Heyy, my name is Brittany. I am sixteen years old, and I was born on the 9th of July. I am very different from most people I know, and I love that! I'm a virgin..I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs and I never have. I am selfish, stubborn, and most people would say I am spoiled. I hate not getting my own way. I dislike liars, and I can't stand being in a moving vehicle without any music playing. I love the color pink, and my favorite number is 39. Country music is my favorite, but I like a little bit of everything. My boyfriend's name is Brandon. I have obsessive compulsive disorder, and I am very paranoid most of the time. I worry a lot. I laugh a lot, and smile even more. I'm very insecure, and can be quite ditzy. I like giving people advice, when I can..My best friend's name is Katie. I am extremely lazy, and tend to be very random.
Gender: Female
Age: 16
AIM: BrittanyMichx39
Member Since: June 17, 2005
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theres this really cute guy in my new school im going to. hes SOO cute and he looks at me.. sometimes. lol. well anyway i do everything to try and get his attention but hes too busy doing other stuff what can i do to make him notice me?? and what can i say to him to ya know just talking? HELLLPPP. (link)
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Always look straight at the guy; they like that.
Don't be aggresive when you flirt. Example: Don't make fun of them to get their attention. Make a cute little comment about something they're wearing.
Be yourself. Honesty, sweetness, etc.
Always try to comment on a few things you know they like. If you already know he likes baseball, then tell him you love going to baseball games when somebody you know is playing. Maybe his response will be: "Hey, you know me, so you can come watch me play."
Never look desperate or obvious. Remember those old movies when the guys are always intrigued because the girl's a little mysterious? Perfect. But it's just a little. Like, don't spill yourself completely. Say a few things you like that you know he likes: sports, movies, music, etc.
Anything that'd make him see you're a cool girl.
If you're going on a basketball date, don't beat him at it. Remember: the male ego is fragile, and maybe some of them like it to see you as Shaqweena, but most, don't like to be horridly beat at something they love. But no one said you have to make it easy. Show him you've got skills.
Do not, I repeat, do not start droning about everything that's going bad with you. You can maybe say one thing, like "My little brother never stops bothering me." Then laugh like it's a bit of a joke, and forget about it. They do not want to be brought down. They want to be happy with you, not depressive.
(i found that information at this website: http://wiki.ehow.com/Get-a-Guy-to-Notice-You-Without-Doing-Something-Wrong)
Good Luck!
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OK well i think i might be annorexic. I'm about 4'9 and only like 86 pounds. That never seems to be thing enough for me. I'm always trying to lose weight some how or another. Now i don't know what to do...i don't want to tell my mom b/c i'm not sure if i am or not and i don't want to worry her. I'm just scared that i'm getting myself into trouble with this stuff...does anyone have ne suggestions for me? I'm scared...i dont want to end up in the hospital b/c of this...thanks in advance! (link)
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Here is a website that explains what anorexia is, and how you can tell if you are or not.
http://www.edreferral.com/anorexia_nervosa.htm
Also, here is a website that I found where people talk about their eating disorders. You might find it helpful.
http://www.dietitian.com/anorexia.html
You definitely do not sound fat to me! That is very thin. I am 5'5 and I weigh 108 and I think I am fat. Nobody else thinks I am tho. I try not to eat all the time, but I never seem to be able to lose any weight. People tell me it is b/c I don't have any to lose. So if you try and try but still can't lost any weight, that is probably the reason that you can't!!
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ok...i wanna start wearing makeup...and i was wondering if anybody could give me advice on what colors and things to choose from
I have Brown Eyes, i have a tan, and i have light/dark brown hair..
SOMEONE HELP! (link)
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In my opinion, for brown eyes the best colors would probably be a peach color, or a light pink. Here is some information I found on a website though that I thought might help you out a little.
1. Shadow for lid: Soft peach that blends into your skin tone. This color should simply brighten up the area.
2. Crease: No color on brow bone.
3. Liner: Dark brown smudged into lashes. A hard line should not be visible.
4. Mascara: Dark brown to black, but just one layer for a natural look.
5. Blush: Work a baby pink blush into the apples of your cheeks. It should look as if you were born with this color.
6. Lips: Using a lip brush, apply a rosey shade of pink onto the lip area, blot and then apply again. This should ensure that the color will last. *Using a brush also ensure that you use less lipstick than straight from the tube. This technique looks very natural.
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my friend spent the night at my house and her cousin was at her house but he has aol and yahoo and stuff. so we were talking to him online. i think i like him. and he said he wants to be my boyfriend. but i already have a boyfriend. whos millions of miles away right now. he'll be back in September but i dont know what to do! my recent boyfriend is 1 year younger than me and this guy is 2 years older than me. (i know, i dont date guys my age lol) I don't know what to do! the one whos not my boyfriend is in a different town but it only takes about 6/7 minutes to get to his town and i go to my brothers house in that town almost every weekend and sometimes weekdays. but we go to different schools and stuff. the only way we would see each other is when he goes to my friends house..cuz their cousins...lol. and i live half a block away from my friend. and my boyfriend goes to my school and lives in the same town but i still never get to see him......hes in a different part of the school. i dont know what to do!! help me please. i dont wanna cheat. :( sorry its so long.
*will rate 5's* (link)
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Well, if you don't think you like this new guy more than your current b/f, then go for it. ask him out! but don't do ANYTHING until/unless you break up with your b/f first. Think about what you really want, before you do anything too. Who will you see more often? Who do you trust more? Who do you think it would last longer with? Who can you talk to about serious things, AND joke around with as well? (I don't know if that kind of stuff matters to you when it comes to guys, but it does to me.) If you go out with this new guy make sure it wouldn't cause any problems between you and your friend (for dating her cousin) or between you and any one for that matter. Just follow your heart!
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ok.. so i have this friend... at one time she went through some really tough stuff.. and I didn't mind helping her and talking to her and stuff... but it was like she'd put me on a guilt trip and make me feel so sorry for her.. and like convince me I was all she had.. but then when we were at dance or something.. she was all happy and idk... not even the same person... so she finally got counselling after she started cutting and stuff.. they even wanted to put her in sight care or something.... but now i'm the one thats not so stable and she doesn't even care about me anymore.... she still sends me texts every once and awhile saying things like "i'm so lonely :'(.. I have no one!" ect....so i finally come out and tell her waht's bothering me and at first she cried with me and told me everything would be alright and we had this huge talk... but now she is being such a bitch to me... she doesnt have time to talk to me or hang out with me because she's always with other people.... and when we do talk its like "hey how are you?" "ok u?" "i'm ok" "well i g2g later" and thats it!! i just don't think its fair that i was always so loyal to her ... and now that i'm the one that needs help i dont have anybody...... its much more complecated then that but i guess that'll have to do...
5's to anyone who HELPS. (link)
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If you ask me, she is definitely not the kinda friend I would want to have. But then again, most people, believe it or not, are exactly like her. They only care about themselves and their own feelings. I think you should just try to make new friends, and get a new best friend. Someone you could talk, who actually WILL be there for you! If you told her how you feel and she is still doing this to you, she can't care that much. If you just need someone to talk to rite now, you could try talking to your mom or if you have any older sisters that might understand, they might be able to help. You could also get counselling too if you feel alone, and don't have anyone to talk to about your problems. If you want, you can IM me on AIM (my s/n is BrittanyMichx39) and be more specific and give me more detail about the problem(s) you are having, and I'd love to try and help you out or just give you some advice or suggestions on how to make things better! Good Luck!
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At what ages to guys and girls stop growing. I knew..then I forgot haha. Thanx (link)
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Well I just went to the doctors the other day and he told me that girls stop growing 3 or 4 years after they start their period. Guys stop growing around 18 years of age. However, many people stop growing before the time when most people do, it's different for everyone.
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i need help with my make-up. i'm going to be on camera for school next week and i want my makeup to look perfect. i have blonde hair, blue eyes, and i'm light complected! could u help me out with like...everything? thanks! (link)
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here are some make-up tips I found by searching google.
1. Shadow for lid: Violet
2. Crease: Use a little of the violet (above) and smudge it into the crease. A softer lilac should be used above the crease, over the brow bone.
3. Liner: Periwinkle blue applied according to your eye shape. Try different placements if you aren't sure.
4. Mascara: Several coats of eggplant (a deep purple-black), but watch for clumping.
5. Blush: Combine pink and apricot. While it might sound strange to mix these two colors, I often find that the combination works better than either color used alone.
6. Lips: All attention is going to be on the eyes, so a soft sugary pink will be all that is needed on the lips.
7. Beneath Eye: A touch of smokey violet beneath lashes.
http://beauty.about.com/cs/blondehairblue/a/lovingcolor.htm
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Alright so the start menu/task bar/ thing on my computer used to run along the bottom...but my friend did something (she doesn't know what) so now it is running vertically along the right side. If you know how to reverse this so it is at the bottom again i would really appreciate it. I'll rate 5's for anyone who can give me directions on changing it. (link)
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All you have to do is click on the toolbar and then drag it down to the bottom of the screen. It should move, if not..you might have it locked on the side of the screen. Just right click on it and deselect "lock the taskbar" if it won't move, and then it should move to the bottom again.
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okay so i'm doing all my school clothes shopping on monday so i have to get all of them in one day. i was wondering what is like 'in style' and what i should definitely buy when i go. THANKS! (link)
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Jeans with holes/patches on them are very "in style" I went school shopping the other day, and I saw a lot of orange and brown. I guess those are the "in" colors this year. I also got a lot of t-shirts that have cute sayings on them. Aeropostale, American Eagle, Boscovs, JcPenney's, and store like that have some pretty good deals! PacSun, and Hottopic are good as well!
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im new with this whole period thing. ive had it for about 6 months. i was supposed to get it a week ago, but i didnt. i havent had sex or anything, is this normal ? Will i get it soon, again?
[ not like i want it anyways :-p ] (link)
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For most girls their periods are irregular at first. It has to have time to adjust and get used to a normal schedule. It's perfectly normal if it doesn't come on the exact day/week that it is supposed to. I have had mine for about 3 years now, and it still isn't on a strict schedule. If you are really worried about this tho, you could talk to your mom or see a doctor. but I don't think there is anything that you should have to worry about!
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suddenly i feel so alone
my cat hasnt ben sleeping in my room
my dog hasnt been asking me to walk her
my birds havnt been whistleing
and my mom hasnt been home
my mom is going on vacation for her b-day with out me
my dad works in brooklyn and gets home at 1 in the morning and has to leave at 6 in the morning
my sister isnt ever home && she treats me like crap
my friends havnt been inviting me over
you know what i mean, why do i feel so alone?!!?!? can you help me how to get with people
PS people arent alowed here with out a adult (i like by a lake and yeah)
i cant get to their house
they live too far away for their parents to drive me
my mom and dad have a job
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my sister hates meso she doesntdrive me places
i am never able to tlak to my family! (link)
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don't be afraid to try and talk to your parents when they are home. your sister shouldn't treat you like crap, especially if you are nice to her. does your father ever have a day off of work? maybe you could ask him to do something with you on a day he isn't working or busy. tell him and/or your mother/sister that you feel alone and like nobody pays any attention to you. school should be starting soon, if it hasn't already, so you will be able to see your friends there! if your parents/sisters/friends don't listen to you when you try and tell them that you are alone, find something else to occupy yourself with. do something around the house, call your friends, watch tv, listen to music, get online. also, you could always try counselling if you feel you are becoming depressed b/c of your situation. or is there another adult that you could talk to? maybe an aunt or a grandmother that you could confide in. don't worry, sooner or later things will get better. Good Luck!
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Who knows any good Xanga layouts?
FREE FIVE if you answer good lol! (link)
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here are some sites i found for you, that have a lot of awesome xanga layouts. (and if you look on the left side they have a lot more listed that you might want to check out!)
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=x__layoutsSITE
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=hXc__layouts
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http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=omgfcukinlayouts
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Just wondering if anyone thinks its possible to put twin turbo in a 4 cylinder (link)
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It is possible, but it's hard. You would have to redo the whole engine. redo the pistons, exhaust manifold. You have to have the rite turbo head. You see them a lot in v tech civics, integras, tiburons.. You could just buy a VR4 3000gt or galant.
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I saw my ex-boyfriend when we went back to school. He got way hotter over the summer (that's not it) he grew up a lot like matured. I was shocked and like "turned on" or attracted. So I started to become his friend again. We talk and flirt and laugh together with each other and people think we're going out. in a few classes hes in 5/8 classes of mine. We went out for 7 or 8 monthes and we mutally broke up. I think i like teen love him but hes in love with r and stuff. So today I was like K your madly in love with R arent you? but he wouldnt answer and just smiled. I like him so much and I dont know what to do and if he likes me or R. Should I go after him? If I do how do I do it without doing something stupid or slutty? (link)
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If he can't tell you an honest answer, as to whether or not he likes you or "R" more, then he couldn't have matured that much. He might be leading you on if he doesn't tell you if he likes her when you ask him. Flirting with him, is a good way to get attention from him, but don't waste your time if he doesn't seem interested. Let him come to you! You don't have to do anything stupid or slutty, a guy should like you for who you are! You are still young so you're going to go through a lot of relationships! Ask him again if he likes you or not, and be serious about it. Tell him that you like him, and tell him that these are your feelings that he is messing with, so you would like an honest answer!
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is there anywhere where i can get cool stuff in my aim profile?? (link)
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http://www.wittyprofiles.com
http://www.blueshadowz.com/profile.htm
http://www.picgames.com/aim-profiles/unlimited-aim-profiles.html
http://www.iconator.com
you can always look at profiles on AIM of peopel who have "madprofiles". they usually have cute quotes/away messages/songs lyrics/ etc. etc. here are some good s/ns..
GANGStAh BAbiiEx
UHDO0RAHBOWL xO
Heavenly Devil X
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I've been Depressed like forever. When i was little i got really bad mentally abused by my mom and to top this all off i'm fat. Well i'll use the Word Big. I'm not ugly or anything and I look normal, well, Good porportioned, not like a big stomach and stuff...I'm 5'8" at 200 :( It really isn't fair. I've been Depressed and Very low self esteem. Right now i'm trying to do exercise and eating less. But I don't know what i can do to cheer myself up or Feel better about myself. I have plenty of Friends, I get along with anyone, I'm the funny girl...But i just don't feel the way about myself as people see me. I just got rid of my addiction of self mutilation to myself and I need to cheer up to become Happy and get the energy to lose weight. I just want to feel good about myself...and It's quite hard :( (link)
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You shouldn't have to change the way you look for anyone, unless you are doing it for yourself. If you feel you look bad, or weigh too much, go for it. you can find plenty of good exercises online. (just search google) Don't take it so far that you become anorexic or bullemic tho..then you are just going to have even more problems. it sounds like you have a pretty good social life, with lots of friends that care about you. it's just your life at home that needs some improvement! does your mother know that she is hurting you? it's great that you don't hurt yourself anymore! you are probably a beautiful young lady who just needs to be shown that she is loved at home. don't listen to people when they say something negative or bad about you! they aren't perfect either, nobody is. and when people tell you that you're not good enough, that is when you know you are better! just keep your head up high, but if you really feel the need to get some help, you can go to counselling or talk to a close adult, friend, or even teacher for some advice!
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Hey.. I'm a sophomore in high school, I go to an all girls school in Missouri. I came to high school without any friends from grammar school really.. I had no close friends of which I hung out with. I came into high school and met a ton of people.. but all of freshman year I never went out on a friday night. Now, I just started sophomore year and I'm making a real effort to talk to people and try to make friends but it's not working. I'm in honors classes and it just seems like a lot of the girls in the class are not like me at all. I try to be social and make friends but no one seems to wanna hang out wiht me. I'm also just a totally different person at school than the person I am at home. I am really funny and loud at home and at school I'm quite. I'm shy sometimes too. I think people get the wrong impression of me. I just really want this to work. The girls in my honors classes are "loserish" I guess you could say, and the other girls drink, and I don't drink (alcohol). I feel in the middle.Theirs a sophomore dance in february and I want a group of friends by than so that I can meet some guys through them to go to the dance with. It's really depressing and upsetting. I know that most of you will probably say that I should get to know people, and introduce myself, and I am. I am in class with basically the same girls I was freshman year. If no one could give me advice, and encouraging story would be good. Is there any of you that were in my situation and found a group of friends? please help! (link)
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I think you should just try to be yourself! Don't be afraid to say what's on your mind. When you know the answer to a question, don't be scared..answer it! Get people to notice you, but speaking up. If you are quiet and shy, people will just look rite passed you! But if you are loud and outgoing, people will love to be around you! You could always try to talk to people at lunch, or gym (if you have it), or ask someone for their s/n or phone number! Give em a call, and ask if they would wanna hang out sometime after school or on the weekends. Have a party or a sleepover, and just invite everyone and see who shows up! Just don't be afraid to be yourself! I found information on a website (mentioned below) that i thought you might like to read:
http://www.shykids.com/shykidsfriends.htm
Making Friends -
1. The quickest way to make a friend is to smile. When you smile, people think you are friendly and easy to talk to. It may not be easy at first to smile. But, you can practice in the mirror. When you look at yourself, think if you'd rather talk to your smiling face or your usual face that may look scared or angry. Remember that other people have feelings too and most people will stay away from a scared or angry looking face.
2. One easy way to start a conversation with someone is to say something nice about them. For example, you could comment on a great answer to a teacher's question, good catch at the ball field, pretty shirt, etc...Think about how great you feel when someone says something nice to you. Doesn't it make you want to keep talking to that person? 3. Ask your new friends questions about themselves. Who's their favorite singer, where do they live, who's their teacher, what do they do after school are all good questions to start a conversation.
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14/f...Sometimes i feel as if i were cursed... (lol), Well my life just sucks for me sometimes... HEres the dillio (haha) I live with my dad and four other brothers... WHICH sucks because i dont have any privacy what SO EVER!! my mom left us when i was two so i never new her, but i do give my dad credit on growing us up.. But my brothes suck i mean all they do is play sports and talk about girls, i cant even have a normal conversation with any of them without them doing stupid boy crap (farting,joking,burping) i mean eww i hate living with BOYS hah... My dad i love him too death he just doesnt understand me at all, i mean i cant talk to him about personal or girly stuff because he just doesnt know it, ive tried and he has failed... and I cant even talk about boys with any of them because they dont even understand themselves so how the hell are they gonna understand another boy... But like i just get aggervated because all my dad does is go too their damn sports game and their in every sports game fucking possible so i never get too hang out with my dad... all he does is work,sleep,cook,and go too their shitty sports games... I try too make his life easier because i know its hard being a single parent and raising 5 kids... like i clean the house,dishes,vacumm,sweep,all those other chores but everything gets ruined eventually and im tired of doing it all over again... My brothers treat me like shit and i get no respect for anything..... I just feel so unwanted... and i feel scared too talk to my dad about everything because its just weird spilling out all your feelings too a guy when its about them... HMMM ANY ADVICE ON ANY OF THIS???? (link)
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I think that if you try to tell your dad how you feel he will understand, or atleast try to! I know what it's like to have guys around. I only have one brother, but i hate trying to talk to my mom when her b/f is around. He always jokes around and never takes me seriously when i try to talk about something. But anyways, this isn't about my problem, this is yours..lol. Do you have a female cousin, or a close aunt that you could talk to? Or your grandmother. You could always talk to them about your "girl" issues or problems. If you need someone to talk to about guys, you could always talk to your friends! Does your dad go out on dates, or is he still interested in finding a g/f? If he is, maybe you could try to help him find one somehow, so then you'll have another girl in the house! Or even just a close "female" neighbor, that you know well enough to talk to about your life. There are a lot of things you could do. If you are absolutely unsure of what to do, you could talk to a counsellor or something like that, to ask them what you should do, b/c they actually know what they are talking about, i don't lol..i'm just trying to suggest some things to you. you also might want to just try and talk to your brothers. well..maybe only one at a time. figure out when your dad works, and when your brother's games are, and just try to schedule some time for just you and your dad to hang out, and talk! i'm sure if you keep talking to him about things, he will get better at understanding you, and girls! Good Luck!
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16/f. I recently wrote a loooong thing about how my mom was making me mad. I was the one doing all the cleaning and stuff and they weren't doing anything.
Well, all week I've been doing some major cleaning (because thats all I EVER do...) and getting ready for this yard sale we're supposed to have on Saturday (which I keep thinking we're not going to have because thats how my parents are... they'll say that and then come Saturday they'll say "Oh we woke up too late" or "Lets just have it next saturday"). So I've been spending my last full week of vacation, inside, cleaning out things, etc. Today I talked to my cousin about how we were going to Disneyland Saturday night (we're passholders) after the yardsale since she was coming home after 2 weeks with her dad. Since her dad is at the half way point from our house and Disneyland, she asked if I would pick her up on the way. I said of course since it was on the way and it would be helping her dad out with gas and all. Meanwhile, I wasn't even planning on staying outside doing the yard sale since I've been getting everything ready, doing all the cleaning all by myself. I didn't think my parents would make me do the yardsale since I've been doing all that. Well, I go in the computer room (where else would my mom be?) to tell my mom how I would pick my cousin up on the way. She said "No, no, no, no... you have to help with the yard sale". I tell her how I've been cleaning and I didn't think I had to stay out there. And she said that they would need me (my mom and dad will be there, why do they absolutely need me?). Then I told her, that we were going at night anyways and she was like "Well, I don't want you to be obligated with picking your cousin up." Yardsales usually end at like 3 or 4 and I was going to pick her up around 5 or 6 and head over to Disneyland. And she was like "Call her and tell her you can't do it". I told her I didn't want to, it was pointless since I was going to anyways whether I was tired or not (she said "What if you get too tired at the yard sale?"). And she said she would call her and tell her, herself. Then she tells me, not to tell my cousin any of this... if I talked to her, don't have an attitude or anything (basically, don't tell her how you feel). She wanted to make it seem that I couldn't pick her up (I drive my own car btw...) because I was going to be too tired (which isn't likely). Well, I talked to my cousin later on and she was like "What is up with your mom? She's being stupid... I ended up getting mad at her and hanging up on her. She basically screwed up the whole situation since I already told my dad that you would pick me up, now my dad has to waste gas on taking me home and its stupid since picking me up is on the way to Disneyland.". My mom never said I COULDN'T pick her up. She just said she didn't want me telling her I can because if I 'got too tired'. So she basically called my cousin and said "No, she can't pick you up". But I'm going to do it, since I already told her (even after my mom called her) I would, because we already made plans on going to Disneyland that night of the day she came back (which would be saturday). My question is, is my mom being unfair? I've spent this entire week cleaning the entire house (and this isn't the only time, I'm supposed to clean the house every day--but this week I have to clean and clear out things for this yard sale by myself) and I make plans/ask to go to Disneyland on the same day as the yard sale (its not even the same time) or to go pick up my cousin and she's basically saying "Don't make plans on Saturday because we're having the yard sale". I'VE CLEANED THIS ENTIRE WEEK. Sure she works from 9-5 but she doesn't go to bed until 12:30 because she's on ebay. Why can't she take time off to help me clean? And then I have to help with the stupid yard sale and I just think the whole thing is unfair. And this isn't the only time she's told me to tell people certain things. Anytime I accidentally tell someone something, like "Oh yea, you can borrow it" she'll say "Just tell them that you can't find it... I didn't want to you go and lend that out, its brand new. Tell them that." So I tell my cousin "Yea, I'll pick you up on the way to Disneyland" and she says "Just tell her you can't go on Saturday, you'll be too tired after the yard sale. Nevermind, I'll tell her". I know she's my mother and I know she has a say so in what I do, but isn't that a little too much for a 16 year old? I'd never tell her "No, I'm not going to do that" or "Well, I'm going to do it anyways!" because she's my mom... but isn't she being a little ridiculous? And when I try to tell her that I start school on wednesday and I want to be able to go out, she just keeps saying "I know! Just don't make plans on Saturday". Then she gets me all worked up and I start yelling, she starts yelling and I end up going to my room crying because she won't listen to me. When I say "Excuse me?! Can I talk?!" She shuts up and looks away at the computer screen. She won't even look at me when I try to talk and get my feelings out. I don't know what to do anymore. I went to my room and wrote out a long thing about how I felt on paper, but that barely helped. I can't talk to my father, because he's always been the type who'll listen to me, but since its his wife he feels obligated to take her side. He always falls asleep after work downstairs while all of this goes on upstairs, so he has no clue whats going on, except my mom probably told him when they went out to dinner this afternoon. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have no one to talk to about all this, so I keep everything inside of me. I've tried writing my feelings down, crying it all out, punching pillows, nothing helps. When I've talked to my cousin about it, she'll back me up and then my mom gets mad at me, so she's always like "When you talk to your cousin, don't have an attitude or talk negative" blah blah blah. Her and my cousin are close (she's like a second mom to my cousin, we're all close), but she'll be on my side and back me up. Right now she's even pissed at my mom. What the hell am I supposed to do? what should I tell my mom? She never listens to me and she always shuts me off. I can't stop crying... sorry this is so long. (link)
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Awe, this has got to be really hard for you. I do feel that your mom is being unfair and unrealistic about this whole situation, as well. After you spent a whole week cleaning, and getting things ready for the yard sale, you still can't go where you want? That's really not rite. If you have been cleaning all week, and staying home..I can see why you are so mad. But if you have been going out all week after you stopped cleaning, then your mom might have a point. But as far as I can see you didn't go anywhere. One way you could try to talk to your mom would be by writing something on a piece of paper, and "accidentally" letting her find it and read it. Write down how you feel, and then maybe she'll take the time to read it, and try to understand how you feel. That's really bad that your mom tries to get you to lie to your friends and your family about things. If you are paying for gas, picking your cousin up, paying to get in to disneyland, and paying for everything there, I see NO reason that she shouldn't let you go! That sounds ridiculous to me! Especially if you are willing to help out at the yardsale all day! You could try to talk to your dad while your mom isn't home or if she is doing something else, and tell him what you had planned. Or just tell your cousin the truth! My mom doesn't always listen to me either, so I kinda know how you feel! Do you have any brothers or sisters that you could talk to? Or anyone else, for that matter. Just tell your mom that you will help out with the yardsale but then you are going to disneyland with your cousin. Tell her it's your money, your car, and your gas. And make sure you mention how much work you have been doing around the house and everything. Good Luck!
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hi i was woundering if its ok to look for horses for sale when your not ready to buy a horse and you dont have the money. but im sitting at home al day so i cant help looking for horses for sale I have been emailing the sellers about how the horse that they have for sale would be perfect for me. how can i make my self not want to keep emailing people that have a horse for sale and telling them that i am looking for one for sale?
thanks
Note:i am the person that you ansered my question about how i can talk my parents into buying me a horse (link)
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Just stop looking around for horses that are for sale. occupy yourself with something else. do something around your house, or take care of your other animals. go out with friends. it's perfectly fine to look around to see what horses ARE for sale, and emailing the people is fine too, but you definitely should find out if it's gonna be possible for you to get one. the sooner you find out, the better b/c then you can look and email all you want. you can get more into detail about the horse you want and talk to the people who are selling them more. but if you want to stop, just find other things around the house to do. or go out, and just have some fun with your friends. school starts soon, if it hasn't already, so concentrate on your school work. Good Luck!
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