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Hey guys my name's Erin, and I love helping people. I know how hard life can be at times, and sometimes you just need some adivse. That's what I'm here for. Whatever the question is, I'll be more than happy to answer it!
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well if i really love this girl and we just broke up but we still love each other and flirt and hang out all the time wat should i do
i've been in you're situation before. it's really hard to break up with someone you love, and it makes it even harder to continue to hang out with them until you guys are somewhat over each other. my suggestion would be to not talk or hang out that much for a couple of weeks or months, depending on how long you went out, and then hopefully it will get easier. i have one question though. if you are still in love with eachother, why did you break up?
Don't take this the wrong way. I'm 13/f and I'm ok with the regualr sex (WHEN I'M MARRIED) But even though I'm too your to think about it, 69 and oral sex I'm scared of. I just really dont feel comfortable with the idea. I wouldn't wanna lick the boy's thing, and I wouldn't want his tounge "up there" please help me becuase I really am scared.
sweetie, at 13 you have NO obligation to think about oral sex at all. at 13 i had never even kissed a boy. so, if you find thinking about 69 and oral sex uncomfortable, then don't think about it! you don't need to do it until you're ready, and if for some reason a boy breaks up with you because you won't give him oral or have sex with him, well then he's not worth your time. please dont' feel pressured to think about any of that if you're not ready. i hope this helped
Hey Guys,
Last weekend i went to the movies with my boyfriend. We planned to kiss and make out and all that good stuff. When that moment came up i panicked because it was my first time. After that day i could think of nothing but him and that moment. Now all i want to do is make out with him or at least talk to him about it. I am also afraid that i dont know exactly how to make out with some one. Plz give me tips and should i talk to him?????
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
it's completly natural to panick the first time, especially if you guys had planned it first, because then you're going to be thinking about it all the time. the best way to do it is let him make the move, and then just follow along. making out is easy. all you have to do is open your mouth a little, and follow his moves and you'll be fine! i don't think its necessary for you to talk to him about it, unless you really think you need to. otherwise, just let it go, and don't worry about it! hope this helped, and keep me posted!
I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and we really love eachother. We've talked about the whole sex thing and agreed that we'd wait until we were together for a longer period of time. My boyfriend said that he's ready whenever I'm ready but he doesn't want to pressure me into anything that I don't want to do. The thing is, I really AM ready. I know that he is the one that I want to lose my virginity to him and he wants to lose his virginity to me. Every time I see him, I get tempted to do more and more with him but I have to stop myself. It's not that I'm scared it's just that I feel that we haven't been together long enough to be doing anything like that. I trust him and I know he won't hurt me. I don't want to become tempted and do that. Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can avoid myself from being tempted? I can't have sex with him, it's not the right time for us yet. Thanks so much if you can help! If anyone is in or has been in my situation, tell me how you handled it or how you are handling it.
i haven't been in exactly you're situation, but it's been similar. my boyfriend and i were going out for about 6 months when we both realized that we loved each other, and it was around that time that he told me he wanted to have sex to me. at that point, i knew i wasn't ready, and he told me that he would wait until i was. it turned out that we ended up waiting a whole nother year before we had sex, but that's because we broke up for a little while, and things were a little shaky. but in the end we were in love and we both knew that we were the ones we wanted to lose our virginity to. i told him that, and we decided to wait until prom (i know how cleche), and i had no regrets. in your case, if you truely love and and he truely loves you, and you believe that you're ready, then i don't see why you should wait. but it seems that you're a little ambivilent about it, saying it's not the right time for you two. if you both are ready, then there's no better time. think about it, and make sure you really are ready, and then tell him, and maybe you guys decide to wait a couple weeks or months, or maybe you decide to do it then and there. i hope this helped, and remember, be safe! let me know what happens!
I have a guy coming over tomorrow...and well..parents aren't home you know what that means, im nervous but definitely ready to do stuff with him...what's the best way to keep myself calm and not nervous?
if you think you're ready, then there's nothing to worry about. it's very natural to be nervous the first time you do stuff with a guy. but that just adds to the excitment. if you find that you're too nervous, then maybe you're not ready, and should maybe consider waiting. but the best way to stay calm about it is to just relax, and don't think about it before hand...just let it happen naturally. and remember to enjoy! hope this helped!
I've liked this one guy I've known since we were 5 for about 11 months. He's only known since June, and rejected me flat out. I know that there's not chance for anything between us...but idk...I keep holding on. My friend a few days ago suggested that I might be in love with him. And I'd never given the subject a thought, but now that I am, I'm even considering it. Is it possible for me to actually be in love with this guy that is absolutely perfect for me? And if I am, how do I come to admit it or let him know without confessing my feelings straight out to him? Please let me know what I should do...
-Hopelessly In Love-
it is very possible for you to be in love, but if you hadn't considered it before you're friend mentioned it, then it's doubtful. since you've known this guy almost you're whole life, it's likely that you guys are very compatible because you've grown up together and know each other very well. chances are you are just very infatuated with him, and in a little it will probably start to go away. if in fact you are in love with him, you will be pretty certain of it after a little while. there's no way of knowing for sure, but if you think it's a big possiblity, and you really want to be with him, you might need to let him know how you feel. but then again, you did say that he rejected you flat out already. so it's really up to you if you want to put yourself out there again, and risk being shot down again. there really isn't a way for you to tell him how you feel without telling him straight out. but if you really really like this guy, and are willing to put yourself out there again, then i'd say go for it, and talk to him and maybe you can work something out. i hope this helped! and let me know what happens! best of luck
Is it better to masurbate or be sexually active with someone? I dont know which one is better to do. Can someone help me?
Well, when you say "better", there can be many meanings behind that. the two main one's that i see are health wise and pleasure wise. Health wise, it's much better to masturbate than be sexually active. by masturbating, there's no way of getting an STD or getting pregnant, because you're not interacting with anyone else. but pleasure wise, that can differ from person to person. most people are able to achieve better orgasms by themselves, because they know what they are doing, but others enjoy being sexually active with someone else. so it really all depends on you, and what you're looking for.
My boyfriend wants to go to the movies with me and he has been bringing up making out. But ive never made out before. Could someone please tell me how? I know this might sound stupid but i have nooooo clue :P (Please dont say it comes naturally) I RATE HIGH! Thanks :)
ok first of all, i know this isn't what you want to hear, but it does come naturally. i had my first kiss when i was 16, and my boyfriend had kissed many many girls before me. i was really nervous when it happend, but he made the first move, and i just kind of followed along, and i was fine. all you have to do is just open your mouth a little, and follow his moves. relax, and enjoy it. if you're nervous, you won't enjoy it. trust me, once you start, you'll be hooked. and even in you aren't as good as he is the first time, it'll get better the more you do it. i know my first kiss wasn't great, but i'm still with my boyfriend, and it's been almost 2 years! so just relax, and have fun, and keep me posted.