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Ok i want to go in a party next month this party is going to be HUGE n i already have a baby blue and black sneakers iv been saving for the occasion. Does anyone hav any cute ideas on what i could wear it with? Sum pictures would help..thanks in advance iwillrate:) (link)
why dont you try to wear a baggy shirt that drops at the shoulder...
soemthing like this is nice
http://cm1.theinsider.com/media/0/90/33/rachel-vs-kristin_309x412.0.0.0x0.309x412.jpeg

or this with a belt at the waist
http://images1.chictopia.com/photos/BritUgly/2069844977/7371507756/7371507756.jpg

im only say this kinda stuff because im tryna picture soemthing that will suit sneakers

this is really nice
http://images.channeladvisor.com/Sell/SSProfiles/73000413/Images/1/G7HP.jpg

http://cm1.theinsider.com/media/0/77/88/mischa_barton.0.0.0x0.200x400.jpeg
http://files6.lookbook.nu/files/looks/medium/387334_looook.jpg
http://style.catalogs.com/images/short%20shorts.jpg
http://img2.timeinc.net/people/i/2007/specials/summer_fashion/summer_trends/short_shorts.jpg
http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/20/202478/25_2008/shortshorts.jpg
http://republicfashion.files.wordpress.com/2008/12/h.jpg

just some ideas to think about hope it helped


What is the biggest relationship issue that you are currently experiencing? (link)
1) like the other girl said..soemtimes i feel my boyfriend is only attracted to my physically eventhough he says thats not true.
2)i feel like were not as close as we use to be
3) i feel our honeymoon period is over and it really bugs me because i want things to go back to the way they use to be


i have blue eyes and lighter skin, but its not pale. right now its dark blonde but i want to go brown. like a medium/dark brown? i think dark brown hair with blue eyes is so pretty. so are their any good dyes anyone knows of? (box dyes i can't afford to get it professionally done :/)and a specific shade would be nice if you knew it too:) thanks (link)
number 5 in the box hair dye would be the colour your looking for i wouldnt go any darker


Would it be okay if I won't tell my guidance counselor or my teachers a few weeks before I leave? I don't want to tell them that I am leaving unless everything is ready and all I have to do is leave. I'm planning to tell them a few days before I leave. Is that right? Am I being reasonable? They've been getting close to me. (link)
yeah it should be fine..or you can just say that your thinking about leaving in a few weeks but is unsure and then when its closer to the date you can tell them your leaving for sure.be fair to them


Okay so, i have this white creamy like discharge coming from my vagina. I was wondering what this could be. is it normal? or is it a sign of a yeast infection? if its a yeast infection, what causes it? and how can i get rid of it? (link)
is it itchy red and sore?beacuse if its itchy and theres white discharge(that does not smell) then it means its a yeast infection but id go to a doctor to get it confirmed...yeast is fungus which grows in moist wet areas.so a yeast infection can occur when you dont wipe after you unrinate.
It can also come due to stress,lack of sleep,eatting alot of sugar,antibiotics can also give you a yeast infection,or even hormaonal changes during your period...dont worry its very common but you have to see your doctor to confirm it


16/f.

Now I'm not a relationship kind of girl. It just doesn't really interest me. I'm very independent and don't feel like I need someone constant in my life. I also have insecure attachment disorder (it's not known well, but it's a psychological thing, about 30% of the population have it) which basically means I can't bond with people and always feel a strong sense of detachment from others, which obviously makes relationships hard for me.

I've only had one relationship, and that only lasted 4 months, and was a complete disaster. However, I did fall in love with him, we had a thing going on for about two years.

Anyway, I've been single for about two years now actually, and as I've said, doesn't usually bother me, but recently I've been feeling like I'd quite like a boyfriend. I'm very fussy and have no idea how to go about it.

So any tips on how to meet a guy?

Thanks, x (link)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHxdeEbrcak

this is a good clip to listen to.there are heaps of clips on youtube to help you out


Hello im currently doing my pre-requist. courses to get into the practical nursing program. The only problem is that i have a very weak stomach anything with veins makes me sick to my stomach like im going to pass out. I took a class in high school where i got to see dialysis patients and work in different parts of the hospital but it seems like over the year my stomach has grown very weak. I've been told that you'll get over your weak stomach after a little while. Is there anything i can do right now that would help. My classes show movies about surgery, stiches, staples, etc. And i get grossed out. Any help would definitely be appreciated!

Thanks and i rate! (link)
i agree with the other person too...i was also thinking(knowing it could be a totally dumb idea) but what if you take motion sickness pills?like there are pills that you take so that you dont feel like your going to throw up.i take them before i get on the plane and theyr reallly good just make sure ylou ask for the ones that dont make you sleepy.i mean its worth a try.you might br grossed out but you may not feel like your going to be sick.you wouldnt need to take them for ever because by then youd be use to it.im sure this is normal i mean surgeons dont wake up and become surgeons.with time and effort they build up to it


hey its me angie again :) sorry to bother you but i need some advice because am confused! well here it goes am sorry if its too long ..
ok so in the summer i was going out with my boyfriend and then a kid i liked wanted to go out with me but i couldnt ..then me and my boyfriend broke up and the kid that i likeed didnt wanted nothing with me because he noticed i still had feelings for my ex which was true..but then i whent to a halloween party and we chilled and kissed..then we stopped talking..then he added me on myspace and we stated talking..before he came to pick me up and we usd to kiss but he had a girlfriend and he didnt liked her...he told me he wanted something real with me but the thing was that everytime he used to talk about us i used to change the subject and everytime he asked me out i just stay shut..so now he send me a comment on myspace and said heyyy how are you sexy? and i said here watching a movie and you?....and he didnt reply back ..but he did approved the comment because i saw it there..i do like him alot..but i guess he just doesnt feels the same or i dont know what to think .. :( what do you think ? (link)
maybe he didnt have enough time to wite back to the comment but he wanted to read it before he went offline...or he thought you were busy or didnt really have anything to rely back to?...if hes got a girlfriend you should wait till things are really over with the girlfriend.i mean why hasnt he dumped her yet?you need to think about the whole situation not just the idea that you like him.nothing can happen unless he breaks up with his gf.if he says he doesnt like her then he should show it and break up with her.
you need to just ask him whats going on.just ask him honestly what he thinks of you and tell him that you like him and want soemthing more.dont be shy and dont change the subject because hes going to stop trying when he thinks your not interested.if you wnat him then go get him but make sure that he really is over his gf or else you and him will never work out.
in my opinion if a guy cheats on his gf with you,theres a chance hell cheat on you with another girl but thats just my opinion.the decision is upto you


I love someone things didn't go right, I figured out how to fix it but I don't know if I could have another chance. I needed to do something with my life instead of wait for him. We agreed to move on but now I don't want to. I am hurting emotionally and physically. Should I let it go which is going against everything I feel right now or do I try to patch it up? (link)
i think you should take the risk and go for it or youll never know what could of happened between you two.if your ready then do it or youll never forget about him and youll keep asking youself "what if" for as long as you remember him


Im 20 years old and I want my boobs bigger without the surgury..any wayy i can??? (link)
if you go on the pill that will make your breast alot bigger...my friend went on the pill and she went from a size C cup to a size DD..but the thing is that there are other risks with taking the pill like weight gain.talk to you doctor about it because i cant be sure for certain it will make YOUR boobs bigger because everyones different


I'm really nervous. I feel like something serious is wrong with me. For the past few weeks I've been feeling extremely dizzy and lightheaded. It feels like the start of a panic attack, where I feel 'out-of body'... but it's not a panic attack.. I don't know a better way to explain it.

I have a lot of weird symptoms:

-shortness of breath at times
-constant bags under eyes, no matter how much I sleep
-at times an unquenchable thirst, to the point where I can swallow water, and as soon as the water goes down my throat is dry again
-tender and stiff muscles
-fatigue/sluggishness
- emotionally irritation

and these ones scare me a lot:

-cloudy head - it feels heavy or like I can't think straight, almost like there's a weight inside of it, it feels foggy or something
-I've had quivering on more than one occasion, to the point where my hands were shaking like crazy and my legs/knees were shaking so much that I couldn't stand.

- I feel out of body.. Like the beginning of a panic attack. I'll start shaking and feel like I'm not really here, like I'm floating or hovering or something... only I dont believe its a mini panic attack, I feel like something is seriously wrong with my health.

I got my blood drawn about a week ago and everything came back fine, I recently had a staph infection on my leg but it's been better, and nothing in my blood test indicated it was still there.

I've felt this maybe a few months ago a work and I had to go home early.. the next day I was fine.. but now for the past few weeks it's been back, on numerous occasions.
What could be wrong with me?

Has this happened to anyone, if so please let me know.

I feel extremely dizzy as I type, and I'm laying in bed.. it's way worse if I stand up. It's making me very emotional because it's affecting my daily life.

Please help.
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get a diabetes test done!that doesnt come in your blood tests


he told me on wednesday that we need to take a break becuase he needs time.
and i asked him how long he wont talk to me for and he said idk.
everything has been fine between us so that whole needing a break thing seriously came out of nowhere.
were in a long distance relationship so i dont understand why he needs a break. its not like we get to see eachother alll the time like normal couples.

ive called and texted him a bunch of times and have gotten nothing back. its been three days since he hasnt talk to me and its killing me.
no matter what i say to him, he wont talk to me.
i dont know what to do :[
help meee! (link)
give him time to miss you.dont over crowd the situation.hes asked for a break so you need to give him one.just dont txt him for a couple of days and let him miss you..id wait until he txts you first.i think he has some explaining to do!


I've had sex 2 or 3 times now and each time i bleed. the first time it was dark red and alot. then the next day when i didn't have sex it was pink. and then i had sex a week later and i woke up and i had some light pink blood. is this normal... or is it STILLL just my cherry, i don't get it. (link)
i agree with the other person.it could be your cherry but it could also mean that he could have riped something from inside you thats causing you to bleed everytime you have sex.like where do you guys have sex?soemtimes awkward positions can cause you to bleed aswell..eg like having sex in the car on the passenger seat...if theres no pain then maybe it isnt a rip but if it keeps bleeding then id go see a doctor


My girlfriend is the best girlfriend in the entire world and I want her to know that. I'm her first boyfriend but I've had lots of girlfriends before her so I know she's the best. I really can see myself spending the rest of my life with her. What are some nice ways to let her know that I love her? Like, some creative things to say to your girlfriend so she knows that you love her? Any ideas are good ones!

THANKS (link)
tell her things that come from the heart...what are soemthings that you really like as much as her...tell her soemthing like...when i look at the sunrise it reminds me of you...or say that today you woke up really early and watched the sunrise from your bedroom window and it reminded you of her...
tell her that you wished that you could wake up every morning to the beautiful sight of her gorgeaous face
tell her that she makes you feel live,feel inspired,tell her your her energy and would be outta battery if she was gone
thats soemthing id want my boyfriend to say...
tell her shes the most beautiful girl youv ever seen and that your the luckiest guy to have her


I've only kissed two guys in my whole entire life and I'm afraid I'm a bad kisser. The last guy I kissed made a face afterwards like it was pretty bad. I know I'm not really sloppy or something but he didn't look too happy about it. It was during summer and he was my friend's cousin from out of state so I haven't seen him since to ask him if he liked it or not. How can I tell if I'm a bad kisser? (link)
if its sloppy and doesnt go with the kiss the other giuy is giving you then its a bad kiss..dont go in for the french kiss and leave the boy with all this wet stuff around his lips to wipe off later.you need to start slow and smooth.put all your emotions into it.kissing is just like love you gotta show you mean it.soo start with little sweet soft kisses then work your way up with longer and harder kisses then if hes still kissing you id go in for the french kiss...make sure your breath smells good too


Hey, i wanna be an elementary school teacher...what are some good colleges for that major? thanks! (link)
in New Zealand we have the University of Auckland,thats a really good university.im doing a degree as a primary teacher and its good because they have practical and theory.I guess itd be good to study in your own country because you grew up there and you know the way the schools work etc


This February, I am going to Costa Rica for a week to volunteer to take care of children at an orphanage. It is through an organization I found online where people from all over the country sign up and go on volunteer trips. A couple of my friends were thinking about coming with me, but the money was kind of a problem (yes, you have to pay to volunteer) and they aren't going to end up going. I am still going though. I think it is ok to go by yourself.. I mean it sounds like something where people will be coming by themselves, because it's not through a church group or something. I mean, it's not like I am going to be alone, because I will be working with a group. I just hope everyone doesn't come in their own groups already, because I don't want to be the odd one out. Do you still think it will be a good experience? (link)
with a group or not it doesnt matter.your there to help people and your going to be occupied with the children.id love to do that!your pretty lucky to get a chance like that.good on you for helping out im sure the children will love you!
remember it only takes one person to include you in a group so once you get to know your person youll be fine!dont see this as a big deal.im sure there will be people coming by themselves too!
have fun :)


i smoke a lot, like once a day at least. weed brownies barely work on me or take a while. y is this?

does it have to do with my digestive system?

the same batch work for my friends so is it possiable for me to just wait it out and itll work? (link)
its because your eating it..it tastes longer to digest which takes longer to get to the blood..just like taking pills after food

P.S i do not support the idea of you taking weed


After Masturbating, The Next Day Is Your Stomach Supposed To Hurt? Cause You Come Like three times? lol I Know, Kinda Random.


&&& Yes Im A Girl


Thanks.
xoxo, Cassidy (link)
no i dont think its normal for your stomach to hurt.Make sure that you urinate after you masturbate that could be the reason why your stomach hurts is because your not going to the toilet afterwards...lol what do you do to make yourself cum three times??


okay i dont know how to put this without sounding stuck up.. im a good looking chill girl who can usually get any guy she wants. im great with guys but i never ever like any of them. its rare that i find a guy i have feelings for. well i met this guy that just blows my mind. we clicked the moment we met and we are so much alike. our relationship is perfect. the problem? anytime i finally meet a guy i actually like i get nervous. i cant keep a conversation going and im shy. i went from being this confident cute girl that my boyfriend was soo goo goo over to a girl that doesnt say much. i think the reason im like this is cus my ex really brainwashed me and now i have a hard time opening up to ppl. i am not able to open up to my boyfriend AT ALL. how can i loosen up and not get so nervous around my BOYFRIEND and how can i help open up to him? i think the best way would be to just straight up tell him how i feel about this but idk how.. and i dont have the guts to.. any suggestions?? (link)
the more you like someone the more nervous you get because now youv admitted to yourself that you really like him and you dont want to screw it up.its who you are.its the type of person you are.
you need to explain to him all of this or else hes going to start thinking you dont like him.be open with him and ask him to just be patient because you really do like him.
a way to loosen up is to not think about loosening up.gpo with the flow.if you think too much inot the situation its going to make you even more nervous.tlak about anything that comes to your mind even if its random and weird.as time goes by youl be more and more open but the main thing is to NOT THINK ABOUT the nervousness k!just like going into and exam




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