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I already got an EKG. . Today the results rnt in yet, I visited my doctor twice and she said to go get an ekg done, so the next day *today* i got it done, and I dont know when the results will be in! (link)
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I guess follow my advice for not getting hurt when you feel a faint coming on (it looks silly but it beats falling from your full height and hitting your head, particularly if you're tall like me) and be patient with the doctor... I'm sure she won't let you wait any longer than is necessary.
I've had it suggested to me that a little extra iron (available in raisins, red meat and spinach, among other things) may be helpful, and being able to make a positive diet change will give you some way to take charge a little while you wait for the specialist opinion (but go through with getting the specialist opinion... remember, I'm a lowly math student with exactly two chemistry courses and a single biology to my credit).
That and lightly steamed fresh spinach with butter or a drizzle of sesame oil and freshly ground black pepper (added after cooking) is food fit for royalty -- so it won't hurt at all! Just don't overcook it, you want it dark green, but not reduced to limp slimy stuff.
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well I am having trouble in my 7th grade math class and my grandma wants me to get a touter.She has been buging me for ever and to me if I get a totour I will feel stupid so.. Should I or should I not get a totour. (link)
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Working as a tutor/helper/troubleshooter, I've got a little conflict of interest here, but some very smart people stay ahead of the pack by bringing in a tutor when they know they need one.
One of the smartest guys I know often refers proudly to his "informants" who explain stuff in disciplines he doesn't understand so well to him. Once he gets a leg up, he's generally comfortable learning the rest on his own.
So go for the tutor, a little leg up now, though maybe humbling at the time, will help you be self-sufficient and more capable later!
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Hey, I fainted twice tody and went to the doctors twice, all in one day. . I want to know whats wrong with me! I have a rash,a dn my mom put stuff on it then all of a sudden i get dizzy and everything would be so blurry and then it would get dark, and the next thing you know i wa sin my moms arms. . Then I fainted again just abotu a half hour after I visited the doctors. . But my mom had put on this ointment iwas sappose to have for my rash. . then all of a sudden I got dizzy, and I saw blurrieness and darkness came and I was on the floor. .My momw as really scared. . is this my rash's fault?? I went to the doctor, they say Im fine and everything but thye want me to go gethtis thing done where u put those thigns on u, they stick em pon you I dont know wut its called exactllly. . But please tell me if u know what is causing this?!?!!?!? (link)
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I am not a doctor, and it sounds like you should pay your doctor a second visit and get that diagnostic thing (an EKG, it sounds like) because fainting is not normal healthy behaviour.
That being said, I had a couple of fainting incidents when I had just woken up tired and hungry, and stretched too fast... I was up, then down very fast. One thing that helps is to stoop and get your hands on the floor, wait out the dizziness down there: at least it won't be too far to fall if you faint, and I suspect it's easier for your body to get blood to your brain when the altitude difference between heart and head is different.
Near-fainting is very unpleasant if you're used to having complete control of your body. If your doc can help I'd take them up on it.
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OK so here's what happened this weekend...
Friday; after work Jon came up to me and told me (with beautiful eloquence) that he fancied me.
Saturday; I went to meet him after work to talk to him.I was sufficiently confused that he guilt-tripped me into saying that I liked him back and getting his mobile no. etc.
Sunday; he asked me to meet him and we spent a couple of hours in town talking.
Monday;he asked me to meet him (again) and I said I had to much work to do.
Today; I will be seeing him and would like YOUR advice as to how to let him down.
He is a very sweet person but I don't like him enough to want to go out with him especially with the complication of working together.
HELP!
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If you're doing your best to let him down gently, I wouldn't call that bitchiness... if you consciously string him along for a few months and then shoot him down, that would qualify for bitchy-action recognition, avoiding that situation is a good thing.
Two principles:
i) gently... it doesn't sound like a :boot: :kerosene: :fire: kind of breakup!
ii) unmistakably, because people in general can be kind of clueless when it comes to relationshippy stuff.
These principles are of course easier to cite than to meet.
Something along the lines of "I don't think we were meant to be together" or "I think this is all weird with working together and all, we can still hang out a bit but I don't think we should be boyfriend and girlfriend" (only do this if you actually do feel like continuing to hang out a bit... unmistakably should trump gently in this case!) might be good. Don't expect that to be the end of it, but it may start things off on the right track to a nice clean-ish end to things.
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I wanna be what i feel like being! But if people start rejecting me, my life will be horrible I wanna be a punk is that a bad choice? I already aske dmy mom she seems fine with it. .and well I want that change! but should I not do it, 4 my friends? (link)
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Be what you feel like being, then: or better yet, let your dress, etc. reflect what you are. Punk dress reflects punk attitudes, history, music, politics, needs, etc. Your dress should reflect your all-of-the-above.
There's no shame in borrowing from punk, or even aligning yourself with the punk way of seeing things, but life is a bit nicer if the symbols you wear go with the things you believe in... so do your research, do some thinking about what you want to say with your style, and act on it.
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This doesn't really go with this topic, but I want to be more punkish style, you knwo But I dont wnat a mayjor make over, like go littl eby little, wut should I start to wear, to get everyone to know Im startin 4 a new look and it will be punkish!???!!?!?!?! (link)
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Borrow whatever bit of punkishness best reflects who you are and what you like, and modify it until it really reflects who you are. You may or may not wind up punkish, but you'll have a new element to your style which you've thought about and have a reason for. A lot of subcultural dress has been thought up in a similar way, and it's all about process rather than imitation, right?
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I am a quiter how can i prevent it. (link)
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Move a little more slowly: think long and hard before you pick up a new project.
It seems to me people have a maximum project load kind of hard-wired into them. When you go past that load, you don't just drop back down to a safe level... your life kind of over-compensates and projects start dropping like flies. So... choose carfully and don't take up new things when you feel fully loaded. It may take a few tries to figure out your best load, and you may find some projects are bigger than they look, but at least you'll have a strategy and some sense of how you work.
Be sure to consider friends, family, etc. as part of your load. They may not be "chores" but you're not working on projects while you're having quality time with them.
If you have an appropriate workload, it'll be easier to finish stuff. You'll still have to work at finishing stuff, but you'll have a fighting chance!
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my boyfriend sometimes says that im too quiet and when he tells me to talk i dont know what to talk about and when i tell him to talk he says no because im the one thats supposed to talk.....what should i talk to him about?
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I don't know where he got the idea that the girl's supposed to do all the talking... but news, either yours or his or in the world is a good topic, as it's always changing, right? It can also lead into other questions as opinions come up, then you get into philosophy and values and all that heavy-duty stuff.
But, for that to happen, it helps to get him talking too. If he won't join in, consider that you may be in for a rather dull relationship...
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Our english teacher just started a creative writing club and we just had a meeting to come up with a club name that's unique and fun. Well we got absolutely nowhere, and since I'm secretary and club organizer I have to help decide a club name. And I can't think of ANYTHING! Please, if anyone has any ideas please email me, or post an answer. ASAP. Thanks!
~SweetSolaris~ (link)
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[your school] Writers' Guild, maybe?
Or something involving the emptiness one starts with when writing? We have a literary/arts mag at Concordia called The Void, for instance.
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What should I ask you? (link)
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Something that hasn't been asked before... wait, you're doing OK already.
Just no more love life questions please!
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I need help my crush does not have a crush on me what should i do? (link)
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Be hurt for a little while, then move on... to a new crush, maybe, but maybe to other things.
Romance grows best when not in monoculture, and you may appreciate other things for themselves, too...
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How can I get a boyfriend? I really need help with this...because I've only had two little relationships in my life and I just want somebody with me. (link)
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Hello choosy questioner,
I'm not sure how you chose me for this question... my experience level's around yours. If you want to give me a shout (e-mail, another question, whatever) and explain... I'd be curious to find out...
I've been answering this type of question first by reminding people to visit spacefem.com and do the boyfriend quiz... it may take the pressure off a tad.
Still, from my vast wealth of dealings with the fairer sex and from my being a boy, I can make some suggestions.
i) For some reason, relationships tend to happen when you're busy doing other things. When you're deliberately hunting, everyone already has a S.O., is busy, brushes you off, moves away, etc.
ii) Once there's a particular boy with potential... boys tend to have a mixture of obliviousness and shyness that can make them frustrating to deal with. Clarity and a little initiative in your dealings with boys will make it less likely that you'll both be wondering what's going on.
iii) There are too many factors in a relationship to have hard-and-fast rules, or for anyone to be too stubborn about a particular course of action. It's hard to be sure, but it seems to me when an aspect of a relationship becomes a "project", you may kiss the relationship goodbye. It's its own little universe, simplify at your own risk.
That may have drifted a bit from your question... how to get a boyfriend? Well, being busy as in (i) is a start, as is being clear about how you feel -- a specific instance of (ii). It'd be dishonest to say that guys don't care about how you look or carry yourself, but the good/complicated news is that their opinions differ, so you don't need to make yourself a clone of some coupled girl or anything. If you're comfortable with how you look, you'll carry yourself better, so start with that. I guess (this may be obvious) talking and interacting with guys is also a good thing, just keep it natural and don't make all your communications into a boyfriend-getting project (see (iii)).
It may sound like I'm telling you to live contentedly and actively and to stay multi-faceted and keep a sense of perspective... and that's exactly what I'm saying. It may happen that you wind up with a bunch of interesting, lasting platonic friends and no boyfriend, but that'll be OK too, right?
Feel free to pick my brain in the future and help me to understand my questioners if you feel like it...
Cheers
Eric
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Why do boys have ask girls out and why cant girls ask boys out. It make it so much more complicated for the boys. And the boys will never have a girlfriend if they are to shy to ask out the girl they like. (link)
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It's tradition.
If you're a boy, well, suck it in and ask, or run the risk of only going out with non-traditional girls (that's not so bad in itself...).
If you're a girl, you don't curtsey very often, right (or if you do, is it laden with irony)? Have you worn a bonnet on Easter recently? Worn light-coloured pants after labour day? Worn pants? You can break traditions as you see fit (and some non-proactive boy may well thank you for it)!
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How can I get my plastic glow in the dark stars to stay on my ceiling? That puddy stuff they give you just doesn't seem to be working and if I don't do something fast someone could lose an eye. (link)
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punch holes in them and string them out on butcher's string or fishing line (strung between non-electricity-bearing anchors such as curtain rods or tacks in the mouldings)... no reduced-stickiness problems then!
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First of all I have been dating my girlfrind now for a little over 4 months, she has been divorced for 2 years , I have been divorced for a year now also.
She has 2 kids (boy,4) (girl,11) and I have a (boy13)
Throughout the past four months I have endured doing things with her ex husband and her like skydiving, and going out on Halloween with her and her kids, I really dont approve of the the way her Ex raises her kids ...and he is a alchoholic and doesnt have a job.
They alternate the kids from her house to his every other day and alternating weekends.
Now that the holidays are here it is getting to be a little to wierd for me having him around
She invited him to our Thanksgiving dinner...Then she said she felt sorry for him and asked me if it was OK?
I told her NO...my whole family was going to be there and I would feel uncomfortable with him being there also...now there is another dillema
She wants him to be at her house on Christmas morning to watch the kids open theyr'e presents
I will be there also and so will my son,
I dont feel that he should be there also, correct me if I am wrong but shouldent the kids have Chrismas at they're Fathers house and then theyre Mothers seperately.... I think her youngest child is really confused...I dont think he relizes the mom and dad are divorced....Can anyone give me advice?????
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I'd tend to think having him around isn't so bad... one Christmas is a good number per year, more is just too much IMHO. So long as it looks like it'll be civilized: go with it, I'd say.
I think the weirdness is just part of the package.
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I've known this boy since the 4th grade. We are two years apart. We were together for 2 years. He was normal but now he is a total freak and disaster! Recently he's been stalking me, and my friends. Like he'll talk to my friends and tell them lies that I don't like. And he almost punched me and grabbed my arm so hard it had red marks on it. Durring our relationship he called me a slut for going to a dance with one of my good friends which is now my boyfriend. But yet, durring our relationship, on his b-day he played spin the bottle with all of my friends and kissed all of them, and my best friend, and my best friends mom. So, all together he's cheated on me, abused me, and stalked me, lied to me, used me, and ruined my life and my dignity. What should I do?
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To borrow from a certain site familiar to many here:
:boot: :kerosene: :fire:
Seriously, talk to an adult, either a parent or someone at school about the punching and grabbing stuff. You shouldn't have to put up with violence.
The rest is a not-so-subtle clue for you to have nothing to do with him.
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hey. well, to get right to it, there's this guy i fell in love with. he's a senior, and i'm a freshman, but i still love him more than life itself. but there are so many problems....he is my 19th cousin...do u think that's bad? then there's his "new" girlfriend. and the fact that he loves his 3rd cousin, which is worse than me. but the real problem is he is a vampire. i'm serious. he sucks his blood and everything! he's even tried to kill me a number of times. but i still fell in love with him somehow. but the day i found out he had a girlfriend, i slit my wrist 23 times. i've been doing it every night for almost a month now because of him. now, i'm not pretty or skinny, so it's not like i have another guy to like instead. do you have any advice? and then...there's my second problem. i'm 14, and there's this really nice, really sweet 22 year old who loves me. and i have no clue what to do. he's a minister, but he has a bad past and reputation. some of my friends are afraid that he'll rape me or something like that. but i like him alot. what should i do? cuz it's kinda illegal.......well, thanks in advance for any help you can offer. Bye (link)
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Have a long talk with an adult outside this whole thing who you trust. We're just a bunch of armchair philosophers on this one.
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At my school there are some kids who think being Jewish is a bad thing. I am half Jewish and one of my friends is too. We always get mad when we hear kids saying it. Some kids say things like- You Jew- as if its bad. They dont even care who they say it to they will say it to christians catholics or jews. It really make me mad but I dont know what to do. Plus most of the kids who say it are in the popular group witch me and my friends are not it. What should I do? (link)
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"you Jew" fits into the same cluster as "that's so gay" and "you run like a girl"... all phrases you can do without using, but that you can more or less expect to hear around you. How angry you get is up to you.
You're probably indecisive because you know that bringing in the authorities can be long and costly for you. You get to be the snitch, the taunters get to be the victim for a bit, and they may get all the more enthusiastic about using "Jew" as an insult for your efforts.
If you think the world's a sane place and have patience, the ones worth knowing among them may kick themselves from time to time in a few years for being such boors. For the time being, they're just being kids. They may have a pretty limited idea of what a Jew is, it may just be another insult in their collection. It sucks, but that's the nature of insults: they almost always have meanings which their users find out later. "Bastard" reinforces a wrongheaded view that your parentage determines your worth, "geek" is unfair to circus performers and most elementary school kids have no idea what "gay" is (nor do they have a particularly refined grasp of "straight"... I hope).
Meanwhile, best to wait for them to slip up and incriminate themselves. They will.
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hey how do u delete questions you have posted?????????????????????????????/
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I don't think you can, that's why there's that little "think carefully" warning in the posting screen.
It's designed that way to avoid orphan answers, if I understand right.
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i cant spell and im proud of it am i normal? (link)
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Normal... maybe, depending on your definition of normal, but c'mon, good spelling lets you make a favourable impression on the world. Being proud of bad spelling is kind of anti-intellectual, which, valuing cleverness, insight and order, I'm not so sure about.
In art, they say to learn the rules (composition, rendering, perspective, etc.) so you can break them properly. Same thing with spelling...
Aspire beyond normal!
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