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Ok this is pretty stupid but my brother lost hsi wallet in our house and it has like 60-80 dollars! We searched everywhere but we can't find it anywhere and we're not sure if anyone stoel it because we had a couple of visits.
We used to be poor before so $60 is a big deal and for sure the people at the bank wouldnt' believe us of we told them that we lost $60 and we want them to replace it.
=( What can we do? (link)
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Yeah. Once the money leaves the bank, it's not their problem if you lose it, if it floats down the river, etc. The exception is that if it tears or burns and you have a certain percentage of the bill, you can take it in and the bank will send it to the US Treasury to get it replaced. If you lose money or it gets stolen, the bank will do nothing for you.
All you can do is keep looking and ask around. $60 is a lot to me, too.
Sabine
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I need your help deciding what the ideal menu for a public dinner would be.
Not knowing what would be the best dishes to serve is making this an impossible task.
If you will tell me your favorite foods, or point me to your favorite recipes, it would really help a lot.
You can list as many things as you like. They don't have to be fancy things at all. I am all about the comfort food baby! :)
This will be a mixed group of people so I would like to have something for everyone.
Cooking for a banquet is not as hard as trying to figure out WHAT to cook!
Everyone will receive feedback.
Thank you!
P.S. If all that was a lot to digest, pun intended, here is a summary: Please list all your favorite foods. (link)
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Okay, please don't rate this. I'd like to suggest some dishes, but I need more info. Some things, like fetuccine alfredo, would feed a lot of people but can't sit around long and can't really be reheated. So it would help us to know:
1) How many people are you feeding?
2) Are you planning on charging and, if so, do you want it to be cheap or more pricy?
3) What kind of facilities do you have? Like do you have a place to keep crock pots plugged in? Do you have real plates or will it be disposable only? Do you have a refrigerator to keep things that should be kept cold? Are you going to have room for things like salad dressing, butter, soy sauce, etc.?
4) Are the people who are eating going to have to be doing something else as well, such as listen to a presentation?
5) Are there mixed ages present, like toddlers as well as grandpas?
All of these things would factor into what kinds of foods I would tell you to serve. If you could please describe this, I will give you some very specific advice.
Sabine
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there's this girl. she and i used to be best friends from 3th grade until around this year (almost the end of 8th grade). she and i had LOTS of relationship problems, and she's never really been a great friend to me. but for some reason, we stuck together. well i introduced her to this girl, and the three of us were best friends. well, they both kinda ditched me, and the other girl betrayed my trust and says mean things behind my back. but my "best friend" after a long time of only quick hi's in the hallway asked me for a favor. she wants to borrow a very nice pair of shoes of mine because hers got destroyed. well, i dont want to just give to her and her think that everything's okay. cause i'm reasonably pissed at her... but i don't want to be mean about it and not give it to her cause i mean the shoes aren't a big deal. what do you think i should do? give her the shoes or not? & if you think i shouldn't, what excuse can i make up? (link)
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Well, if you want to be bitchy, just say "I only lend my clothes to my friends because I'm not sure I'll get them back otherwise." It's really immature and selfish of her to expect you to provide those shoes just because hers got ruined. She can't be your friend when she wants something and not your friend when she doesn't.
If you want to let her down without confronting her rudeness and backstabbing tendencies, try this "I'm sorry, but I can't lend them to you. My Mom gave me the money for them and she would be really upset if they got ruined. She told me not to lend my things out." Or tell her you would but you have a foot fungus or a wart. Or just 'no.' It's a ridiculous request and doesn't really require an excuse. People don't generally share shoes with their friends (even if they share dresses, etc) because shoes are very personal and if someone has a different style of walking, they can ruin them for you by wearing down the heel on the wrong side or making their foot imprint on the padding. It's just not something I'd do with someone less close than, say, my sister.
Good luck,
Sabine
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How exactly do you give someone a hicky? or how would someone give you a hicky? (link)
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The person giving the hickey finds an area on the other person. The giver sucks on the skin in that area hard and for a long time, breaking capillaries and causing a bruise. That's all that happens.
Sabine
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is there a phobia or something where you don't want things in your vagina? i don't want a penis, fingers, or anything in mine. i can't even put my own in there, or even a tampon. my boyfriend is starting to think its him, but its really not, its me. i'm very confident, so its not because of insecurity. whats wrong with me? (link)
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I don't think it's because you're gay. Lesbians also put things in their vaginas.
It's a normal feeling that teenage girls get and it's just because you know that's what is expected someday - for your vagina to have things inside it, but you're not emotionally ready for it yet. It's normal and it's just part of being a teen. I felt that way myself when I was your age.
If you can't stand the thought of even a tampon inside you, then just use pads. Your boyfriend will have to come to terms with the fact that you're just not ready for that kind of sex. If you both agree, you can still have kissing, touching, and possibly even clitoral orgasms when you're ready. And someday you'll probably be ready for vaginal intercourse. Just give it a couple of years. I can see you're only 15 now and you have a lot of time to become ready.
Sabine
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okay. just so youu know im not a virgin so i know thats not the answer. so everytime i have sex with my boyfriend.. after. i always bleed. like heavy. whats wrong with me? (link)
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I don't know what's wrong with you, but you need to see a doctor for that. It's not normal.
Sabine
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im getting surgery on my heart in about a month. im not exactly sure what its alled but i do know that its treating a condition called SVT, that they are putting wires through incisions in my neck and upper leg, and that they are zapping an extra thing in my heart that makes it beat too fast somtimes. theres is less then one percent chance that it does not work. its pretty safe. still, ill be un-concious for the three hour surgery, and i will probably have to stay the night at the hospital.
my parents werent going to let me do it because they where worried. they knew that there werent a lot of risks, but still im their first child and they worry about me like parents are suposed too.
the few friends that ive told are really worried about me.
i feel like me being strong and saying that its no big deal keeps my friends and family from worrying about me.
i am a little scared. well i know that im going to be okay no matter what but still. im putting myself in the hands of sombody else. its a difficult idea to deal with. that i wont be concious and im trusting sombody to make me okay.
i want the procedure. because when my medicine dosent work, its scarier for me then any surgery could be.
talking about being scared here helped. a lot. but how do i completely get rid of the fear? i cant really tell anybody because it will just make them worry about me, and i hate having people worry about me
thank you so so much! (link)
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Has it occurred to you that some people might be more worried about you because you seem to be going into a heart procedure without admitting any fear about it? Fear is natural and it's there to protect us. You should feel a little bit of fear. A mature response to fear is to admit that you're "anxious" but eager to fix the problem. Don't let the fear control your life, but don't deny it, either, because by denying it, you deny yourself the best way to deal with it : with the support of your friends and family.
Just tell people when they ask what I said above. That the idea of the procedure makes you anxious but that you can't wait to have it over and done with and the problem in your past. You may want to take some bendryl the night before the procedure if it's okay with your doctor so that you can get some sleep.
The procedure is simple. I've had a cardiac cath, which is the same thing without the zapping. My father, my brother-in-law, and my friend have all had the cardiac ablation and they are fine. All of them went home the same day of the procedure and had good results.
Have you heard the saying that being brave is not about not feeling fear? Being brave is feeling fear, but doing what's right anyway. Be brave. And good luck with your procedure. I know everything will go well and you'll be rid of your nasty arrhythmia soon!
Sabine
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The skin on my face is starting to peel, and I'm not sure why. I'm out of my face scrub so that isn't an option. What can I do to smooth my skin? (link)
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Okay, yes, use a moisturizer, though I wouldn't use baby oil unless you have generally dry skin because it will likely cause you to break out. I would get a shower scrubby or just a washcloth, wash my face with warm water and a mild cleanser, and then use the scrubby or cloth to gently scrub my face in light circles to encourage dead cells to slough off. It sounds to me that you coud probbly use an exfoliator and that's the reason you have flaky skin. You're out of your scrub.
Sabine
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the people that live next door to me have a young duaghter that always plays with my cat. they try to bring my cat, shadow, inside their house all the time, and they say how much they love her and want her. they just recently put their house up for sale, and are moving. i have a bad feeling that they are going to take shadow when they move, and she is my baby, so i would be completely lost if they did. how can i prvent this from happening? i cant keep her inside, because she loves being outside, and theres no way to keep her out of their yard. i dont know what i would do if they took her!
please help! any ideas would be more than appreciated! (link)
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I don't think I'd be rude to them. That would probably get your parents upset at you. What you should do is find out what day they're moving, take shaddow over the day before to say goodbye to the family, and keep her in just for the day of the moving if at all possible.
By the way, your city might have an ordinance against cats on the loose, so contacting the police might do you harm as well.
Good luck,
Sabine
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So i was late for my period by a week or two but i didnt think much of it. and then i was laying awake one night and had the worst stomach pains of my life and i woke up the next day with blood so i thought i had my period. well i just got my period again and it has only been a week sense i got my period last. could i have had a miscarage?
what should i do... (link)
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If you're sexually active, it's possible that it was a miscarriage. An embryo/fetus of that gestational age would be very small and easy to miss. However, the more likely explanation is that you're having hormone fluctuations which cause cramping, spotting, and irregular periods. Sometimes periods can come and then shut off for a few days at a time and then come back. If you experienced morning sickness, breast tenderness, or extreme fatigue while you were late on your period, I would say it's likely you were pregnant. Since I can see you're only 15, though, I think it's more likely that something has caused your period to be unreliable.
I hope you feel better. Yuck.
Sabine
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this summer, i want to meet a lot of people from my school and get a lot more friends. i also want something that pays over $7 an hour and is relatively close to my house if possible. anyone have any ideas? i want to meet guys mainly. so no girl clothing stores or whatever. (link)
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Have you thought of lifeguarding for your neighborhood pool?
Sabine
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ok so i went to this resturant were bands were playing all day, and there was this guy there, i would look over and he would look right into my eyes, i would be sitting and feel someone looking at me, i would turn around and he would be looking at me, but the thing is ive never talked to him befor, like i see him around, he is 5 years older than me but i dont know if he knows that, we when to a party and him and his friend were there, his friend was hitting on me but not suttle at all and everyy time he winked or tried to undo my bra through my sweater and shirt, the guy would look all sad, i really want to know what was going on, and if it was just all in my head!!, sorry for the length of this question, i apreaciate any help i can get! (link)
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It sounds like the guy who was staring likes you and was upset that his friend was being not only flirtatious with you, but kind of a jerk. He was probably hoping you'd tell his friend to stop and ask him to go off with you.
Sabine
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how do you make a strawberry banana smoothie? like steps to make it and what makes it taste bette than jus ice, water, strawberries and bananas. (link)
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Usually you need to add some plain yogurt (or strawberry or some other flavor would do) and possibly milk and sugar. There are recipes for smoothies on the internet if you just google it. What exactly you add depends on whether you're looking for low-fat, high protein, etc., and whether your strawberries are fresh or frozen.
Sabine
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i know i already ask this quetion again and some of you probaly had all ready read the first part and stuff and for some who didnt well my freind has a boyfriend and she is talking to this boy on the internet and yes they be talking about sex like you making me horny and all that stuff and i just want to know is it cheating. (link)
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I didn't read the other question, but cheating really depends on what the couple thinks it is. Some couples would say there's nothing wrong with looking at other people. Other couples would say that there is a lot wrong with that. I personally think that it's cheating to engage in any sexual talk with another person while you're in an exclusive relationship. That's cheating to me. Your friend may think that since it's just words, it's not cheating.
I don't think I'd tell her boyfriend, though.
Sabine
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ok so i just opened a savings account. i already have my own checking account. i want to know how do i split my paycheck and put it into my checking and savings account. ive got these deposits slips that i was given but im not really sure what to do with them. i tried going on the website but i didnt really get anything and i asked for help at my local bank but they werent that informative. please someone explain to me how to do this asap (link)
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Are you asking for help on how to transfer funds from your checking account to your savings account or are you asking how to set up your paycheck with your employer so that a certain amount goes into savings and the rest into checking?
If you want to transfer funds you would need to do it every time you want to make a deposit into your savings account. You'll need to go back to the bank, ask for a manager, and ask him or her to stand right there and help you fill out the form so you know what is needed. Let him or her know that you have asked before and were not given the answers you need.
If you want money to go to your savings account every time you get paid, you will need to speak with human resources at your job or whoever does the direct deposit to see if they can set it up for you. The deposit slips they gave you have your account number on the bottom and your human resources will need that in order to automatically deposit funds into that account.
If it's something else I didn't get, please let me know and I'll try to clarify.
Sabine
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Well when my mom and dad were married, they adopted 4 kids, myself, my younger brother, my older brother, and my older sister.
We arent blood related, all different, but from the same country.
Anyways, they were married for like 22 years and then they got divorced, I'm 16 now.
They got divorced when I was too little to understand, but as I got older I did go through the 'every other weekend' at my dads house, and on 'wednesdays' where i would visit with my younger brother.
Well my dad got married again,
then he got divorced,
and then he got married again to a women named *jane
And currently he's married to her right now.
See my dads like 52, and his wife is in her mid fortys I guess. I'm not sure.
But recently we found out that they are expecting a baby. My mom said it didnt really bug her anymore, but today during church, she just started balling and left the service, it was about mothers day.
She said it was because she doesnt think its fair we didnt have a dad growing up really, and now he's going to devote so much time a new baby. I understand that, and I feel really bad for her. But I really dont think I need a father, my dad and I never really had a relationhip, a good one, and he has been verbally abusive and sometimes physically but not horribly, and I think that is the cause why I have such resentment towards "men" I dont like my friends dads, because they make me uncomfortable.. but thats not the point, I cant deal with that problem right now.
What am I supposed to do about this,
I mean how am I supposed to feel?
I honestly dont care, my dad hasnt fully come out to me and told me that they are having a baby, but he already told my older sibblings,
and they told me.
He wont flat out tell me and my younger brother yet, he said that he has good news to tell us but wants to tell us with *jane. I already know what it will be. His whole spiel that he told my older sibblings.. "i love you, and even if i hav e ababy it wont change anything... i wont love it more than i love you... ' blah blah, frankly I dont care if he did.
Its not a big deal to me.
I dont know, if I'm asking for a specific question, its just my whole life has been "this" kind of complicated. Having divorced parents, and just the little things that happened, the things that you cant just explain to people on the internet, you know, I'm jsut confused, and I dont know what at all to think.
But PLEASE dont tell me I shoudl accept the baby and everything, I dont want to be part of its life. (link)
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Okay, so what I understand is that you're sad for your Mom, but you've come to terms with your father's lack of consistent parenting (or possibly consistent lack of parenting). You've dealt with his apparent inability to commit to a family and have come to the point where you just don't care what happens with his romantic life or his new family.
I'm sorry your mom is having a bit of a hard time with it, but she will have to come to terms with it in her own way and time. There is, of course, a lot of stuff for her to deal with. Mother's Day is a very vulnerable day for mothers who are grieving the loss of a parent, child, or a partner because we're reminded of how things could have been different. Probably tomorrow she'll be back to her normal self and coping better.
I don't think you need to feel any way other than how you feel! You aren't in denial about what your father has contributed to your life or what he has lacked. The only thing I think you might want to consider is that your new sibling may at some point want to know you. You may wish to keep yourself open to the possibility that you will want to know your brother or sister for his or her sake or for yours and not for your father's. It's possible that you won't, but I hope you'll keep the options open.
I think you should smile, say congratulations to your father and his wife, and listen to your father say how he'll still love you the same, knowing that even if he doesn't, it's not that big a difference in your estimation. If it doesn't feel like a big deal, don't force it. And if you feel differently later on, then you can deal with it at that point.
I hope I have helped.
Sabine
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I asked a question about being bored a long time ago about being bored.You told me to join or form my own community drama theatre group.I want to start one but I don't know how to go about it.I will need people to corporate with me but the only people who I know who coullld help me I bump into once in 4 months and ignore.We used to be good friends in the past but then we had big fights.I can't call them after 3-4 years and be like "want to start a community drama theatre group?".I want to but I can't.They used to like putting up shows and stuff like this.What should I do? (link)
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Hi. First of all, let me say I remember the question well. I'm sorry you were offended about the quote I gave about the bored being more contemptible than the boring. It's just a quote and it illustrates for me a point that we can all do something to entertain ourselves if we want to. Of course, it has its limitations, too, like you may not be able to do much in the middle of church or if Great Aunt Bertha is sitting there telling you about clipping all 48 of her cats' toenails. In general, though, a young, intelligent person like yourself should be able to find something to do. I'm glad you're looking rather than exploring the option of killing yourself. ;)
I don't know how big a town you live in or what your year level is in school. Both of those things would help with my advice, but I can tell you this. When I was a sophmore in high school, one of the teachers had a college-aged son and he was active in the theater. We got together a group of kids who generally were involved in Drama at the school. There were kids from all levels. We set up a small theater troupe and performed "Oliver!" We did it during the summer and held auditions, which we announced in the local paper. We dressed up well and attended the meeting for a local arts council and got a $200 grant to cover the price of the scripts (you have to pay royalties to use them). We held auditions and after about 8 weeks of weekly or twice weekly practices, we put on the play in our high school auditorium, using the drama department's costumes and props. The money made from ticket sales (mostly to parents of the children in the plays) went toward the expenses of the next year's play. I was involved only for 2 seasons, but it was a great learning experience.
Now, in your school you said there's a group of kids but you're not friends. Are these the 'drama' group? Are there not other kids who might be interested in drama, but can't or don't want to be in that clique? How about some of those who are in Knowledge Bowl or sports during the year or those in Forensics? I remember that in High School, at least for me, there were a whole bunch of kids who didn't really belong to one clique or another and who would have liked to have had a friend. I found that when I reached out to them, they were different than I thought. You may find people who want to be a part of your theater group in many different places you weren't expecting to see them.
One thing that would really help is if you had some drama experience yourself. Hopefully, you will be able to cast and direct a play or find those who can. Don't try to be the director or star in the play just because it's your project. You should cast the best person for the job. Another thing that would help is if you had a teacher or advisor who would be willing to help you over the phone or in person during the summer. The drama teacher or coach is a natural person to try for this. He or she could obtain permission for you to use the theater at school, or you could see if there's a theater in a community building or something.
Any way you look at it, putting on a community play will be enough work to keep you occupied. It will lead you to meet new people and possibly have new experiences, such as meeting with an arts council to get a grant. It will look terrific on your college applications as well!
I wish you luck and please write to me if you have further questions I can answer.
Sabine
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My life is really messed up. My mom has severe OCD and she basically ruins my life. She's a great person, although slightly annoying, but living with her is hell. My house is a mess because shes a packrat. We keep collecting junk. I can never have friends over because there's no where for us to hang around. They think my family is like part of the CIA or something cause I've never invited them over. I never have any place to work or do my homework. My parents are way too overprotective and never let me do anything normal teens can do like walk uptown or get dropped off at the movies. I'm not allowed to date until I'm a senior and even then its looked down upon. Once a guy friend called my house and she totally spazzed. & associating with guys outside of school is out of the question. My mom always nags me and has these random outbursts of crying and yelling. Plus she has a bunch of crap wrong with her, so she can't do much physically. Yet she does all of the laundry, dishes, and cleaning because she insists that i'll do it wrong-- the ocd. But then she complains when I don't help her. Most people i know couldn't deal with the shit I go through. She does stuff that moms arent supposed to do, like starts crying in the middle of a store for no reason, yells at me in public for the littlest things and insults me with terms such as bitch, whore, etc, and says it seriously. I've had an eating disorder for almost 2 years now and she hasn't even noticed. Don't tell me its bad, i Know, its not like I'm dying or underweight. I can stop whenever I want to. Anyway im basically wondering if anyone knows someone that behaves like my mom or has OCD that can help me deal with this, cause I just can't take it anymore. She deinies her probs & wont go on meds, so a psych. is out of the question. (link)
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I think you should tell a school counselor about your eating disorder and the stressors that trigger your behavior. If you mention the name calling, the counselor is obligated to report it to Child Protective Services as it is abuse. That's the best way I can see of you getting what you need: family counseling. Your mother is obviously mentally ill, your father is apparently afraid to rock the boat because he's letting her illnesses consume her. From what you've described, I'm not sure it's OCD, though it may be, but she seems to have a problem with hoarding and anger problems and possibly bipolar disorder. She needs help and won't get any better until she can see what her behavior is doing to her family and her life. Don't your mother's doctors notice that she has not only physical but also mental problems? If there were some way to communicate with them, they might be able to get your mom the help she needs, but I don't know how you would do that without convincing your dad to speak with the doctors or something.
Whatever happens with her, you should make a committment to yourself not to let her behavior make you hurt yourself. So reform your bad eating habits and commit to keeping yourself strong and healthy so that you can grow up to someday have a daughter whom you will raise totally differently from what your parents have raised you. Take care of yourself now so that you have a future you can enjoy someday.
Sabine
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13. my bestfriend was abused im many ways. her mom was a drug addict. her mom gave her drugs through shots and made her smoke and used many different drugs on her. her and her 2 sisters. my friend stopped growing but got on so many medicines and started again this year. she has 2 skin diseases and extremely deep smokers cough. her mom left her alone in a different state when she was in kindergarten. later her mom went to jail. her and her sisters went to her aunts. all this happened when she was 4 till 10. shes now in depression and hides everything and all she does is screams yells and stares. she still cant get over it she had no idea it was bad. now shes paranoid of drugs or even smoking or alcohaul anything like that she was abused with. now were doing d.a.r.e to resist drugs its a daily year round thing. and she has to do it and she doesnt say a word the whole time or just actually cries she never crys. i feel so bad for her. she got a restraining order on her mom and her mom is in jail till the end. her mom also had mental problems/ alot of people are doing drugs and everything already and when she sees someone she tries to kill them or atleast punch them to the ground. she is normal other than depression and being paranoid of drugs and stuff. how do i get her to leave others alone SHE SHOULDNT TRY TO KILL PEOPLE. how do i stop her how do i help her a therepist didnt work. i fell soo bad for her ill do anything for her. she cant get over it i know itll be hard. i need help to help her. HOW! (link)
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What a horrible thing for your friend to have to go through. What a horrible thing for you to have to clean up after the adults in her life. Where was her father during all of this? Jeez. I have a kindergartener and I don't leave her alone in the house to go to the mailbox most of the time, much less to another state. I watch how much caffeine she gets. Your friend could desperately use a good surrogate mother. A surrogate is a stand-in who would take care of another mother's child.
What your friend is doing is taking out her mother's abuse and neglect on the drugs and applying her anger to the users of drugs and alcohol. She doesn't understand that the drugs and alcohol didn't make her mother do those things to her. They were the tool by which her mother abused her, but people every day use alcohol responsibly and arguments can be made that marajuana can be used responsibly. No matter where one stands on drugs, of course your friend cannot very well go around hurting others when they make bad choices.
I don't know what options you have except to take her to a school counselor if possible and push for her to go to a different therapist. The therapeutic relationship is difficult to get just right. There has to be a basis for common ground and trust. There are not going to be many people who can match your friend's experiences and know what she's feeling. Most of us can only imagine. That doesn't let her off the hook, however. She has to gain the knowledge that her mother *chose* to do what she did. Many people will take drugs. Very few of them will inject drugs into their young children. That was a choice she made. You may say she only made that choice because she was on drugs. That might excuse the first time, but I can tell you that at some point she probably knew she was hurting her children, but rather than ask for help, she lit up again and chose to put her need before her children's safety. As a mother, if I had ever hurt my child that way one time, I know I'd do whatever I had to do to make sure it didn't happen again. So it's not just the drugs your friend has to come to terms with. It's also the fact that her mother love drugs more than her children. It's that rejection that probably makes your friend so angry and depressed.
What you can do practically is push her toward professional counseling help and steer her away from situations where people might be doing things your friend can't handle; don't take her to any parties or let her be around the stoners, etc. Maybe she could convince a school administrator that she's seen enough of the bad effects of drugs and talking about it re-traumatizes her. She might be able to be excused to study in the library or something during d.a.r.e.. Maybe someday your friend will start to chill out when she realizes that an adult woman can have a glass of wine with dinner without becoming an abusive lunatic. Right now, she's so young to have to deal with the life she's lived. It's unthinkable. I wish I could help more.
Sabine
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15/f
1. lately my nipples have been hard, almsot 24/7. even if im not turned on at all. i know this is probably normal. but its weird, because if its just all of a sudden like their always hard. and it feels like i have to itch my breasts for it to go away.
2. a couple days ago i was shaving under my arms, and felt a little ball. its right in my armpit and is very noticable when i put my hand there. its definately a ball there, but i dont know what it could be??? my mom said she thinks its like a ball of fat or something , b/c shes had the same type of thing before and it went away in a week or so? if it doesnt go away in the next week im getting it checked out.. but does anyone have any ideas on what could be happening ? (link)
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The nipples being errect is a puzzling thing. I guess I'd just get a padded bra and not worry about it.
Regarding the ball under your armpit, you should get it checked out. It could be a swollen lymph node or possibly a cyst, but you should have it looked at.
Sabine
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