I'm not here to tell you what to think or do, but to give you as much honest, accurate information as possible. If I don't know an answer to a specific question, I'll research it before replying. I won't sugarcoat things; my job is to tell it like it is.
I've got a particular interest in sexual health and sexuality. I know a lot about fertility and pregnancy - and firsthand now, as I've just had twins. I'm also an accredited sexual health worker.
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I need some pills to take to make me feel good. Um plz help me! u dont kno me so dont worry about me mabye gettin hurt. HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP (link)
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Feel good how? Emotionally or physically?
Your safest bet is seeing a doctor. They can proscribe medication which is exactly right for you - the right dose, the right type. It's the most accurate way to make sure you get the help you need.
It might be embarassing to tell a doctor your personal problems, but it's less embarassing than getting your stomach pumped because you made a mistake.
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How do I know after I poop if I really get all of the poop from my butt? Please dont laugh but I continue to have poop in my panties every single day and Im embarrased. Any suggestions? (link)
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I assume you are wiping until the toilet paper is clean. If you are, and this problem exists, then there are a few things you could do:
If you have your own bathroom at home, keep baby wipes in it. It sounds stupid, but if you are repeatedly wiping, they'll be more gentle on your skin and can also help get you extra clean.
If this works, then carry a couple around with you in a ziploc bag; they won't take up any room in a purse.
Finally, take your time in the bathroom, both cleaning yourself AND while pooping. Make sure you are really done when you finish - try to not use the bathroom if you are rushed or are uncomfortable in public bathrooms.
Good luck.
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ok..heres my thing you guys...
*my best friend lost her virginity last year and alot of people consider her a whore now :(
but anyways...my boyfriend wants me n him to lose ours now for our 1 year anniversary hes 16 and im 14...i really dont know if i should becuz i dont wana be considered a whore or nething like what happened to my friend....please help me in doin the right thing!!
signed,i honestly dont know what to do (link)
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You say you honestly don't know what to do, but the only answer is to be honest with yourself. If you are not ready to have sex, if any doubts exist in your mind, then you probably should not be considering having sex.
If you've been with your boyfriend for a year, then you must be pretty close. There are plenty of other romantic and special ways to spend an anniversary, but you need to make up your mind before you are in that situation.
Make your decision, and then talk about it with your boyfriend.
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My boyfriend said that on the first date he wanted to have sex with me but I don't think I'm ready to. I told him I wanted to wait and he said okay we'll wait but now everytime I talk to him he still brings up the subject of "doing it" on the first date. What do I say to him to tell him that I don't want to go that far on the first date? (link)
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Saying 'I'm not ready to have sex yet' should be enough. There's no magic phrase which will make him listen more, except possibly 'If you don't respect me, I don't want to be in this relationship.'
If he really cares about you, then he'd be willing to give you as much time as you needed. Sex isn't something which 'should' happen on a first, third, or twenty-seventh date. It should only happen when both people involved decide, individually and as a couple, that they are ready.
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Can having sex and being sexually active set your period back? This may be a stupid question but i've heard from people that it can..? (link)
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The only actual physical reason your periods would be set back would be due to pregnancy. Aside from that little nine month setback, you might be experiencing stress due to your choice to have sex at this age or with a particular person - stress, along with not eating right or exercising too much, can affect your menstrual cycle.
Another issue to consider is how regular your menstrual cycle is/was before you have/had sex. Sex isn't going to suddenly make your entire body change its normal rhythms, but it will and does affect your emotional health.
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I'm not asking for advice I'd just like to say it's so refreshing to see someone with intelligence and accurate advice around here.
-realisticwench (link)
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Thanks very much! I've only found the site today, but I think it's important to be as honest and up front with people as you can.
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my neighbor fingered me but i didnt get an orgasm. did he do something wrong? (link)
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The best way to learn about what makes you orgasm is masturbation. Everyone enjoys different things, but most women experience orgasm more from clitoral stimulation than penetration.
Spend some time alone with yourself and experiment - you'll figure out what makes you feel good, and that will make it easier to orgasm...whether alone or not.
Good luck.
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iight i've had sex w/ this guy 4times in one nite...and thats the guy i lost it to...well i was woundering it's going to be awhile before i have sex again like 4months and i was woundering is it going to hert again when i do it again??
~15 female (link)
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Did it hurt when you first had sex? If so, then you're probably in for a bit of pain when you have it again...especially if you are waiting four months (and no, I'm not telling you to rush out and have sex!!).
A vagina has incredibly strong muscles - it is not as simple as 'popping your cherry' and then never feeling any discomfort again. Often, a female will experience mild pain/discomfort the first few times she has sex. Your vagina is not used to be forced to expand.
Even if you had sex again a week after losing your virginity, there would most likely be some general discomfort.
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I'm 16 years old and recently my boyfriend and I have been giving each other oral sex. The other day he fingered me, and when he pulled his fingers out, there was a little bit of blood. Could my hymen be broken, and if it is, do I need 2 get an exam? (link)
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Blood on his fingers is perfectly normal. It could be because of your hymen stretching or breaking, because his nails slightly scratched the inside of your vagina, etc.
If the bleeding stopped soon afterwards and you are in no discomfort, then you have nothing to worry about.
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Alright. I'm fourteen-years-old and I'm a Freshman, this year, in High School; just to give you an idea of where I am, as far as maturing goes.
No one has ever really spoken to me about health and growing. And I suppose I'll end up learning about this in Sex Ed. but I figured I would get advice, now, anyways.
This afternoon, I started noticing a soreness on the sides and tops of my breasts. I'm not entirely sure what this soreness means or whether or not it's a good thing so that's where I need help.
Is it normal to have sore breasts? Do you get 'growing pains' as you mature, on your chest?
Thank you, in advance, for your help. (link)
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Have you gotten your period yet? If so, I would start writing down the way you feel on different days. Many girls and women get a soreness in their breasts for a week or two before their period.
This is quite common and nothing to worry about. Taking a small dose of ibuprofin (like Motrin), with your parent's permission, is often enough to help reduce swelling and help the ache go away.
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wuts a hymen? (link)
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A hymen is a thin layer of skin which stretches across the entrance to the vagina. If you are female and getting your period, then your hymen already has at least one opening in it.
There is a myth that hymens remain intact until you have sex, but you can rupture yours in many ways - horseback riding, bike riding, etc. In fact, most hymens have partially or completely disintegrated by your mid-teen years.
No two women are the same, and no two hymens are the same. A doctor cannot tell by looking in your vagina whether you've had sex or not based on the absence of a hymen.
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I went out with this guy for 4 months, (From October to January) and I broke up with him because I thought I had no feelings left for him. I guess it was just a time of the moment thing, because ever since January I've been soo depressed. I've wanted to kill myself. I'd cry every single night. Sometimes I still do. He's not taking me back, and he's a year younger. So I guess he might think I took advantage of him. But, his bestfriend rides my bus and he told me a bunch of shit that wasn't true, and he made me believe it. So basically I was forced to break up with him, blah de blah de blah. I told my ex about his best friend, and he made exscuses for him. Like "Maybe he was jealous, or sometimes he gets mad or hyper and does stupid stuff".
So anyways, this guy that I seriously want to spend the rest of my life with, well I need a way to get him back. I don't just want to be with him forever, I need to be with him forever.
Please, If someone could help me at all, I'd owe you a big one, and I'll rate you too, I just need help. =/ (link)
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I think the first thing you need to do is try to remember how you felt when you broke up with this guy. You said you thought you 'had no feelings left for him.'
I know that I've ended relationships which were not right for me in the past, and then have felt anything from panic to depression once they were over. Whether a relationship is mostly good OR bad, it still leaves a hole when it is over.
This boy was hurt when you broke up with him, but you had your reasons. If you were to wave a magic wand and get him back, those problems would still be there. If he doesn't want you, the best thing to do is try to move on. Perhaps by thinking about him all the time, you are ignoring other possible guys which could be right under your nose!
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