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Q: Ok so I'm 13 and I have a boyfriend and I had to have sex with random guys in front of him,my boyfriend took videos and stuff and now I must do it everyweek with atleast 5 guys I think I'm pregnant though(no period,nasias,tired ect...)And I'm scared that I am because my mom and dad will kill me and propbably disown me! Please help!

Why are you allowing your boyfriend to do this to you is the real problem here. You obviously must not have any sort of love for yourself or you would seek help and see this is wrong and also put him in jail. Forget your parents disowning you, get some self worth.

Q: Title says it all. I dont wanna know comments like ''Too Young''. Please answer. I need to know.

...Welp. There is no question here. Maybe try reposting this.

Q: If I went to the doctor October 2nd and found out I was 8weeks and 4 days then around what time did i get preganent?

8 Weeks and four days from October 2nd.

Q: Hi I'm about 14 an I have been dating this amazing boy for 3 years. We are in the same class and he use to sit by me and when he did he would put his first 2 fingers to or it seems like fingering me. Trust me it feels amazing to my vagina.
What should I tell him?

wow... three years. Longer than most people my age. LOL. Yeah but anyway I kind of have a question for you, why would you let him finger you in class? Not judging you or anything but instead of wondering what you should say, shouldn't you be wondering about your priorities?

Q: Well right now, my life is very stressful. My family is moving to a different, smaller house, and we've got a lot to do. My stepdad left for good a week ago, and we're having a hard time with money, which is why we are moving. I am a senior in high school, and I have been stressing about college, community service hours, and everything else in school.

I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and we are sexually active, but sometimes on and off for two weeks. We use protection (condoms), and it's been eight days since I was supposed to have my period. Sometimes it's late, but only by two or three days. I'm not really worried about being pregnant, because I think I would honestly know... Is my stress causing my period to be very overdue?

It is possible stress could be pushing it. But just incase take a pregnancy test, you might not think you are but it's better safe than sorry.

Q: What make you happy?

Music.

Q: I once had a 5-7 yr old boy put his tiny penis in me,did he take my virginity

i'm just going to guess this is a joke, and remind you this is a site for people seeking advice and that you are being disrespectful. Have a good day.

Q: I'm 21 years old and have pretty large breasts (36DD). I got new bras over the summer but have recently lost some weight so I think they're significantly smaller now, the bras may even be big on me. I've always had an issue with my boobs being kind of saggy and matronly-looking. I don't mind being big in the chest I just don't want them to make me look chunky. What can I do to raise them a little? I already have pretty good posture. The bras I have now are minimizer bras, are these not very flattering types of bras? Should I do chest presses? Where can I go to get a bra fitting? My mom took me for a bra fitting a few years ago to some random place and the woman was sooooo obnoxious and pushy and all up in my shit. Is there maybe a nice department store where they have a fitting service or something? Should I find push-up bras? Btw, Victoria's Secret doesn't fit me ever

Victoria's secret is made for smaller chested girls looking to look bigger. you need a comfortable one that takes care of your breasts. I'm a bigger chested woman myself. check out Lane Bryant. it's a bit more expensive but it's better bras. also some tips for helping the sagging thing, moisturize your breasts... i know that's weird but it helps. lotion them once a day. wear bras even when you sleep. exercising your upper chest areas also helps.

Q: 18/F I'm a greeter at Wal-Mart, so I interact with a loooot of different people on a daily basis. Well this one time later at night, this guy who looked to be about 30 and frankly, like a wannabe gangster pot-smoker, came in. I turned around when I heard the automatic door opening and kindly greeted him. He gave me a slight smile and walked past me, but he turned around and said, "You know, you have REALLY pretty eyes. Just thought I'd tell you that." Stunned, I said "Haha, thank you very much! Have a good night." and he walked away. He comes in about 2 or 3 times a week, and ever since he said that, I'd always smile at him when I walked past him, or greet him all friendly-like when he walked in. I just thought he was a nice guy, and I greeted him just like I greet the old people that come in. WELL, tonight I was returning some garlic bread back to where it belongs, when I saw him. So I smile and give a nod as I walk past. Well, I put the bread back, turn around and there he is. He says "Hey, do you have a number I could have so we could get to know each other?" I've never been asked for my number before, and he was so outright, I didn't know what to do. So I said, "Uuuummm... I don't know... How about YOU give me YOUR number?" So he asked if I had a pen and some paper, I said I didn't, but that we might have some up front. I start walking, and he follows me across the whole store to the front. I give him some paper, he rips it in half, writes his number down, and says "Give me your number too." I panicked. I've never dated anyone, let alone been asked out before. He seemed like the type that would call me a ton. SO, I wrote down my dad's old cell phone number which doesn't work anymore. He then asked me if I liked cage fighting. I said "Uh no, not really." and he goes "Well I'm fighting at the arena downtown next week, maybe you can watch one of my fights." and I said "Um, maybe!" then he asked what time I got out of work, to which I said I didn't know. I DEFINITELY didn't want him seeing the car I drive, or possibly have him following me home. He lives in the area, and comes in all the time, and what's worse is I'm a GREETER, so I'd HAVE to talk to him again. I thought about it, and I feel really bad... I probably shouldn't have done that, but I didn't know what else to do! I couldn't just flat out reject him, I see him all the time. After thinking about it, I feel terrible. So I tried to call the number so I could say something like, "Oh sorry, I accidentally gave you the wrong number! Things are complicated, and I'm really not looking for a relationship right now..." or something like that, but his writing's REALLY messy, I can hardly read the numbers they're so squished together, and when I attempted, I got some lady's voice mail. I really wasn't trying to be mean at all. I don't know what to do, or if what I did is right or not... Please help me! Thank you for your time.

Hahahha. omg. this made me laugh. i'm a front end associate at walmart too. and i've had guys ask for my number. and you had a right to be cautious, you don't know him like that and you never know what some random guy is capable of especially when you don't even know his name. so DON'T feel terrible. But with that said that is why Walmart doesn't approve of that anyway. You shouldn't be giving out your number to customers whether it's yours or not in the first place and yes you can get in trouble for that because you are being paid to work not to get your "mack-on". but with that said you now have a good excuse for when the guy comes back.

Q: hi im 21 and i used to have a lot of hair but i kind of lost it with all the gel and straightning ive been doing to it.i even had the chinese hair staightning done to my hair and i think that has caused it to stop growing. i had curling hair before and now is straigh and verry puffy and rough. please help me. my hair is a disaster. i want it to grow again and make it fuller and curly if possible and make it stop breaking. if i go at this paste i will be bald by 30 because new hair isnt gdrowing... help help help please!!!! i wear extentions but i dont want to wear them anymore

my hair got destroyed because it is very sensitive to straightening heat and such. so at one point i pretty much cut off most of my hair, and started wearing wigs, weave, extensions, and such. least to say after less than 8 months my hair was almost to my shoulders again and much more manageable than before. try it. it's annoying and feels like forever but it's worth it. i made the mistake of messing with my hair again and plan to cut it again. don't make that mistake.

Q: Hi I'm 21 and people say they can smell my bad breath. Even when I'm done brushing my teeth with Colgate toothpaste and listerine someone says its still smells bad. How can I cure this because this is seriously EMBARASSING. Thanks for the help!

i know it's probably embarrassing but go to the doctor, bad breath is curable. you might have halitosis.

Q: i want to have sex with my best friend but he doesn't know

welp, for me personally, i'm mad honest and would probably just let it "slip" one day that i totally wanted to hump the heck out of my best friend bahahaha but that isn't the advice i'd give you, start to pay attention to your friend, to see if they are interested.

Q: Hey, female, 18. Just moved into University about 4 days ago. There is a guy from my high school going here, in high school I thought he was so cute and we talked and all but I didn't think there was anything there especially because I was a nerd in the marching band and he was a star on the football team. Well, freshmen year, he was put in the same class as a close friend of mine and they had a nice little chat. She said he was happy that they chatted because she thought he was the biggest douschebag. So, we were texting and I told him that and that she's happy they chatted and he isn't a douschebag. He texted me back and said 'what the hell, i'm not a douschebag!' So, I just told him that he comes off as a little bit of one and he just replied back with "oh..." so I told him I didn't mean to offend him. We argued for a good 15 minutes eventually me getting to "well, most jocks are douschebags so it's okay, haha" just joking around and he said "I'm not the typical jock, (my name)" Like, he was trying so hard to prove to me (when I wasn't even the initial subject to our conversation even starting) that he wasn't a douschebag. He stopped texting me back after I told him that I never said he was mean, I just said he comes off as a little douscher. Now I don't know if he's mad, if I bruised his ego haha or if he does have feelings for me because he tried proving to me that he was a nice kid. I just don't know what to think about anything or even to what to say to him now. Help?

Even if he likes you, you deserved to not get a reply. you obviously have some sort of friendship and he probably felt judged. You let him fall into a category.. "jock" and assumed he was like everyone else. and than did actually insult him. try apologizing. but if he liked you.. hope you didn't like him back because some people are turned off by judgmental attitudes.

Q: Am I the only one who think that 'mtv disater date'is a fake?Like after one hour exactly,all guys who are supposedly being pranked decide to walk away,and all of them just stop and turn around once they're told they're on mtv disaster date.It all seems really false to me,what do you guys think?

Actually not all of them do walk away after an hour some of them do stay and than they spring it on them or they leave before and get less money. The point of the show is pretty much to see how long they can stay on the date (after basically being put in an uncomfortable position the whole time)

Q: I have only met my girlfriend and I really like her how do I know if she likes me back?

usually one someone is your girlfriend, they ALREADY like you.

Q: how to make him love me more and get attracted to me ?

You can't MAKE someone love you, i'm pretty sure if you could *giggles pointing thumbs at myself* I'd be with Nicki Minaj, well until someone else makes her love her... but than i'd have to eat their soul... and errr never mind off topic. pretty much he'll fall more in love with you with time and if he is attracted to you? you should probably break up. that's not a good thing in relationships.

Q: I am a 16 year old girl and I masterbate probably on average 1-3 a week. But I get bored of the same old same old, so I was wondering what anyone of your girls out there have any good masterbation techniques (preferably ones that make you orgasm). I'm just looking for something that mixes it up and makes me feel good. I'm not opposed to objects either. Thank you!!

Err. welp personally solo masturbation to me is too ewk so can't help you.
but i can tell you you probably will get any answers on this website just because you didn't already list what type of techniques you can do so we understand the exact situation

Q: so ive been writing poems and i was wondering if you could read them and tell me what you think:)
they're kind of depressing..

Her skin tells her story
Her arms recite her past
Her face is full of sorrow
Her smile will never last
What once started out so simple
Soon spiraled out of control
She thought she’d never let it go too far
But she was lost after her first scar
She mistakenly turned to a sick obsession
She found release in her own pain
She used her blade as her own weapon
And could breathe from the scarlet stain
If you looked at her you’d never know
She never lets her pain show
She hides behind laughter and smiles
All her problems look so mild
So when she tells you her story
When she admits to her past
Maybe you’ll understand her sorrow
And why her smile never lasts

her arms are scarred and bloody
her face is black and blue
her feet are wet and muddy
and theres nothing she can do
shes blinded by her tears
shes chained up to the wall
but in the darkness she can hear
footsteps in the hall
silently she waits
for the opening of the door
the withered face of sorrow
greets her with hands that are torn
she counts her highest heart beats
and swallows every breath
opening her eyes slowly
she stares into the face of death
no one can ever guess
the secrets within a knife
he presses the blade to her chest
and slowly ends her life

you should join allpoetry.com it's a fun social network for poets. ^_^

Q: Hi!! So um long story short I was very stupid and poured hot (not steaming hot but still hot) water from the kettle into a plastic sippy cup which melted causing the water to burn 3 of my fingers. I've tried running it under cool water and my mom told me to put polysporine on it but it still is burning. My fingers are swollen I have a blister the size of a small blueberry on my index finger and two smaller ones (one each on my other two fingers) . My fingers feel like they are burning but they're not red. What else can I do for my burn(s)?

ahh i see... you should probably actually go to a doctor or something because you're first mistake was actually putting it under cold water. contrary to belief, you don't push opposites like burning fingers and cold water together

Q: So I kinda melted this cup I got from the circus 2 years ago and my grandparents paid like $9 for it. It was a complete accident but now I'm feeling really stupid and guilty about it. What can I do?
P.s. I can't get another one cause the circus has moved on to somewhere else.

you can tell the truth and offer to repay them.

bio

Hi, thanks for coming to my column.

The name is Diamond but Dia is fine.

20, female, jersey girl at heart. mixed race taurus natured woman.

So...the reason I made this was during the start of my senior year of high school I had reached a point in my life where I didn't want to live anymore. I was tired of fighting and didn't see the reasons to fight. It was a random stranger that made me realize I would be stupid to take my life and to stop fighting.

So if you think I'm going to tell you life gets easier, I'm not. Let's face it, it doesn't get easier. Through pain you get stronger and learn to open your eyes to those things that give you strength to live.

Mine happen to be music, writing, dr. pepper, anime, the color black, the way rain sounds, and an amazing boyfriend. What gives you strength to live?