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OK i have nothin to do and my head hurts and i dont feel good wut should i do
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Sleep
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im so much in love with neighbor and i wanna tell him but the words wont come out please help me?? (link)
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Why do I get the feeling this is the same person just asking the same question over and over and over, why don't you just read what other's have already told you. It's getting ANNOYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God damn it!
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Ok, There is this kid I really(REALLY) like at school. But I am like the absolute shyiest person to talk about crushes and that stuff. I saw him with this girl last week, so I'm questioning him. But, before he was with this girl(but he still is now) he acts like he is gay. IE, with having the hand motions, hands on hips, rolling eyes, when I turn my head and see him looking at me, and having lots of friends that are girls. But.. he denied it when a friend of mine kept joking about it when she kept calling him a faggot. But now hes 'running off' with some girl and they pecked on the lips..
Ok, So the question is what do I do. I mean it still is perfectly fine having an obssession without him knowing. It doesn't bother me at all that I doubt I can have him, cuz like its nice having a certain 'person' I have a crush on and look forward to secretly encountering. And I mean if I tell him I bet he'll flip and tell the whole school(being pesimistic) and things will just crash from there. So I dunno what to do, any ideas? (link)
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Well first of all, a lot of gay men have majority of their friends being female. Also, several of them are "in the closet", maybe admitting the fact that he is gay might ruin his reputation, so he might be denying it. Also, "faggot" is an insult, even though it refers to a gay person, but now-a-days "faggot" is an insult, even to some gay people. So he might have been denying it because of that reason too. If you are confident with your "gaydar", then you really should talk to him. What other way can you find out about him? Other then having one of his friends find out for you, but maybe you can help him come out of he is hiding. The only 100% way of finding out first hand is to talk to him. But don't just directly ask the question, maybe point out some gay factors. Like "aww gay men" or something, and see his reaction to it. Just do minor things to find out his outtake on gays. Then finally, when you feel like you're confident enough, finally ask him. Another thing, look him directly in the eyes in the halls, during class, or lunch. While you're passing him, stare at him. Straight men usually can't keep a consistant eye contact with men they don't know. They'll get insecure, scared, paranoid, etc. if another man stares at him. Gay's have more of a tendency to stare longer, or maybe turn around real quickly in a panicking motion to show that they're nervous you saw. But straight men will more likely give a fit or show disgust.
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When one flaunts there new relationship all over the internet, I.E Bob is so hot. I've never been so happy. He's absolutely amazing. I'm so lucky. Like, wow. He's so hot. He's so hot. Like, everywhere...is it safe to think that the person doing this is insecure about the relationship, and is just trying to prove to everyone how great it is, when maybe it's not all that wonderful? (link)
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It's possible that maybe (s)he's just insecure, and maybe very happy that (s)he has a relationship and that you do not (if you don't have one). Maybe (s)he is trying to make you jealous.
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Oh My god rachael...I made a psi-ball...its jessie (your cousin)
nevermind that to anyone who isnt my cousin Rachael...
But...has anyone ever made a psi-ball before?
Or does anybody believe in them?
Check out what they are online. (link)
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Wow, Psi-Balls are.. so frikin hard to make.. I heard it takes years of practice. Good job! :) (and yes i've heard of them before)
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IM 13 AND THE BOY I LIKE IS 14 SHOULD I TELL HIM I HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM OR WAIT TILL IM OLDER? IM REALLY REALLY SCARED OF REJECTIONAND I MWORRIED WHAT HE WILL SAY... SHOUDL I WAIT TILL IM IN 9TH GRADE OR SHOULD I TELL HIM THIS SUMMER WHILE HE IS OVER SWIMMING I DONT WANT TO BREAK OUR FRIENDSHIP IM JUST SCARED OF REJECTION PLEASE HELP ME!!!! (link)
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I swear.. this is like the 6th or 7th time you've asked for advice on the same thing..
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Why can't he see all the signs I try to make whenever he looks at me I try to look back and make eye contact but he always turns away too quickly. . i really love him! I cantt ake my eyes off of him. . and soemtimes I think he gets annoyed because I stare at him so much. . I just melt wheneerI try to go talk to him I cant do it. . im too nervous I dont have anything to say I men we could talka bout his football. . ugh and well I dont think hed like me. . and Im so negative. . Are his looks of anger? or for love? I dont understand if he likes me or not. . I rlly like him and I wish I could have a chance with him. (link)
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I've gone through the same situation, well actually currently going through. What I suggest is actually talking to the guy you like, it might be hard because you're shy, but who knows! It might work out!..
On the contrary.. I, myself, have given up..
"Don't get your hopes up, you feel less pain when you're hurt"
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if i had a dream about a boy that i dumped like a month ago and i liked the dream does that mean i like him? (link)
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Not really, it just means that you miss the boy which is probably why you liked it because he was there.
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I love my best friend so much (just as a friend) and we've been friends for many years but lately we are hardly spending any time together and we don't talk on the phone or anything like we used to. She always also just gets mad at me for the smallest things when I am not (in my way of seeing things) doing anything truly wrong to make her mad.She tell other people that she feels like i am ignoring her on-purpose or purposefully making plans with other people to get out of spending time with her which is not true at all..I still really want to be friends with her and I do not like the way things are going... we gaven't talked at all in a few days and I'm scared to say anything to her for fear she may be mad at me. I don't know what to do... I truly do not wish to lose this friendaship ='( Please help me
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Think back to things you could have done for this to happen. Everything happens for a reason, and everything happens BECAUSE of a reason. Maybe you should treat her better because it seems as if you aren't making too much of an effort to stay friends.
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OK THE MAN OF MY DREAMS IS MY NEIGHBOR RIGHT HE IS ACTIVE HE PLAYS FOOTBALL AND BASKETBALL AND DOES TRACK BUT HE SAID WHEN HE GETS OLDER HE DOESNT WANT TO HAVE A PHYSICAL JOB DOES THAT MEAN HE IS GOING TO BE LAZY?ASLO HE DOESNT FLIRT AND IS 14 AND DOESNT HAVE PIT HAIRS DOES THIS MEAN WHEN HE GETS ALL THAT HE WILL BE MORE INTO GIRLS? (link)
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Didn't you already ask for advice on this same topic 4 times?..
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I have this "friend" who I know is keeping something from me. The thing is, I also know the secret he's trying to hide. But I still want him to admit it just so he knows that I know. I guess it's not right to expect him to tell me, after all, it's a big secret- though I personally don't care, I love him anyways.
How can I get him to tell me without being too pushy? Or should I just leave it alone. I know I probably should, but it's a big deal to me that he's too scared to tell me. I think he thinks that I won't handle it well. He just doesn't understand that I'm fine with it. Your advice? (link)
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Tell him you know the secret if you really WANT to get it out of him. Just slowly work your way to getting it out of him, act like your putting this secret together "piece-by-piece" then he'll admit it sooner or later.
(Why do I have a feeling this has something to do with ME? o_O)
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See grandma and me and mother got into a fight and they told me they decided to ship me off to school as they put it. I talked to mother about it and she also wants to send me to school but i dont wanna go I like homeschool even if it is loney having no friends and im scared if i got to school Ill get talked back beind my back and have no friends. what do i do? (link)
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Try to be more socially active. I can't see how you wouldn't mind being so lonely, everyone needs friends! I myself was going to be homeschooled but then I realized that it would kill my social life and I'd be bored to death. Personally, I think you should accept this big step because how else are you going to survive when your older if you don't have people skills?
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my friend likese this guy...but he doesnt know if he likes him let alone if he is gay....what should he do ive told him to go ta;lk to him but he says no i stil think he should but i know he wont....oh welll maybe you can talk some sense into him -me (link)
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Hi Chris! :).. and..
quote that ive learned from:..
"Don't get your hopes up, you feel less pain when you get hurt"
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Ok see here is the problem,I really want a boyfriend but I am afraid I will not get one because i am what some people call gothic and what other people call punk or a skater.I dont know what to do!I really want a boyfriend i feel so lonely without one what can i do to get one without changing who i am or what i belive in? Also i dont like getting rejected i think it is akward. (link)
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Well you can't rush these kind of things. Just be yourself, and eventually you'll meet that special someone. It may be long of a wait, may seem too long, but it'll be all worth it at the end. If you REALLY are rushing it, try a personals website.
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my friend mari just got dumped by this kid zack and he likes my friend nicole.. and nicole liked him. well, mari found out about nicole and zack and she told nicole that she doesnt want them going out because she still likes zack. i tried to tell nicole not to do it because her and mari are friends. well, nicole did it to mari. and they are both my friends and i dont want to get stuck in the middle of everything. then they went to a basketball game. and nicole told me that mari went up to her and said that she is going to get zack back. and i asked mari if thats true and she said no. then she went and told nicole that i told mari nicole punched her in the face. and i didnt. and i dont know what to do! (link)
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Well if you don't want to get stuck in the middle, like you said, then maybe its best you leave it up to them and stay out of the situation. :)
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I have two beautiful Shih Tzu dogs who had puppies together. I adore my dogs and their puppies. I gave one of the little darling puppies to my friend and her daughter. Her daughter has health problems. I made it very clear if she was unable to keep the puppy, I prefer her to return the puppy to me. Less than a week after I gave her the puppy, she has given the puppy to her friend Heather, a woman I do not even know. She says that she gave her the puppy until it is housebroken because she does not want the puppy around her daughter. I gave her this puppy that I could have easily sold for over $500 and now she has given it away. How can I make myself clear that I want the puppy back? I made it a point to place these puppies with people I know because they are such important little animals to me. The parent dogs are like my children and the babies are like my grandchildren. I feel insulted, angry, and hurt that my friend went against the direct conditions of me giving her the dog and I want the puppy back so I can place him with someone I know. (link)
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Tell your friend the truth. That you wanted the puppy to be in the care of someone you know, and that you wish to have it back. What other way can you get it back? Just make it as simple as possible, like by saying "Remember that puppy I gave you? Well I really wanted it to be in the care of someone I know, so is there any way that you can get it back from Heather?"
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Alright, my friend liked this guy and so did i. It all looked as if he liked my friend, but when she asked him out she found out he liked me... then he was being all a jerk to my friend... but she still likes him and can't stop liking him... ummm... then he asked her out cause i guess he realized he was being a jerk... she said i don't know... he said all suprised "You don't know!?!?"... then she talked it over with her other friend and she said no... she still likes him and now knows i like him... should I go out with him... my friend said to me the other day "Why would u want to go out with him if you saw him be such a jerk to me?" and i though about that and can't decide, and i'm afraid my friend will hate me if i do but i like him. (link)
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If he is being a jerk to your friend, and also likes 3 other girls at once, what makes you think that he's not going to cheat on you? Some guys are players. What you really have to do is just get to know him a little bit better, introduce him to your friends and see how he treats them. Find out his inner personality and decide from there whether you want to go out with him or not.
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I'm sure everyone's sick of hearing about these type of problems, but...there's someone at school who I'm really interested in. He has a girlfriend, and I'm fine with that, but I'd like to be closer with him friend-wise. He comes up to me sometimes and occasionally sits with me for long periods of time. The only problem is, I'm extremely shy and have a lot of trouble conversing with him. I usually end up staring into space, wishing I knew what to say, while he talks a little bit. Of course I don't stay completely silent the entire time, but I feel like my lack of interesting things to say is keeping us from becoming real friends. What should I do? (link)
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Why be shy? If he's sitting with you for long periods of time then he must want to become friends, otherwise he would ignore you! So talk to him, be yourself, act natural and just go with the flow. If you keep holding back and acting shy, then nothing will ever develop out of that.
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I guess, any answer to this is just a matter of opinion, but here goes....Um...Ok, my ex b/f has a new g/f, and they seem to being going strong. But, in school he seems so unhappy. I don't know. I still really like him. And I'm not saying that I won't date other people for him, or not hang out with my friends to just sit around and wait for him. But, I don't know. What do you guys think? (link)
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First of all, how are you so sure that he is unhappy because of his new girlfriend? Maybe it could be some other reason, but why don't you find out first? Talk to him, see how he's doing and what the problem is. Who knows? Maybe you can help him with it and you two might hook up again!
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Ok, I don't wanna sound brutal or anything, but my BFF (let's call her Emma) is so freakin' boring. I'm getting into going to parties, dances, and other fun stuff. Emma is the total opposite. She'll sit at home, watching TV, or sitting on her computer for 5 hours. I really feel like she's holding me back. What should I do? (link)
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Oooh, the typical boring best friend thing :), okay so here's what you gotta do! Your best friend might be a bit shy to go out, or just not used to going out. Have her over one day and invite a couple other close friends over. Socialize and get her comfortable. Then go to the movies with even more friends. Gradually get her social that way she realized how much more fun it is to be actively social!
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