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Q: okay, i dont like my friend that much any more and she is really sensitive... i dont want to be friends with her any more and she ALWAYS hangs around me. What do i do? Signed rebekah.

You just need to tell her straight out! maybe write a letter if you have to. Say she isa great person and all but you think its best if you two not be friends anymore. Say it nicley! good luck! yeah shes sensitive but theres no other way to break the news to her..

Q: I like this guy from a different church.. i see him once a month and i really like him. what should i do?
please help me

How far do you live away from eachother? You could hang out other places other than the 1 time you see him a month. Ask him if he wants to hang out one day!!

Q: Has anyone else noticed that Revelations 9 almost unmisteakably describes an apache longbow helicopter? When a helicopter moves forward, the tail lifts up like a scorpion, and the whole body of the apache longbow kindof looks like a locust.
But what really hit home was Revelations 9:9 "...and the sound of their wings was like thundering of many horses and chariots rushing into battle". How would a first century man describe a helicopter? Does anyone else see this?

I get what your saying. Sorta..but whats the point? Revelation talks about helicopters ok? Sooo your point? i guess I'll read it tonight and figure it out!

Q: Question one.
My boyfriend went to the strippers for his 18th birthday. And he got a lap dance. When, I was really down about him going there and getting one.. and he does it anyways. What should I do? I know it may not seem like a big deal to some of yahs, but it is to me. I don't know. Strippers.. are just so, ew, lol. What should I do?
Question Two.
I'm making a webpage. And if any of you guys know where to get music for your page, could you tell me the addy? Thank you very much.
x0x; Krissy.

www.xanga.com/xanga_music for the URL. If you want the HTML code for music leave it in my inbox. And yeah you should be mad about the stripper thing but I guess you should let it go, cuz he doesnt know the girl and stuff.

Q: I have the lead role in a play, and i need advice on how to memorize my lines! any ideas? Thanks soo much!

Read the lines about 8 times(average person can learn something if they say/read/ or do it 8 times) and close your eyes and try to say it without any help. or ask your parents, family, friends, to help you..

Q: hey... im the girl who left the ? about piercing my belly button & where i live, you have to be 18 years old or with parent to get it done at a professional place...
so PLEASE help!

well ok First you use just a regular sewing needle! Make sure its not to thin though or else you wont be able to put a ring in..i suggest a small hoop ring before putting in the dangly ones or w/e Then u steralize the needle..just put the top of the needle through a flame..i used a lighter..(this helps for no infection) then ice your belly button..for about 3 mins so u wont be able to feel it..make sure u mark where u want it so its now crooked..then pinch your skin and push it right through..dont hesitate cuz then ull freak out..u wont feel it!! twist it a little bit..then put ur ring in..n make sure u clean it at least 3 times a day (i use bactine) and wait a couple weeks before changing the ring..keep moving it so the hole doesnt close around it!! hope i helped!!

Q: hey sherry,
(14/f) i REALLY want to get my belly button pierced, but my mom won't take me to get it done. so, i've decided to do it myself but i dont know how. do you know how i can pierce my own belly-button?
(by the way, i don't care if my mom finds out, so PLEASE don't tell me why NOT to do it)
-thanks

Oh wow! You really shouldent do it by yourself. You could get an infection! Get it perfesionally done at a tatto/peircing salon. I dont know about where you live, but you dont need your parents permission to get a belly button ring. If you cant go to a salon by yourself or with some friends..leave one in my inbox and I'll tell you how to do it yourself..but sure..it might hurt!

Q: Hey great advice. I just need help with somethin again on the chat thing how do u get a link?

What do you mean?

Q: ok i like hate my name so much .. it's Liana.. and well people sometimes "cant pronounce it" so they just say "Hey you!" or they just pronounce it wrong. Or sometimes their like "um..you.. i forgot your name" .. and well like is there anything i can do to get people to pronounce my name right or call me something diffferent that is easy to pronounce .. (maybe like a nick name)

p.s. sometimes my friends call me Lee for short but not very often

Ana?

Q: this is gonna sound really stupid but i cant figure out how to get back to the page look and feel on my xanga. i have been looking adn searching for like a half hour now and im completely lost. plz help.

When you log in. And your on the edit page. its on the left side column!

Q: Hey I saw that u kno how to use xanga good. I need help how to put those really cool backrounds and music. I see people that have playlists but i dunno how to put them. Do u? Oh and if u kno anything else that would be cool please tell me! Thanx!

Hey. Yeah a know some stuff! If you want your own chat box on the right of your site. Go to http://chatter.flooble.com/ . Sign up, and get the code. Once you get the code go to your xanga site. Log in, and go to "Look and Feel" Scroll down to "Jave script module" and paste the code. Then where it says "Title" put something like "Chat here!" or "My chatterbox" For an example of a chatterbox go to my site: www.xanga.com/sherrybear1111. Ok and for backgrounds, I have a lot of sites you can go to (some dont work) and pick a layout you want. Once you find your layout, copy the code and go to your LOOK AND FEEL. Then where it says "Input your own HTML" paste the code! Then click submit and your done!! ****HERE ARE THE SITES***:

~ http://www.xanga.com/Blah_Layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/BracefaceFan
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts_by_farzi
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts_jus_4_u
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts411_04
~ http://www.xanga.com/Lots_of_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/myfavlayouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/html__layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/sHeAs_LaYoUtS
~ http://www.xanga.com/shoes_LAYOUTS
~ http://www.xanga.com/JennyC_Layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts4you_xo
~ http://www.xanga.com/Perfecti0nLay0utz_x
~ http://www.xanga.com/x__layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/aloha_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/OoSweet_LayoutzOo
~ http://www.xanga.com/layoutsforlosers
~ http://www.xanga.com/dance_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/L0VELY_LAY0UTS
~ http://www.xanga.com/LAY0UTZ_PLUS
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts_and_icons
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts_and_icons2
~ http://www.xanga.com/LDY_KONFUSED
~ http://www.xanga.com/LUSCiOUS_DESiGNS
~ http://www.xanga.com/LPkraze
~ http://www.xanga.com/Request_a_layout
~ http://www.xanga.com/xplicit_layoutz
~ http://www.xanga.com/LAYOUTSNDiCONS
~ http://www.xanga.com/audaciousdesigns
~ http://www.xanga.com/Layouts4_u
~ http://www.xanga.com/layoutsgal
~ http://www.xanga.com/sexy_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/shawtyz_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/stuffforurpage_layoutz
~ http://www.xanga.com/xanGerrr_lay0utzZ
~ http://www.xanga.com/aLl_mY_layOuts
~ http://www.xanga.com/Alternative_Layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/bbycloudz_x_productions
~ http://www.xanga.com/creator_of_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/Easy_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/EM0_GiRLdoesLAYOUTS
~ http://www.xanga.com/emoeffin___layoutsx
~ http://www.xanga.com/genius_skins
~ http://www.xanga.com/HTML_N_LayOUtz
~ http://www.xanga.com/layoutsforlosers
~ http://www.xanga.com/LeLi_Designs2
~ http://www.xanga.com/Luv_my_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/Mx3_pruhDUKshuns
~ http://www.xanga.com/tRiSHaS_lAyOUts
~ http://www.xanga.com/uniquemami_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/JAJA_LaYoUtZ
~ http://www.xanga.com/Layouts_by_bri
~ http://www.xanga.com/LAYOUTS_ON_REQUEST
~ http://www.xanga.com/coolLayouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/Premade__layoutz

I dont know the code for the music playlist, but my friend has it. I'll ask her for it and when I get it I can send it to you. Just leave your email through feedback! But you cant have your layout AND music playlist at the same time. Your going to have to choose! if you need anymore help leave it in my inbox!

Q: hey im about 5'7 i have medium brown hair but then kind of light.. im pretty tan and i have green/brown eyes.. i want to find sum hairstyles and make that will make me look hott!..plz dont tell me look in magazines for hair.. plz explain a hair style to me and makeup.. thank you

or jus IM me at ulshxo

Scrunch your hair! Its really cute, scurnching your hair is curling it. It looks so good, leave it in my inbox if you wanna know how to scrunch it

Q: my hair is straight...and up to my waist...all my friends have wavy hair nd always scrunch their hair..its reallie cute..but when i try doing mine it doesnt turn out right...like i'll put my hair in braids over night, take it owt nd use my aussie sprunch spray, but it just doesnt stay in..any advice?!

Maybe your scrunching it wrong? how do you scrunch your hair? Leave it in my inbox and I'll help you out! I'm pretty sure any kind of hair can get scrunched!

Q: ok i need a good dance mix or w/e that i can get online for a dance rutine (lmao i cant spell) ok but yea i need a good beat n shit for one of my dances so if u guys have ne good songs i can download please help me out

Hey if you have Kazaa, or any other downloading program search "Cheer mix" or "Cheerleading" You'll get soo many, and just listen to them all and pick one you like!

Q: well it wasnt really 20 times but it was like 7 but only twice this year and last time it lasted like a month and yea... what do i do

Sorry it took a while to answer. But if he doesnt like you anymore, you cant do anything about it. Just be friends and if he ever likes you again, then you can go out. But for now, he doesnt like you back.

Q: Hey i really need your help.. okay i like my ex again and weve gone out like 20 times and i think i broke up with him last and that was like 2 weeks ago and he told his friend that he didnt wantn to go out becuase ive broken up with him like 20 times... what do i do ?

Dont go out with him. 20 times! Thats so many times, and even if you like him again you should forget it. It wont work out if it hasint worked out 20 times before. He doesnt like you anymore, but you like him. Well find new guys to like. it wont be hard..you'll like someone else soon!

Q: I have a xanga right now and i was wondering what were some cool things you could do it you dont have premium besides music and a cool background. Also is it possible to have pictures on your weblog entrys w/o premium, if so how do you do it? Thank a million! I rate high :)

You could get a cool layout. I'll give you some sites and if you like a layout, copy/paste the layout code under "Enter your own HTML" under Look and Feel.

~ http://www.xanga.com/Blah_Layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/BracefaceFan
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts_by_farzi
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts_jus_4_u
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts411_04
~ http://www.xanga.com/Lots_of_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/myfavlayouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/html__layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/sHeAs_LaYoUtS
~ http://www.xanga.com/shoes_LAYOUTS
~ http://www.xanga.com/JennyC_Layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts4you_xo
~ http://www.xanga.com/Perfecti0nLay0utz_x
~ http://www.xanga.com/x__layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/aloha_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/OoSweet_LayoutzOo
~ http://www.xanga.com/layoutsforlosers
~ http://www.xanga.com/dance_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/L0VELY_LAY0UTS
~ http://www.xanga.com/LAY0UTZ_PLUS
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts_and_icons
~ http://www.xanga.com/layouts_and_icons2
~ http://www.xanga.com/LDY_KONFUSED
~ http://www.xanga.com/LUSCiOUS_DESiGNS
~ http://www.xanga.com/LPkraze
~ http://www.xanga.com/Request_a_layout
~ http://www.xanga.com/xplicit_layoutz
~ http://www.xanga.com/LAYOUTSNDiCONS
~ http://www.xanga.com/audaciousdesigns
~ http://www.xanga.com/Layouts4_u
~ http://www.xanga.com/layoutsgal
~ http://www.xanga.com/sexy_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/shawtyz_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/stuffforurpage_layoutz
~ http://www.xanga.com/xanGerrr_lay0utzZ
~ http://www.xanga.com/aLl_mY_layOuts
~ http://www.xanga.com/Alternative_Layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/bbycloudz_x_productions
~ http://www.xanga.com/creator_of_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/Easy_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/EM0_GiRLdoesLAYOUTS
~ http://www.xanga.com/emoeffin___layoutsx
~ http://www.xanga.com/genius_skins
~ http://www.xanga.com/HTML_N_LayOUtz
~ http://www.xanga.com/layoutsforlosers
~ http://www.xanga.com/LeLi_Designs2
~ http://www.xanga.com/Luv_my_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/Mx3_pruhDUKshuns
~ http://www.xanga.com/tRiSHaS_lAyOUts
~ http://www.xanga.com/uniquemami_layouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/JAJA_LaYoUtZ
~ http://www.xanga.com/Layouts_by_bri
~ http://www.xanga.com/LAYOUTS_ON_REQUEST
~ http://www.xanga.com/coolLayouts
~ http://www.xanga.com/Premade__layoutz

Q: i cheated on my bf, i know bad thing big mistake and i told him i was sorry then we were ok .. but then a few weeks after we broke up and were still friends but now 6 months after he hates me, talks bad about me alll the time and says i did alll this stuff with the guy i cheated on him with but i didnt and i dont know why hes sayin these things, he should just get over it, after all it was 6 months ago!! .. but he wont he keeps on talkin about it and now were not friends anymore .. but i still want to be his friend and be able to talk to him and stuff but how can i when he hates me and doenst even wanna talk to me

Well now that your broken up, he wants to make you look bad and uses the cheating thing to get back at you. I think he doesnt really wanna be friends with you if hes doing all this stuff to you and talking crap. Just ignore him! Hes a jerk:)

Q: Hey "Sherry". You give really good advice so I hope you can help me. well there is this guy, and I really like him. But I'm dating this other guy who I really like too. The guy I'm not dating, he confuses me. He says he likes me but sometimes I wonder if I'm being lied to. Or, other times I just don't think anything will ever become of us liking each other but you never know, right. And, he's further away than my boyfriend. What do you think I should do?

Yeah my real names Sherry so haha ok..

K well, since you like both guys your going to have to choose one or the other. Ask the guy that likes you, if he'd go out with you someday. If yeah, then its your choice to break up with your boyfriend or not. It all depends, who's hotter, nicer, sweeter?? Who do you think will treat you good and all? Good luck!!

Q: srry if this to long but i rely need help

my two best freinds used to be best freinds till they got into a really big fite are not freinds anymore so lik when ever i hang out wif 1 of them my other friend will get mad at me n stuff lik that and i no for a fact they will never become friends again cuz the fite they got into was a huge fite

how can i hang out wif 1 freind w/o the other 1 gettin madd??

You need to talk to them and tell them that just because they had a fight doesnt mean they should drag you into their problems! Tell them they need to understand that you want to be friends with both of them and that if your at one of their houses, the other one should not be mad because its not like their losing you. If they still dont care, I wouldent be friends with either of them.its a little immature to get mad about something like that.