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I Need ur advice
Ok, There is this kid I really(REALLY) like at school. But I am like the absolute shyiest person to talk about crushes and that stuff. I saw him with this girl last week, so I'm questioning him. But, before he was with this girl(but he still is now) he acts like he is gay. IE, with having the hand motions, hands on hips, rolling eyes, when I turn my head and see him looking at me, and having lots of friends that are girls. But.. he denied it when a friend of mine kept joking about it when she kept calling him a faggot. But now hes 'running off' with some girl and they pecked on the lips..
Ok, So the question is what do I do. I mean it still is perfectly fine having an obssession without him knowing. It doesn't bother me at all that I doubt I can have him, cuz like its nice having a certain 'person' I have a crush on and look forward to secretly encountering. And I mean if I tell him I bet he'll flip and tell the whole school(being pesimistic) and things will just crash from there. So I dunno what to do, any ideas?
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Well first of all, a lot of gay men have majority of their friends being female. Also, several of them are "in the closet", maybe admitting the fact that he is gay might ruin his reputation, so he might be denying it. Also, "faggot" is an insult, even though it refers to a gay person, but now-a-days "faggot" is an insult, even to some gay people. So he might have been denying it because of that reason too. If you are confident with your "gaydar", then you really should talk to him. What other way can you find out about him? Other then having one of his friends find out for you, but maybe you can help him come out of he is hiding. The only 100% way of finding out first hand is to talk to him. But don't just directly ask the question, maybe point out some gay factors. Like "aww gay men" or something, and see his reaction to it. Just do minor things to find out his outtake on gays. Then finally, when you feel like you're confident enough, finally ask him. Another thing, look him directly in the eyes in the halls, during class, or lunch. While you're passing him, stare at him. Straight men usually can't keep a consistant eye contact with men they don't know. They'll get insecure, scared, paranoid, etc. if another man stares at him. Gay's have more of a tendency to stare longer, or maybe turn around real quickly in a panicking motion to show that they're nervous you saw. But straight men will more likely give a fit or show disgust.
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