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I'm a 19 yr old mainly agnostic ex philosophy student with rather strong views about a lot of things. I'm very liberal, love the diversity I live in in London and hate that America hasn't separated church from state.
I'm engaged to the love of my life, but agree it is a little bizarre to get engaged at 18.
I'm confident, quite literally crazy, caring and crippled. My manual wheelchair is called Sebastian and he gets scared when he goes too fast, my electric is called Jermaine (after the Flight of the Conchords character) and he really does not like ice.
I can read Braille and I know basic sign language because I believe everyone should be given equal chances. I dislike it that money doesn't have Braille on it.
I'll do my best to help out with your situations, I've been in and seen many a family conflict, I've had my fair share or love life crises, I've had about every illness known to man (could tell you a lot of amusing stories about psychiatric wards) and I'm "The Queen of Hair Dye" so hopefully I'll have some idea about advice. If it looks like I don't give lots of advice, it's because I only advise on things I know about. I also detest poor spelling and grammar so although having dyslexia makes me a bit hypocritical about this.

advice

well along time ago there was this guy and we went out for 2 months but i loved him so much, we never fought about anythingg and he really cared about me. (well i thought atleast) then he had to move and we wouldnt be able to see each very much so he broke up with me.. and i told him i would wait and i waited a year for him (and during that year he was an ass and he treated me like crap)but then we talked and we started going out again everything was really good and we were going out for 3 months and then in a week my feelings changed and i didnt wanna talk to him, be with him or anything.. and so i told him that i was thinking about breaking up with him ... and he goes "well think about it long and hard, because this is your last chance to go out with me".. i got really mad and it hurt a lott! Soo i know that i should break up with him, and im going to but i just wanted to hear what everyone else thoughttt .. thankssss a bunch

-anonymous

Well you have the answer. Break up with him and leave him. You solved it yourself.

Take care xx

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Is it weird that im in 7th grade and havnt had my first kiss yet?? i mean, so many people in my grade have been kissed. Am im like, a freak or something?

No you really arent a freak, dont worry, loads of my mates didnt have their first kiss till they were 15 or so and one or 2 are still kiss virgins.

And anyway, the other people are probably elaborating slightly on their achivements.

Take care xx

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I think i did soemthing wrong, well i know its wrong...i just need someone to tell me...what i should do after i just did something....i just drank a few sips of voldka...my dad is sleeping and everyone else was out at the bar...so i figured i'd try it....how should i feel now?



TooYoungToDrink

Hunny dont worry about it, kids in England (Im guessing you are american? :S doesnt really matter anyway) usually start drinking about 12 anyway, not getting drunk, just a few sips like you had. Soon you will probably feel a little light headed, a little happy, perhaps a little unbalenced but i shouldnt worry about it. A few sips arent going to make you ill.

And dont worry about being too young, no-ones going to know

Take care xx

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I work at a large department store. I usually work the night shift, from 5 until 10. Well there is this girl that I have been working with. She's normally really nice, but tonight she called me a fucking bitch because I got to leave an hour before she did.
I would NEVER call one of my coworkers what she said. She wasnt joking about it either.
Should I say anything or just try to let it go?

Just let it go, the last thing you want is a huge argument with someone at work who you have to see every day. Trust me on this one, just leave it.

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i like my boyfriend alot and i really want to meet(french kiss) him and he asked me to but the problem is dont know how!!!!! he is really expierenced and every1 he has meet said he was really good at it.
please give me some good tips on french kissing!i rate 5s for every try! (13/f)

Okey well the trick is to try to be relaxed about it, but keep your tounge moving. Not rapidly because thats just strange and annoying, but at a lesuirely pace. Pretend you are writing the alphabet with your tounge. And once you have got your confidence up, try very softly biting his tongue, its a real turn.
Hope it all goes well
Take care xx

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Hey I'm 13 years old and I'm a really advanced reader for my age (just so you know). It doesn't mean I can read/understand adult books but whatever! I really want a list of GOOD books from like all genres!! If you could give me the title, author, and genre of the books you're suggesting that would be great!

I think the whole series of Noughts and crosses books are great:
Noughts and crosses - Malorie Blackman
Knife edge - Malorie Blackman
Checkmate - Malorie Blackman

In that order. They are all brill. However if you ever come across the book Sugar Rush by Julie Birchill, even though it sounds good, dont read it, its a pile of shit. Very Very Very badly written and generally poo.

Other good books:
If you are female you might like 'Love and other four letter words' or 'The earth, my butt and other big round things' both by Carolyn Mackler however you will probably hate them if you are male.

Take care xx

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Okay, so I told my friend that I found a guy interesting (as in he seems to have the same interests as me) and she just goes "ew, him? he looks stupid and he's not eve hot." i told her im not superficial and besides i want him as a friend so whats it matter?

in french class she asked me if i "still liked him" and i said yes, and she dissed him again.

another day i told her i saw him and i shouldve talked to hi but i didn't, and she says "doesn't matter, it's a waste of time anyway, haha sorry"

now im really pissed. she talks to me about this Kyle guy that she likes and she said she stayed up until 11 talking to him online and i told her he's a waste of time, for obvious reasons, and she said no he isnt blahblahblah...

what can i tell her to get her to shut her mouth and to accept the fact that i am not superficial like she is? i want to be able to mention him without her putting him down.

She sounds really annoying, just come out and say it to her that shes being really superficial and annoying. Say it online if you have to, but let her know how shes being a bitch, and if she doesnt take it well then it doesnt really matter because she sounds like you wouldnt really want this kindof person as a friend anyway.
Take care xx

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I LOVE music but i need something new to listen to what are some good bands??

i like mostly rock and altenative music.

5's for anything.

Nizlopi (jcb being released tomorrow, second favourite for xmas no1)
Jimmy eat world (bleed american or futures being the best albums)
Portishead (Old band but still good)
Baxter Dury (Particularly "Len Parrot's Memorial Lift")
Counting Crows (Its all good but best tracks Colourblind and Big Yellow Taxi)
Belle and Sebastian (Dear Catastrophe waitress is the best album, but 'shes loosing it' is a great song)
Ben Folds and Ben Folds Five (I love the song 'Brick')
Ocean Colour Scene (Mechanical Wonder is brilliant)

If you want more I have more music than anyone else i know and i can add more to this list if you want
Take care xx

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okay so i have liked this guy since last year and we have been really good friends. he is in 8th grade and im a freshmen and he always waits for me before 4th period every day and hugs me everytime he sees me. and so i finally told him and he says that we are too good of friends and he doesnt want to mess anything up but i dont really get it because all the girls he has gone out with have like cheated on him and stuff and he knows i would never be like that and i dont understand why you wouldnt want to go out with your friend.. like would you rather go out with a complete stranger? someone please help idk what to do.

Ive been in this situation before, many times, its hard.

Try explaining to him that you would never hurt him and if hes worried about you maybe not being friends after, say how you get on tooo well not to be friends... if that makes sense.

Its worked twice for me! lol

take care xx

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Hey peeps. I am thinking of becoming a goth. But I have some dilemmas.

1 my mom wont let me be what I wanna be. I know the consequences. I told me mom that I wanted to dye my hair black, and she freaked.
2 I cant get past the metaphores. To goths, gothic sayings may have a meaning but when I hear or see gothic sayings or quotes or whatever, all I see is stuff about blood, guts, and death.
3 Idont know any chain stores that has a lot of gotic clothing and silver jewelry with the gothic sighns.


Help.

To be perfectly honest, i think deciding to be a goth is a strange idea, you should be who you ARE, not what you think is cool. If you dont know what the goth sayings or whatever are, or know where the stores are because you are interested, you arent going to make a very convincing goth even if you do try to look like one.

Anayway, labels are stupid and real people dont need them, think about that.

Take care xx

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Anyways, I want to make one of those things where it says *link me* or something those buttons


Im sure its not hard to make them. the thing is how do i put it on my site so it says link me? with a text box. IM me at xxjackieroxxx or post here.

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I RATE HIGH!!!!

The text you want people to click on here

Take care xx

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a guy asked me if i drink but i only drink beer.. so is that considered "drinking"

Yayahs, yes it is.

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Hi Everyone!
I just bought a whole bunch of brown/brown tone clothing and I'm wondering about some "rules" i need to keep in mind. I know brown with black is a big no-no but what if it's 2 different tones of brown? Can anyone help me out?

brown and black is a big yes yes not a big no no but you have to do it in the right way, get it right and you will look AMAZING, get it wrong and you will look a twat. Generally diferent tones of brown go well tho, i have a brown and beige jumper which goes really well with my brown blazer which is completely different brown.
take care xx

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I'm ill and have been for years and i struggle with going out. Because i didnt go out for 4 years and barely go out now my lovely blonde hair turned a horrible mousey dark colour. I really miss my blonde hair, it's getting lighter again now i've started to go out more but it will take ages to go back to its natural colour, if it ever will.
I want to dye it, just one of those home kits where it washes out really quickly just to see if i'd like it. I'm really worried about it turning out a disaster. If it turns green or anything will it go back to how it was before i dyed it? or will it ruin my hair? also because my body is weak, which includes my hair, will it make my hair fall our or get thinner or ruin it in any other way?
thank you

Im afraid you cant lighten your hair with a wash in wash out dye as you need to bleach it, however you might want to try something like sun-in to give your hair some of its natural lightness back, but again this is permenant.

Hope you get better soon xx

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What's the difference between dating and "going out"?? Thanks!

Dating isnt quite as.. solid.

With going out with someone there is usually the question, it is usually seen as slightly more binding than dating which is more casual.

Take care xx

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How do you qualify for a disabled parking badge in the UK?

It isnt actually being classed as disabled which intitles you to one, its whether or not you can walk 100 meters unaided or without considerable amounts of pain.

Go see your doctor about it.

Take Care xx

(but dont even think about doing teh whole fraud of it, thats so selfish.)

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I am in ninth grade. I am doing ok in school, like A's, B's and a few C's, but my parents aren't happy. At all. They think that a B- is, and I quote, "terrible". Well, my mom mostly. She thinks that if I have time to do all the internet activity I do, then I sooo have time to do schoolwork. Like, schoolwork is the most important and excited thing in the world, right?? UGH. She was giving me THE hardest time about it. Saying that some of the A-'s---A-'s!!!---were alllmost B+, and is that good enough for my mom?? Nooooo. Just cuz she didn't finish college and only went to Santa Monica and Stern, and wants me and my sisters to be perfect students. She seriously said that I should've done the extra credit in one of my history classes b/c I should if I have the opportunity, even though I'm getting an A in that class. PLEASE. I mean, I'd much rather be having fun. My motto is to live my life to the fullest, while succeeding as well as you can. I DO NOT believe that school comes first, and no matter how hard I try to tell my mom this, she says that it's life, and I have to deal. I even reasoned---didn't argue, I wasn't nasty, I REASONED---w/ her, but her view of an opinion is "giving her lip". Just b/c I am her kid, I have to agree w/ her outlooks. And my sister is NOT helping. She does well in school, and when I even BOTHER to complain about my mom to her, she agrees w/ her. And my mom doesn't even really appreciate the things I already CAN do. Like play guitar, figure things out nice and fast w/o instruction manuals, juggle, write stories and songs, and other stuff. She just cares that I am not getting A+'s ("We feel that you are capable, and you're not showing us that"---well, maybe I'm NOT capable after all!!!), not getting together w/ every person in my class (they all hang out w/ boys!! which i am not allowed to do!!), and not setting my goal as getting A+'s and going to an IV league school. IT. DRIVES. ME. INSANE. There is this rocker chick inside me wanting to come out, but of course, I am forced to be an almost-prep b/c the only clean music is pop. Thank G-D that Jesse McCartney is good (please don't comment on that). Well, I have to go, but PLEEASE advise and don't skip, and don't say to talk. It doesn't work. (I WILL RATE 5 IF U CAN ANSWER THIS AT ALL.)

I completely understand this feeling, however you cant let yourself be angry about it.

Say to your mum at a quiet time that you think they put too much pressure on you and that you don't think its fair. Avoid saying things like 'School isnt the most important thing' because, to be perfectly honest, especialy if you are in an important year, School should be one of the most important things to you because there will be loads more time for socialising at other times but theres only going to be one shot at your education. And Im not saying that you shouldnt have a social life, just have one in moderation. Show your parents you are being responsible but let them know that if you really do think you dont have the ability, you dont.

Take care xx

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ok i play basket ball and i have a game in a couple of days and i am on my period and i wear a white jersery with whight shorts and i am scrared that ill leak and it will show up all on my shhorts so how do let it dont leak out

wear a tampon with a higher absorbancy than you need

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ok ....so ill be like rubbing myself down there and ill get really really wet and then ill have to stop because its like i cant explain but it feels good but weird and then when i try to rub myself again i cant because it hurts i would have to wait for like 2 mins...is this an orgasam??if not then is it normal and what is it?

I think you would know if it was an orgasm, you probably wernt turned on enough.

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what is a urinary track infection? and a yeast infection? how do you get them? and can they go away on there own without having to go to the doctors?

Dont know about the yeast infection but i just recently had a UTI and it hurts like hell.

Basicly with a UTI you have pain when you go to the toilet, it burns! You will also need to go to teh toilet more often than usuall and often not have anything to pee with. If this isnt treated it can spread to your kidneys so dont leave it, go to your docotr as soon as possible or you could be left with permenant kidney damage.

Take care xx

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