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Okay so theres this guy that i like and we've dated for 9 months and we just broke up but were still kinda together just without the title.. and theres this other guy whos sooo cute, funny, hes in swing dance [[mypartner]], and hes a thesbian [[actor]] and i like him and he seid he liked me but i cant get over teh other guy and i dont wanna hurt him or anything and i dont wanna hurt the other one eaither i mean i like both of them.. im only 15 so i dont wanna like be together with anyone 4 ever not till im older but i realli dont no what to do anymore.. i also can switch schools if i want to and i cant diside if i want to and get away from it all and start over or just face my problems.. (link)
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I think you should make absolutely sure where you stand with your boyfriend/ex-boyfriend. You dont have to tell him there's another guy in the mix, just ask him where you two stand. Talk about how your relationship would be in the future ideally. Ultimately, it is up to you. What does your intuition tell you? Do you like your boyfriend enough to give up a great guy for? Or do you think after nearly a year you want to try someone new?
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It's very possible I am snowboarding this weekend. I've gone skiing before, only twice, but I picked it up pretty well. Not skiing black diamonds yet, but I'm doing decently well on the intermediate slopes. I heard it was easier to learn how to ski before snowboarding so I hope that's true? But I think I will be getting a lesson from an instructor at the mountain for snowboarding... I was just wondering if anyone had any tips for someone who is new to this? Thanks! (link)
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I live close to a ski mountain and used to ski nearly every weekend. One time I tried snowboarding and it was very difficult. I think once you are good at skiing it is more difficult to snowboard, so you are in good shape so far. You will fall A LOT. Everybody does. One thing that took me forever to figure out was the best way to get up. Roll onto your stomach first (facing uphill) and get up using your knees. If I had figured that out right away my snowboarding experience would have been much better. Just practice and try not to get frustrated. Have fun too!
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my dad just relized my birthday was 2 days ago its only me and my dad i ve been talkin about it for a long time and he forgot for 2 days he said he was sorry he relized it when i was crying sayin you didnt remember my bday all my friends called and sang and talked and everything but my DAD didnt i cant get over it he forgot last year too ITS EVEN ON THE CALANDER im cryin i just cant get over it (link)
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Try not to worry about it. It absolutely doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it just means he forgot the date. You know how it is sometimes when you have to double check what date it is and it is a totally different day than it really was? Well that's probably all that is happening
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I've recently started seeing a 33 year old male who lives in another town, I am a 36 year old woman. He came to visit and I found that I wanted to have sex more often than he did over the weekend and that he was unable to maintain an erection for very long. The erection would go, then come back and then he was unable to maintain his erection long before ejaculation. He was very attentive in all other areas and maintains he is interested in seeing me more often and is visiting me agin soon. However I'm a little confused as I've not experienced this before and I'm wanting to know if he's as interested in me as he states. How do I approach this without freaking him out? (link)
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It may not be you at all. It could be early stages of ED. You've seen the thousands of commercials out there for viagra, cialis, and levitra. Maybe he can give that a try. That would spice up your sex life anyway :)
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does anyone knopw how i can delete and add songs from my new ipod nano? i reapeat NEW (link)
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Get Itunes, and get all of your music into the library. Make a playlist called "my ipod selection" or whatever you wanna call it. Plug ur Ipod into the dock and select that playlist to be your Ipod playlist. Just add songs to the playlist and plug the ipod in, and it will automatically put whatever is on that playlist onto your ipod. if you get sick of a song, just delete it from that playlist and plug your ipod in, once it is done updating it will be off your ipod.
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Today I was hangin' out at Taco Bell w/ a bunch of my friends, who were all guys. They claimed that men were better than women at pretty much everything. Then when I disagreed, they said to me, "Ok, name one thing that women are better at than men." I was stuck. Then they started laughing 'cause I didn't say anything. They were like, "Yeah, all these great geniuses and inventors, like Einstein and all, all men." It made me so mad, and embarassed. They said they were just messin' with me, but I somehow can't believe that. I feel like they meant what they were saying. Should I confront them again? Or should I just let it slide and hope it doesn't come up again(maybe they were just kidding after all). (link)
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I'm a guy, and I'm ashamed of the guy community that we say this. Our society hasn't been as accepting to women until recently. Women have only been allowed to vote since like 1920. I think if our society was always equaly, you would have seen a woman president already. But you guys are still fighting to be seen as equals (look at the WNBA). This is my poor attempt to explain why they said that, but here's what you do. Dont bring it up again, but if it does, turn the tables on them. Say "why are all the bad people in the world men?" Like osama bin laden, hussein, benedict arnold, ken lay, there's a million of them. But i bet you can hardly name 2 bad women in the world.
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So, I realize "love" between two people can make happiness for them and some degree of comfort. I haven't had a steady boyfriend for basically two years, so I don't understand what's so attractive about the whole thing.
Sometimes I will be sitting on the couch and I will see some show about people being in love and my chest will completely tighten and I will wish that it was me. But really, when I think about it I don't understand what is so fantastic.
I know that part of this may just be that I don't know the "right guy".. but why is being in love so great? What happens?
Thanks =) (link)
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I think nearly everybody questions this at some point. My roommate has had a girlfriend for a year now and I always envy what he has with her. Yet just the other day he told me that he envied me! For being single. There are advantages and disadvantages to each side.
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I dont have a penis but after all this advertising on internet I got interested. Not in having a penis,lol but finding information about it.
Is it dangerous and unhealthy? Does it work or is it a fiasko? Does it have sideeffects?
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It's not the size of the ship anyway, its the motion of the ocean
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I am leaving town, without my boyfriend. In the first place I was not in love with him but things got serious on his mind. I am not leaving on having a long distance relatioship and I dont wanna break his heart. Help please? (link)
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I was with a girl with the exact same problem. Only she didn't tell me that she didn't want a long distance relationship and kept leading me on. You may think you are breaking his heart now, but you will be hurting him twice as bad if you leave him or cheat on him in the future.
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ok well my ex cheated and hes with the girl he cheated on me with..
& on my myspace i have this boys initials to make him jealous and he keeps txting me saying 'oh ur desperate you told me you didnt like him when we were goin out' and i was just thinkin why would i actually tell you if i like a guy when were goin out. but like why is he bugging me? he told me he didnt care and hes 'GLAD' that i found a new guy. and was like ok if u didnt care why would you text me talking crap anyway? helpp :/ why is he doin this if he 'doesnt care' and has a gf anyway! (link)
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It sounds like he's regretting his decision to cheat on you. You should just try to blow him off and get him out of your life. He already hurt you once, dont let him do it again with his belittling you.
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Ever since I bought an i-home for my ipod, my ipod never shuts down correctly. Like I leave it on the i-home overnight so it can charge, then I'll take it off and bring it to school and it won't turn off. I always have to wait for it to die and it's a huge pain. I know how to reset my ipod but that doesn't help. I've searched all over apple.com for any info but I can't find anything!!! Has anyone had this problem? Is the i-home ruining my ipod? (link)
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It took me awhile to figure out how to actually turn it off correctly in the first place too. For mine in need to hold down the play/pause button for about 4 seconds and it'll finally power down. If that doesn't work, i'd call them to see if they know or to get a refund or something. It may be a pain but at least you would have a working product then.
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hey there,
theres this guy at school I really really like.
Before our xmas vacation,we had this party at school. Out of no-where, he just said "hey S".
A week later, he asks me about the yearbook comitee.
After the vic, we had PE together, he called my name and when I turned, he waved with a big smile on his face. I was so surprised, after that I developed a crush on him. But all he does is say "hi" and told me one funny thing my guyfriend did(they're in the same class). I really dont know, does he have a crush on me? Every time I decide to give up on him, someone says he glanced at my direction or was staring at me.
I really need your advice, should I wait or should I give up on him? (link)
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A lot of times it's tough for guys to come out and start a conversation. He's taking a risk by talking to you, even if you don't think he's saying much. If you go to him, it will really impress him and make him feel good. Just starting a conversation with him is the starting point to a relationship. Good luck and have fun.
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today my friend was over at his grandmothers house which is only 5 houses down and after school we went for a walk with my dog. well he grabed my hand and pulled me or should i say dragged me and my dog into the woods. he slung me down on the ground he pulled his dick out and wus rubbing all up on me with it. he wanted me to give him a blow job but i didn't want to thats just nasty. so he was like forcing me too then i pushed him against a tree then he looked like he was about to slap the crap out of me i was so scared. i don't know what i should do i want to tell my mom but then she will never let me near him again but i don't want to be friends with him anymore and if i tell her shell like be all overpertected and she already is. so what do i do i'm so scared and confused.
sorry this is so long (link)
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If you break a lamp or feed the dog table scraps even though you aren't supposed to, don't worry about telling your mom cause it's not a big deal. But this is a big deal. The kid committed a crime against you. You need to tell her and even though it may be awkward, she will respect you for it. Hey, she may even become less protective if she knows you are responsible.
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is it just me?..or do other people think like me, that they hate themselves, that theyre not worth living. Because there are so many stressful things in life, school, personal life, friends, family..so on and so on....im stressed over so much stuff, and all i do to make myself feel better is to cry. i keep my emotions up inside of me, and all i have to let my feelings out is in a journal i keep and write my deep thoughts and feelings in it. i dont think there is anyone in this world that i can tell ALL of my feelings to. is it just me?...is there anyone else out there who thinks just like me?...how do you solve your problems?... (link)
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I'm not sure how old you are, but I absolutely hated middle school and high school. I felt the exact same way you did. I wasn't social by any means. And I had maybe 1 good friend. But now I am in my first year of college and I love it. All I did was grit my teeth and try to bear the tough times. Believe me, it does get a lot better. But you'll never find out if you commit suicide. The journal is a good way to get through it. The change from high school to college for me was dramatic and I have a whole new outlook on life. I hope you can experience the same. Good luck
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 11 months in 2 weeks. Well I dont see him as much as i used to and as much as i liked to. cuz i moved. So its hard but we manage to see eachother at least once every 2 weeks. But this has been going on sense oct. But we see eachother almost every mon. for about 10 min. cuz i run into town. Anyways he told me tonight he is a bit depressed but he wont spill why. Im his gf.. shouldnt he tell? I know its hard.. but he was there through everything for me. He also told me when he was over at his friends house he could have gotten high but when he was offered he said he kind of wanted to but didnt. He asked if i would be mad if he did. He isnt a stoner.. so.. I dont know. I know that might be like apart of him being a bit down. i dont know what to do like how to react.. its confusing i dont get why he is bottling it up inside when i always let him in on what was going on in my mind. At the end of the convo he said that he would tell me if he could. So im hoping its not that bad he cant tell someone. Should I write him a letter? like what should i say in it because i dont want to seem pushy. (link)
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I think he is depressed since he can't see you as much as he wants to. You obviously mean a lot to him for him to think of you when he's put into the situation of getting high. Sometimes it's hard for guys to totally let loose on their feelings. Just give it time and see him more, then he will go back to the boyfriend he used to be. Hope this helped.
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