreind when you're only 13? I feel too young for that... Is he my officail boyfriend or am I really too young for that kind of thing? (link)
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Hi, to be honest Im neutral about this one. Its good that you are mixing with people especially boys and experiencing a relationship through puberty, but at the same time I think it's quite young to be having a serious relationship. But yeah having a boyfriend as long as its nothing too serious, I can't see anything wrong in that. Daniel.
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i want to know how i can meet bi/lesbian teen females or where i can. i've never been with one because i dont know how to find out if someone is gay or not. i dont want to hit on a girl whose straight. how do you make getting with one happen?? (link)
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Hi, it will probaly come naturally. But if you want it then you've got to create the opportunity. Go and by a newspaper to see if theres any gay chat lines or clubs, go and find out from somebody were theres gay clubs. Once you've done that then you've got to do the asking part. Maybe a bit of flirting and make them see that your available. Daniel.
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I am the oldest chid in my family. I have 2 little annoying brothers they annyoy me so much i always scream and lock my self in my room. I really need a sister but my mum says no more kids
Help me i feel so lonley at home (link)
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Hi, right now you need some friends (girls) in your life. It comes to the stage were we feel as though we are lonely and need more in life. Go out and make friends with girls. You can do this by joining a group, club, hobbie or interest your into. Daniel.
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Myself and my fiance are 26 and I have a 2 1/2 year old from a previous relationship. We have been together for 1 1/2 years and engaged for 1. Last week my fiance had a couple of friends that were looking for an apartment to live in. They are supposed to be moving into the ones where we live. Without asking me, Josh invited them to stay with us until their apartment is ready. It has been almost a week now since they came to stay. It made me really angry that he did not ask me if I cared if they stayed, he just invited them and told me they were staying. I'm upset because I am the one paying all the bills right now because he just finished college and has not found a job yet. Our apartment is really small and was cramped with just our stuff in it. Now our dining room is stuffed with their things and they have taken over our living room too. We only have a couch in our living room because it it tiny. At night after I get home from work I like to make dinner then lay around and watch TV for a while before I go to bed. Since they have been there I don't get to sit on the couch or watch TV. I have been coming home and going to my room to read. Josh gets upset with me because I don't want to sit out there with our "company". I wouldn't mind hanging out with everyone, but when I do sit in my living room I either have to sit on the floor or pull a chair from my dining room to sit on. I feel like my son is getting shorted by them being there too. He is used to having free roam of the house and playing where ever he wants to in the apartment. Now he is confined to his room and can not play anywhere else and when he tries to he gets into trouble for getting into their stuff. Then over the weekend we had a birthday party to go to for my grandmother. I made it clear to Josh the night before that I did not want them in the house while we were gone. When we got ready to leave the next day Josh handed them his keys so they could come and go as they please. It's like my thoughts and opinions don't count anymore. Then when I try to explain to him how I'm feeling he gets angry with me and thinks I'm being rude to them. I like my personal space and I hate it when I don't have it. Right now my space in majorly being invaded. I don't know how much more of this I can take. Josh thinks I'm too controlling on things like this, but I'm tired of being stepped on and used. How can I make him see my point of view before I just get angry with the situation and just kick all 3 of them out so it's just me and my son again? (link)
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Hi, if it's that serious then I suggest you tell him to find his guests somewere else to go. Because if he can't listen to you and look at how your feeling, then really he isn't being a good boyfriend. Tell him that if this doesn't get sorted out then you will be moving out for a while. It is good also to be a little more agressive when speaking to him (not physically). Really tell him how you feel, and make it really clear to him. This is your apartment and they have been here long enough. Tell him straight and be a bit more agressive. Tell him in a way that will make him see your side of things. Daniel.
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My boyfriend has had sex with many other girls before, and he wants me to lose it to him. I love him but, i want to know the symptoms that might occur after we have sex. I also would like to know how, it would feel and how long will I bleed. I get horny easily but, i will never try to masterbait and, i just want to know if i should endure in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend or not!!By the way i am a female! I also would like to know if i should suck him off!! (link)
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Hi, I think your a wee bit to young to be having sex. There are alot of things you can catch such as:
Pregnancy
HIV
STI's
and as for oral sex you can get the herps or small bumps around your lips. Maybe when your 16 or older you can maybe give it a bit of thought then but really your still to young and besides you need to get use to puberty (body change) an all. Besides have you even considered contraception? Daniel.
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ok this is very embarrasing but I am and girl but when i was born i was born with a penis..he doctor says im a girl cause i have boobs and i have periods...dont ask me how cause i really dont know how. When i have sex with boys do u think this will creep them out? and should i get my penis removed?
ANSWER BACK SOON! (link)
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Hi, if you like guys and want to have sex in the future I strongly advice you get it removed. There is nothing to be a shamed of. Its just that guys might get a little freaked out. But yes getting it removed is a good idea, only if you want to. Daniel.
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So there is this girl. I've seen her at this resturant for the past 2 years but never said a word to her because i'm so shy. We had a picnic this weekend and my mom's friends daughter came and with her was this girl.After the picnic I was told that she thought I was cute and such a nice person. So I was invited back to the apartment the next day of these 2 girls. We watched 2 movies and ate dinner othing big. So when I got home I text the girls friend and asked if this girl even likes me or what. I got in reply She does but wants nothing serious. How do I go about that? Do I still try to become close and hope more happens or what? Any help is thankful. (link)
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Hi, I think if she is saying that she wants nothing serious then she is considering you as a friend. I would remain friends and just hang out and have fun. Who knows the more you become her friend the more the friendship can develop. Daniel.
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I have been spending alot of time with this guy. We have both told eachother that we like eachother and we kiss and last night we held eachother. Basicly Its obvious to everyone that we like eachother. Well, yesterday my friend was talking to him and she asked him "If she asked you out what would you say." and he said that he would say yes! So now my problem is, how do I ask? I want it to be sweet and cute but not over done. Just simple and easy but still cute. any suggestions? please help! (link)
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Hi, just go up to him and start a conversation going. Saying something like "hey, would you like to go out to the movies sometime?" or "are you free this time next week, only Im not doing anything and Im going to the movies, so would you like to come?" or even if you wanted to get to the point then you can say something like "I like you, would you like to go out with me perhaps this weekend? Or is that a problem?" Good luck!!! And if you wanted to really let him know your interested then at the end of one of those sentences you could say "right then what time shall we go?, great looking forward to it" then give him a small wink with your eye making show you use eye contact and smile. Although thats only if your serious really. Daniel.
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How does one become the perfect girlfriend? Internally and externally, how does a girl make her guy feel completely fulfilled?
Thanks (link)
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Hi, being yourself is good, and showing a guy that you have high self-esteem of yourself and are confident and ready to get on with life is good an all. Just be yourself, easily said than done I know, but that is all you can be. Daniel.
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I'm a 16-year-old female and I was celebrating fourth of July with some of my friends last night without my boyfriend. Everyone was drinking and having a good time, and apparently I drank a little more than I should have and ended up calling his voicemail and breaking up with him. He didn't sleep all of last night, and I really love my boyfriend, I've told him that countless times, as well as that I'm sorry, so I don't know what else to say. Does anyone have any advice on what I could do to get him to forgive me? (link)
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Hi, really all you can do is tell him how sorry you are. It was an mistake and you drank a wee bit much that night. Say something like "Im sorry about the other night really, I drank over the limit a bit, and Im really really sorry about what I said, I love you, wont you forgive me?" Hopefully that should do it, and if not just maybe have a week or two apart from each other to let him think a bit more. Give him a hug and just tell him that your really sorry and it was an accident and I didn't mean what I said. Daniel.
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I'm 18 he's 21. We are thinking about getting married after 1 year together. He has a lot of sexual fantasies of being with other girls but says he can try to forget about having sex with more people and settle down. Is he REALLY ready for marrige? (link)
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Hi, you say that he thinks of other women. He does sound as though he has lust for you and girls rather than love. To get married to someone, you have to love them and have lots of affection for them. He doesn't sound to show and your both are quite young. I would wait a few more years, then wait and see. Don't rush into anything. Daniel.
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am i wrong that i don't want to like this boy, even though i do, because of 'status' like i'm on top. i know it. but... hes not. so, like what should i do? i really like him. but i'm not sure like what my friends will think or anything. (link)
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Hi, it doesn't matter what your friends think? Although you can listen to their advice and opinions, but this is your decision. Asking him out, is a good idea because you will know how he feels towards you too, and if yes, then you can build on your conversation and perhaps turn it into a date. Daniel.
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okay so theres this boy at my school and last year we were in the same classes but this year we werent.. and then this year we had one class only one part of the year together and we talked like..not alot but once or twice about just like "can i borrow your pen" or something like that and i didnt think i liked him last year but this year when we had the class together i realized that i acutally do like him. but im really not gonna go up to him or tell him how i feel. waht can i do ? (link)
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Hi, if you want to go out with him, or your interested and what to get to know him better, then you have to create the opportunity. What I mean is, you have to just go up there and say hi and maybe introduce yourself and get the conversation going. If you don't want to say anything, then why are you keeping this in? Is it because you feel shy? Nervous? If you do like him, then you might as well go up and start a conversation and perhaps say something at the end like "You know what? Why don't you come over to my house? And we can carry on the conversation even more" or "Hey would you like to get together sometime? Perhaps at the movies or something?". You will then get to know his answer, and then you will know how he feels towards you. That sounds like a great idea, rather than wondering does he like me, does he like me... do you know what I mean? If you never ask, then you will never know. Daniel.
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In your honest opinion...
How realistic is it to think that you will one day marry your first love? I don't think it's likely, but it happens, right? I'm 16 and he is 17. And I've never felt this way about anyone in my entire life. I just want to experience everything in life with him. We talk about getting married sometimes, I mean seriously talk about it. When we do talk about it he tells me that he is serious, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
Opinions? Advice Please? (link)
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Hi, your boyfriend and you are pritty confident about your relationship and plan to make things work. That is excellent because to be in a good relationship you have to have confidence in yourself and the whole relationship. I think on the other hand, your both quite young to be thinking of marriage. Maybe when your 25 or 30 you could start really thinking serious. Because the relationship just might not last that long. It is very possible to marry your first love, but alot of people who are married have gone out with at least 2 or 3 boyfriends before they finally new who was their right match. For now I think you should both enjoy being young and being a girlfriend to him. If you both decide that you want to get married now, then later on in life maybe 10 to 15 years you might have wished you would have just waited a bit longer. It from the sounds of things looks like your relationship and love for each other is very strong. Your both really confident which is excellent. But I wouldn't make any rash decisions yet. You may regret if you did. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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I asked this guy out on the last day of school. He said he would think about it and to call him in the morning. I call him his phones off so i just leave a message saying call me back. He never called me back so i asked him about it and he said im still not sure. So i asked my sister to ask him and he told her he likes me alot but hes starting his freshman year and he wants to be "free" plus he feels bad cus he turned down alot of girls on the last day of school. He wont call me now and he keeps tellin my friends hes not gonna answer me now cus hes made me wait to long. and Ya I relize he doesnt like me (i think) but now its awkward for us to hangout even just as friends. PLus my friends wont stop bugging him no matter what I say. Help!! (link)
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Hi, the best thing you can do because it isn't really working out, is to be friends. Just ring him up and tell him that you've thought about it and you've decided that it would be best to remain as friends. Friendship is alot better than nothing at all. Daniel.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 9 months now and he said he loves me..How long do you have to be going out to know if you love someone. Or is it not time constrained?? (link)
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Hi, you've known each other for quite a while now. If you've known each other that long and he feels deep emotions for you, then I suppose you've got to take his word for it. Daniel.
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