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< I am a Christian and I am a mother >Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.
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How do I become a magazine or photoshoot or computer model? Not the kind where you walk down the runway? I'm a 13 yearold girl who is pretty and has a nice body, I'm only about 5'3 though. I live in the Boston, cape Cod area of Massachusetts.
First of all 13 years of age is a GREAT age to begin modeling. Clients like younger faces that can look older is needed. Secondly, 5'3 is fine for print-ad modeling but if you don't grow any taller you can pretty much hang up the runway modeling which I'm sure you already know.
What I gather is that you want to be a print ad model. The first thing you need to do is get some photos taken. You need professional full body and close-up face photos. You need a lot of them so that you have a lot to work with and also different styles and looks. This is very important. You don't want to have the same look all the time. Each client is looking for something different so you need to be able to show that with your portfolio of pictures. You don't want to limit yourself or get passed on a job because the client thinks you can only look one way. Next you must plan on moving to or visiting places such as New Your City for an extended amount of time. I would suggest going to visit for a couple months in the summer while you are out of school. Clients are quick to pass you up simply because you live out of town. Next you must literally knock on agencies doors. You must do this until your feet fall off. Don't get discouraged because you may not get chosen the first or even the 100th time. It's a tough business and extremely competitive but you must be persistant! You must be out-going and personable. Before knocking on the doors research the agency you are interested in and try to remember things about them. Agencies want to know that you are knowledgeable about the business and especially interested in them representing you. Practice your looks in the mirror over and over. When you think you've done enough do it all over again. Remember you are a blank slate. Allow them to transform you into whatever they need. When it comes to modeling your opinions mean nothing. You basically must do what they want but hold on to your standards and morals. It's easy to get wrapped up in the business and compromise who you are but stand up for your respect at all times.
This is pretty much the building blocks to modeling. As far as Boston I am not familar with that area. There may be some agencies that can get you into local area commercials or local magazines. Search for them online or in the yellow pages. Do the exact same thing with these agencies as you would in NY. I'm leaning towards guessing you won't be too successful if you stay in Massachusetts but I could be wrong about that.
Please please please be safe! No ligitimate agency requires nudity especially for a minor and NEVER pay anyone any money accept the photographer taking the photos for your portfolio. Please go with your parents or other responsible adult. Good luck and always follow your dreams.
I walked into famous footwear today, it being tax free weekend it was packed. I couldnt tell where the line began it actually looked like everyone was still shopping so I just got behind the person that was paying, I was there for about a minute and then this lady taps me on the shoulder and says "um, excuse me theres a line." I turn around and theres probably a line of about 50 to 100 people. I automatically felt embaressed its one thing to cut one person but to cut 100 is a different story, I apologized and then walked out of the store embaressed. What would you be thinking if you were one of the people in the line, I want honest answers!
At first I would be pissed at you just like when for example theres a really long line and you are like next in line and suddenly another line opens up and the person who just got there ends up first in line. That SUCKS!! But in your case since you apologized I think most people would assume you just didn't realize there was a line. And when you left they probably figured you were irritated because not only had you already been waiting a couple mins but now even more people were in line that actually came up after you. I wouldn't worry about it too much. It happens all the time. Just a tip if you are at Walmart or a store with several checkout I like to go to the liquor department or jewlry department and check out there. Much much faster. ;)
Hello. I went on one of these makeover sites to edit my pictures and LOVE them. I would like to save it to my documents and such so I can put it as my profile picture on other sites (facebook, tumblr, etc.)
But it wont let me.
How can I do that?
When a picture can't be copied, saved or sent I usually try to take a picture with my camera or phone and then save, print, or send it that way. Sometimes it doesn't turn out too well but it's worth a shot. Good luck I hope you can get them because I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. :-(
Hi, I'm a 19 years old girl currently studying in university. I have no close friends since high school and now I'm finding it hard to find friends in uni. Im not shy to initiate conversation and tried lo lift up conversation. However, most of the time people don't seem to be interested. I used to have a friend who I met at uni orientation. We are not close but same classes made us see each other frequently. She is smart and serious type of girl, and I always be very careful not to say anything insulting. But since I start second semester, she avoids me. I can't ask her what happen because I'm too scared and I'm finding myself alone. I know something must be wrong in my personality because this problem always happen. During high school, in first year I hung a lot with many friends, but then the numbers progressively decrease since then and in my final year, I only have 1 close friends who I can share anything with. How should I change myself? Thanks for anyone who answers this question...I really need the advice
Before I begin to give advice could I get some additional information? Are you from the United States? If not, what country are you from? How far away is the university from your home? Are you an only child? Are you from a broken home, single parent home, mixed household, or two biological or adoptive parents you have always known and loved? Are you in a relationship with anyone (boyfriend)?
If you feel comfortable answering all or some of the above questions it will help me give you better more relative information.
What is the regular size of a full grown penis
I've seen some as small as 2 inches and as large as a foot long. However the average is 3-4 inches and with an erection 5-7 inches.
Why do men feel the need to lie about infidelity if she already knows what happened? Does this mean there is much more similar activity that the wife might not know about?
I think the fact that they refuse to admit guilt is the greater issue. If the man can not even admit the truth when he knows he's already been caught there really isn't much farther you can go with that aspect of the relationship. He's a cheater, lier, won't admit it, so he's not willing to make a change. He's going to continue what he's doing and in my experience no one just cheats once. It is possible for the cheater to change there ways but typically not within the same relationship. He may understand and accept commitment in the future but most likely with another partner. I have found this true with infidelity and also physical abuse. If the wife continues the relationship as is what incentive does he have to stop his cheating ways. There are no repercussions in the relationship so the relationship will most likely continue down the same path until the wife puts her foot down and leaves.
When Me And My Bf Fuck His Dick Always Goes To The Side (With Boner) And Not Straight Like Its Suppose To.... I Told My Friends About This And They Said It Was Beacause He Has Sex Alot Or Cause He Had Sex The Day Before..... I Dont Know What It Is Can Someone Tell Me What's Sup With That??? :/
Absolutely not! It is quite common for a guy to grow towards the side. There is something called Peyronie's disease that causes this to happen but it can also just occur naturally. If indeed the problem is Peyronie's disease is can be treated.
Be careful when sharing your personal/sexual relationships with your friends in the future. This is personal and could be embarrassing for your boyfriend but also girls may want to try your man out for themselves. Believe me it happens.
I am a 13 year old girl and I need to get rid of acsess stomach and thigh fat.Every time I look into the mirror I fell very self conscince.I dont have alot of money so what should I do?I need help/advise!
After three children I was able to lose stomach fat with the following workout:
Position your body on the floor as if you are going to do a push up. Instead of resting the weight on your toes rest it on the top of your feet and ankles. Then push up on your hands slowly as much as it feels comfortable. You should feel the tightness and pressure in your stomach. Tilt your head up to the ceiling as far back as it will go comfortably. hold the position for 10 seconds or so and try to feel the burn. Do several repetitions each day and you will see results.
So, I was planning to make a mixtape for my darling boyfriend, who's birthday is next week. C: I have quite a few songs, but I wanted some more. Any suggestions?
We both love music such as: The Who, The Black Keys, Maroon 5, The Fray, David Bowie, AFI, Muse... stuff like that :)
Oasis - "Wonderwall"
Slipknot - "Snuff"
Red Hot Chili Peppers - "Under the Bridge"
The White Stripes - "Fell in Love With a Girl"
Foo Fighters - "Walking After You"
Stone Temple Pilots - "Sour Girl"
Metallica - "Nothing Else Matters"
so im 18 and my boyfriend of three years is moving in like 20 or less days over seas forever :( and i wanted to give him somthing so special so sweet that he could keep with him till i get to visit in december any ideas?
I have a special blankie from when I was a baby that I still sleep with. Well I cut a little piece of the silky edging off in the shape of a heart and I sewed it up and left a small hole and put stuffing into it and then I sewed the rest up. It was like a teeny tiny silky heart shaped pillow that he can carry in his wallet. It's really thoughtful and something he can have with him all the time but small enough to put away in his wallet. Do you like that idea?
I was fingered for the first time four days ago. My boyfriend was being rough and so the next day it hurt. Right now I am still having slight aches on and off on my lower abdomin. There is a chance he had precum left on his finger and I know there is a very slight chance of pregnancy but part of me is still concerned. Could I be pregnant? The only other symptom I have is a bit of fever. How many days is normal for your abdomin to ache after your first time? I am 19. Thanks in advance.
From what you described you are definately NOT pregnant. However, if your boyfriend had any type of bacteria on his fingers and was fingering you very hard to the point of irritation it is very possible that he gave you an infection which would make since as to why you have a fever. The fever is the body's way of fighting off infections. More than three days of pain is unusual after simply being fingured but if you indeed have an infection that could explain the ongoing pain and fever. If it doesn't clear up within 5 days I would go see your regular doctor if you are uncomfortable seeing a gynocologist although that would be the best route to take. Your doctor can prescribe you an antibiotic that will clear any and everything right up. Good luck and tell your boyfriend to stop being so rough. How would he like a hand job so hard that his stuff hurt for several days? ouch!
How long after sex till you see the signs?
Chlamydia 1-3 Weeks after exposure
Crabs 5days to 7 weeks after exposure
Gonorrhea 1-14 days after exposure
Herpes 2-7 days after exposure
Syphilis 3 months after exposure
HIV up to 3 months to show on a blood test but symptoms may never appear.
Please be safe!
Hi I'm a guy and recently I had sex with two different partners. With the first girl, we used condoms and I got blowjob and sex afterwards. However, with the second girl, being drunk, we both gave oral without condoms and used condoms after for sex. From the looks of it, she gets around pretty often. And it's been about five days since I had sex with her and I have a very small red bump about quarter of an inch below my lower lip. I'm still pretty young so sometimes i get pimples, but this seem to be bit different looking than pimples. Could this be herpes? If so, which type of herpes could this be? What kind of things should i avoid doing for awhile? And would there ever be cure for herpes?
It very well could be herpes however, the virus is exactly the same as te cold sore virus. There are no cures but you can get herpes medication that will keep you from getting outbreaks. The best thing to do is avoid contact using your mouth during an outbreak and also avoid touching the bump and then touching other parts of your body without first thouroughly washing your hands. Don't worry too much about it because stress actually can cause more frequent outbreaks. You should be fine though. Try going to your local drug store and get something called herpecin lip balm. It should stop the itching, iritation and speed up the healing process.
How to treat pinched nerve without spending money. What are working home remedies to treat pinched nerve in lower back?
I had the worst pinched nerve of my life for two years straight. I am so sorry you are suffering this way because I KNOW it's HELL!
For me honestly it didn't subside until I lost weight. Even just a small amount made a big difference.
Ice helped the most and anti-inflamatory medications. Muscle relaxers if you can get a script. Also laying on your stomach and having someone pull the leg on the side that hurts eleviates the pain ALOT for a little while. It's like it moves the pressure away but once you get actie again and it nerve makes it's way back it hurts all over again.
However, after losing 60 pounds I no longer have the pain at all.
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texas
ok. so im doing my senior overalls and i dont know what to put on them. people are telling my to put my name, class, seniors, sprinter (because i run track) && school and mascot but before i do that, i want more ideas, i want at least one thing nobody has ! any help?
P.S. Please dont try to answer and say you have no idea of what im talking about . thanks .
Ok, do you have a group of close friends you still go to highschool with. What if they gathered up some of their clothing that is too small or they no longer where and cut a piece out of it? The clothing should have meaning like for example: oneday something great happend and they were wearing that particular shirt so you take a piece from that shirt and so on. Put them together in a pattern that is meaningful. Perhaps the pieces can form the mascot of your school.
You could flare the legs and make it so that it laces up. Use four shoe lace like holes and put shoe laces through them. The laces should be your school colors. Then when you laces them the flare is more of a straight leg. When the laces are undone their could be a patch that can be seen. On the patch you could have your friends sign their names or write meaningful one liner phrases that only you and your friends know what it means. But then when you lace it up you can't see the patch.
Does any of this make sense? It's hard to describe but I know what I'm trying to say. lol
One more idea. Do you have any tattoo artist friends? Is there a tattoo you would like. Maybe they can draw it up and you can incorporate that onto the overalls.
i'm a dancer and was stretching one evening while doing the stretch on your back with one leg on ground and the other going towards your head. while doing the stretch i must have pulled it cause there was like 3 "popping" noises. i did this injury in the beginning of january and my hamstring still hurts. it was a lot worse before to the point where i couldn't get my leg 90 degrees but now its getting better. but i still can't do my right split cause there's still a pain in it. it's more right under the buttcheek. i asked my mom to take me to a doctor for it but she refuses. i tried icing and heating all these months but it still isn't better. it's not like i can rest it completely either cause i have dance 2-3 days a week for 4 hours. i stretch it gently but nothing works. any advice? :\
Honestly you're going to probably have to do exactly what you don't want to do and that is COMPLETE rest for awhile. You definately need to get it checked out because there are so many things that could be going on but injuries especially those involving the legs and back are incrediably hard to recover fully from. You have to rest it completely for a good length of time or it's never going to get better. The you'll have to rehab it for awhile to build the strength back up. But, you are young and your body should come back from this if you will allow it.
Why won't your mother take you to see a doctor. You are hurt and in pain and it's affecting your life, your happiness, and your progression.
I enrolled for school today, and when I got home, I kept second guessing my schedule. I'm going to being a junior this year. In one of my class slots, I have Food and Nutrition 1 for first semester, then Psychology for second semester. I've been contemplating all day whether I should try and switch those classes out for Spanish 2. (Hopefully I am able to if I choose to do so) If I did that, I was planning on taking psychology in my senior year. The thing is, I'm worried it won't fit into my schedule, since I know for sure at least 3 of my hours will already be set in a specific hour. Plus, I'll feel behind/left out since a lot of people I know are taking it this year. If this helps, I'll only have 1 semester open in my senior year, since my other extra curricular classes with be choir, orchestra, and Financial Literacy (1 semester). I would very much enjoy going to a college out of state though, but I know there are certain requirements. I'm just afraid I won't meet them. I'm sick of my hometown, and going to a college in California is ideal for me. I want to get out and explore the world and have more opportunities, but that might have to wait until after college. :| I know there are many things to consider, such as tuition fees, livings costs, etc. Are there any colleges in California that don't have many requirements for out of state students? I plan to join clubs and volunteer for my last two years of high school, so maybe that will help a little? I'm afraid I'll make the wrong choice in choosing what's academically best for me, or what's ideal for my interests. I'd like to get other opinions or suggestions on what I should do!
Well while you want to appreciate the entire college experience you must consider your future. What area of study are you interested in? Generally state colleges are pretty easy to get into and not as "costly". Going to a CA school shouldn't be hard at all but you must focus your first semester/year because so many people party too much or just don't put in as much time and effort that they should to succeed.
Are your parents able to help out with your living costs and extra spending money? How far away are you from your ideal college. Traveling back and forth and moving each summer gets hectic and expensive as well. I would suggest going to a school about 2 to 3 hours away. That way you are "away " but not too far.
I think you are definately on the right track already thinking of college. I would also recommend you looking into getting a degree in a area of study where you can find employment with a company that qualifies for Student Loan Forgiveness. Not only will you have graduated and find a job but you won't have to pay back your loans. Then there are other jobs you can get where you only pay back a small portion of your loans and they will forgive the rest of the loans. You don't want to have to pay back $50,000+ in student loans for the rest of your life. So please do look into Student Loan Forgiveness careers.
You are still very young and thinking ahead, I think the nest two years will give you a better idea what you want to focus on. I do recommend going away and experiencing the college life. I regret having stayed at home and doing my study now that I'm in my 30s. I erally missed out. So travel, experience, and enjoy :)
so my step dad and mom live together ad married but wont say happily. just the other day we got in a argument and he called meh a bixxh and told meh he wants meh out his house im 16 and where am i supoze to go.. my mom said he cant put meh out but i want to go. the thing is just two years ago he had told my sister and my brother this and they moved now he tells meh. and im pretty sure hes going to tell my younger siblings this soon. the crazy part is that his dather iz 21 and she still lives there and he say i have to live when im 18 . how could i tell my mom he just dont like none of her kids and hes trying to get rid of us all
As a mother myself my children come first before any and everything and everyone. It is her duty to protect her children and it seems to me as if she has chosen her husband over you all. Blended families are dificult at times especially when the children are older but when your mother first got into this relationship she should have been able to judge this guys character and should have been able to tell if this guy loved her children which he clearly does not or has a funny way of showing it.
I would definately talk to your mother if I were you and explain how you feel. If she doesn't make changes for the betterment of you and your other siblings then you might want to go somewhere else where you are loved and appreciated. Life is too short to be miserable and to made to feel unwanted.
Did you tell your mom when he called you a bitch? That is completely unexceptable. He is a grown man and should know better. I have a feeling that things aren't going to get much better sorry to say. If he has already forced your other siblings out and your mom is fine with that there is nothing keeping him from continuing. You're going to have to just stay strong and do the best you can. But know that you don't deserve to be treated this way. This guy is completely in the wrong. When he married your mother he was marrying into a family not just a single woman and now he wants to change things around. You were here first, you are still a minor and should be taken care of not pushed aside to make him feel good/happy whatever the case is. He is selfish and I can't fathum as a mother why your mom as allowed this to go on at all.
I'm so sorry you are dealing with all of this.
That Message With Hello...Again Was Me Thank You For Your Advice Hopefully Everything Goes Well Tomorrow And I Can Be Put Under My Boyfriends Household Just The Thing Is His Parents Aren't There His Mom Passed Away And His Dads In Jail His Gaurdians Right Now Are His Grandparents I Do Get Along With Them They Do Like Me His Aunt Is The One Who Wants To Take Both Of Us In Though So Yah It's Gonna Be Journey Ahead I Just Hope And Pray For The Best For Me Maybe That Will Give You A Little Back Ground Of My Boyfriend If That Helps Any...
Well it great you have some options! I would definately take them up on their offer just until you can smooth things over with your family or perhaps living with your boyfriends family can be a permenant thing until you are able to move out on your own.
But like I said before try your best to keep a good relationship with your parents because you will need them again and honestly they need you too. They are just hurt and probably feel like they failed you as parents. But they aren't taking in consideration all you are going through physically emotionally and mentally. Being a teenager is hard as it is but being pregnant is 10 times harder. I think you are doing great with your hormones going crazy under all these circumstances I commend you.
Good luck tomorrow, stay strong and fight for your baby. No matter where you end up living still go ahead and call the numbers I sent you and see if they can give you all the help they promised me they would give you. I'm so sorry you are suffering this way but everything will be ok in time I promise. Once your beautiful baby is here feel free to write me with any questions because motherhood can be tough and confusing. Every situation is different so don't let anyone make you feel like you aren't a good mother for any reason. We are all learning as mothers. Kids don't come with instructions manuals so we have to learn through trial and error. Trust me, three kids later I'm still figuring it all out.
If you would like to email me my address is matlock_ferrell@yahoo.com we can write back and forth that way too. But if you are more comfortable with how we are doing it on Advicenators that is fine with me as well, but I tend to check my email more often.
Don't be discouraged you can do this I PROMISE :)
My Dad Has Asked Me Before Do I Wanna Pack
All My Shit And Go Live With My Boyfriend That's The Way He Said It And I've Always Said No Cause I Was Scared But Now I'm Not Anymore And If I Say Yes And Do That Will Everything Be Better I Think So But Can I Ask For Your Opinion? Cause He Wants To Kick Me Out Already?
I'm sorry but when I receive a question I have no way of telling who is asking the question. So I am only assuming you are the 15 year old girl I have been emailing back and forth all today. If you are not her I do apologize and please write me back with a bit more detail so that I can give the correct advice for your situation.
If you are the 15 year old girl has your dad given you the option of having the abortion and staying with him or keep the baby and move out?
If you keep the baby and he wants you out and your boyfriends parents are whilling to support you than I would definately make that move now. Get adjusted and take the support your boyfriend and his family are willing to give. However, if his parents aren't supportive you might have a worse situation becasue although your parents are upset with yoiu being pregnant I'm sure they love you more than his family does and when it comes down to it for example if you and your boyfriend disagree or breakup his family will mostlikely side with him. I hope what I'm saying is making since.
If you have the option of moving in with him I would take it as long as he is supportive and is in no way abusive towards you. You can still get all the help for food clothing school medicaid, child care and so much more. You will be surprised all the help you can receive.
Try not to leave your parents home angry or them angry with you. You love them and they love you and you will need them again I promise you this. If you decide to move let them know that you just need to be in a home that is more supportive right now and where you aren't under so much stress of feeling like a disappointment. Assure them that you want them in your and your baby's life and that right now you just need to focus on staying healthy for the sake of your baby. Once you have the baby let them know you are taking steps to better yourself and the future of your child and that you take full responsibility for your child and just need emotional support right now. Tell them you love them and are available when they are ready to speak.
However, if your boyfriend simply can not take care of you financially or if his home is unsafe or unhealthy in anyway you might want to reconsider the move. You don't want to go from a bad situation to a worse one.
I'm sorry I can't give better advice. I just don't know much about your boyfriend and his family. Just remember to think of your baby first. What is the best solution for your baby it may not always be whats best for you or what makes you the happiest but what is safest, healthiest, and loving for you precious little one.