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Hey well as you probably see I am 19 and I'm Christian (JesusFreak) and go ahead ask me something hopefully i can give you an answer thats right and ok with you. Have a good day
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well i have this friend lets call him fred well fred and i have known eachother for hmm 6 years or so and hes 2 years older than me so hes 15 and a sophmore and im 13 in 8th grade anyways fred used to hate me but now he wants to get with me there are two problems..
1) he has told me himself he cant keep a girl for longer than 3 days, but those 3 days cud be the best 3 days of my life since i've liked him for 6 years
2) he told me he does weed now im not sure if he still does but he told me he quit and im not sure if i shud believe him
3) i smoke and he's okay with that but i dont want to get him addicted by bein w. me
4) we live 30 mins away from eachother but im movin to his town this summer so when im a freshman he'll be a junior...
1) first is it that he doesnt want a girl over 3 days? or is it because he hasnt been able too...either way he will change but if he does put a limit on your relationshio thats not worth your time then.....
2)it is hard to quit weed and he could always relapse so i wouldnt believe it
3)i dont approve of smoking but just dont offer him any and he wont get hooked
4)movin is good so it will be better for you
so i think you should give it a try only if he doesnt put a 3 day limit on the relationship and also if you find out if he is honest about pot....i hope this helped
JesusFreak
well i really like this guy ALOT, i know it sounds crazy but i don't even talk to him though. all my friends talk about me and say omg why do you like him? it's not like u have any chance with him. they dont exactly say that but they word it like that and their not help. i mena im scared to talk to him because he's two years older than me. i'm scared he'll probably think im some kinda loser, and i'm ugly ect ect. but i'm kinda stuck in this position where i don't know what to do about it. i think about just stop liking him because maybe that would help it. i dk sorry if this sounds confusing but i really need help, alright thanks.
hey first dont let your friends put you down like that...your as good as anyone only if you think you are and if you think you arn't then its reality....also try talkin to him dont be afraid to just go up to him...most guys would actually like a girl who takes intiative and after you talk to him if he shows no interest forgit him...he wont be worth it if he doesnt want to talk...also dont worry about your looks he should like you for you......
JesusFreak
Ok so here is the deal i wanna tell people about god. and i know that it is a good thing andi have planned to sing at this years talent show. like a gossple song i dunno what i am gunna sing but i do know i am gunna do it but what i don't know to do is
how to show people that i am a strong christian.
how do i approach people into asking god into there lives and stuff
thnx
Hey there....first of all approaching people and tellin them about God is super hard and it always starts out with establishing a relationship with the person your trying to reach...and just be an example for them on how you live for Christ..you force the gospel down their throat...they have to be willing to hear it...and if people see you living for Christ they will notice something different about you and ask wahts the difference in you and that is a perfect opportunity to share the gospel and your testimony...also if a friend is feelin down just share with them what makes you happy (God and Jesus) maybe tell them a few verses that says God never wastes a hurt or something of that kind....also I couldnt even be more happy how your willing to sing in front of a bunch of people about your love of Christ....but also you have to check with the school if that is ok because of the whole seperation of Church and state thing......songs i would recommend would be...Breath...The Nails in your Hands.....or We fall down....
JesusFreak
Please let me know how it goes....
ok so here is my problem i have this friend shapray and well she can be really nice and all but she and her family was beaten by her dad and they moved away but the recntley found out that a man had shot him and then just yesterday her stepdad left them forever if u know what i mean its has been REAL REAL hard on her i want to comfert her but i live 8 hours away how do i comfert her so she dosent have to go back to the mental hospital i am a christian and i have prayed about it but i cant seenm to find the anser help me
signed i hope the letter wasnt to long
hey hey...your in a hard situation....being a Christian you have to realize that everything has a purpose especcially on why God isnt answering your prayer...i dunno what it is but God never wastes a hurt....also realize you can't really do anything for her unless God gives you the words that you need to comfort her so try surrending the problem up to God put it fully in God's hands and have Him till you what to do and have Him fill you with the Holy Spirit so you can have the wisdom on what to say....what you can do is you can build her up just emotionally like compliment her....i hope this helps.....
JesusFreak
can girls call boys their "baby" like they call us that?? what other names o you call them besides .. 'babe...ect..'
yeah its fine
other names:
hottie,sexy,stud muffin,sweetie,hun,
Okay so I met this guy online like a couple weeks ago or so. And I really feel like I'm falling for him, I love him so much. Do you think this is crazy or actually possible that I can be in love with him?
i think it is possible to find someone you love online...but however i would make a commitment like datin or marriage or nething like that till you actually have met him...or maybe ask him to do something for you thats with-in reason that he can do and see if he really does love you by doing that...
JesusFreak
Last week, at youth group, my youth pastor was talking about "gods family". How we need other christians to lift us up and motivate us and all that. Well i do have some friends that go to youth group with us, my friends actually. But they dont lift me up all that much. In fact, ive been trying so hard to take the first step but its not easy when there's no one there to motivate you. Plus my friend uses a oujii board. Everytime i confront her about these things she either is rude and doesn't pay attention or she flips out.
Help!
i remember when my youth pastor went over that...and yes it is hard to lift people up and keep encouraging them because its so easy to be negative...and you also dont nessarily have to do it with just your close brother's and sisters in Christ you cant lift up anyone, like if you see someone looking down and kind of sad just compliment them on something...or for your friends compliment them on there wearing or something like that...your friend with the ouija board most likely doesnt believe shes talkin to satan through it so thats why she probably ignores you or whatever, the only thing you can do is just tell her how you feel and she let her be...or if you with her at the time she has it out tell her you want no part of it and just walk away...feel free to im me if you need motivation or someone to lift you up cus id be glad to help...goateeruffian is my screen name
Okay im the starting Varsity quarterback for my high school football team. We have practice 4 days a week and every other saturday from 4 to 6:30. I have also been in choir and all the school plays with mainly leading parts for my whole life, and its never been a problem interfearing with football before but now this year the play practice is going to be every night that football is except tell 7!! (and not every other saturday) I know the choir/play director very well and she wants me to do the play so bad, and my coach asked me about it when i talked to him.. HELP!?!???
work out a plan with the the play teacher maybe see if you can make up practices for the weekend or do the same thing for coach ask if you can skip a few practices and make them up on saturday
im going out with this guy since yesterday who i've never talked to. we're in the same health class. tomorrow his friend told me to talk to him. im really nervous because i dont know what to say at all. any ideas? also, how should i make it look like im not as nervous as i really am? thanx!
first of all....how have you gone with him without even talking to him before...but if dont wanna appear nervous bring a group of friends with you to talk to him so you dont have to talk to him alone...also think of some things to ask him before you go over n talk to him...
JesusFreak
I have this problem where everything i wear must match. I wont wear somthing if it doesnt match perfectly. It takes me forever to get dressed. Is this bad? If so does anyone know how i can stop?
hey hey...there is nothing wrong with looking perfect...however in an extreme case you could have mild obsessive compulsive disorder which is just like having eveything perfect and neat and not disorderly
JesusFreak
Sorry... this is a sex question and there are somewhat graphic content. Not really bad but if you're young, you might not want to read this. Please only OLDER columnists answer this. I don't want advice from an inexperienced 13-14 year old. Someone who knows what I'm going through would help. And so... here's my question....
Hey, I'm 14/f and my boyfriend is 16. Yesterday I was at his house and we were doing sexual things and then I told him to go get a condom. (he uses them normally for self pleasure so it doesn't get anywhere...) So he went upstairs and got it but when he came back down I was crying. I don't know why I was crying. I really feel like I'm ready to have sex with him. We've been together for 2 years and we love eachother very much. It's weird though, I know that I'm physically and emotionally ready to do it it's just that, whenever we are about to, I get scared. Is this normal? Can anyone help me out?
PS- I'm a virgin and so is my boyfriend and we both want to lose our virginity to eachother.
hey...well if you cry and get scared maybe your just not ready....if he loves you he will understand that your not ready and wait for you and its better to wait till later anyways because if you wait till marriage then you will know your doing it with the right person.....
JesusFreak
Hi well my boyfriend jus dumped me , and he is a christan and so am i im 16 and he's 18 but he said he didnt want to be seen with me anymore, i mean Im really pretty and popular in my school, he said that I look like Jessica Simpon, he hurt my feelings by telling me he didn't like me any more and that he liked some 19 year old that was already married, what do I do?
Plz help!!!
hun...pretty much it seems hes a lost cause especcially if he want to be seen with you anymore...i hate to tell people there is no hope but on this guy he just isnt worth it....i think you just take sometime recover from relationship then reenter the dating pool
JesusFreak
do you have a strong faith in god? because i do but i find it so hard to always have faith in him because alot of bad things happen to me i mean he always gets me through it but it is soo hard to believe that he loves me when these bad things continue to happen!!! how do u know that god loves me for sure!!!
yeah i do or atleast i like to think i do...God will put you through bad things but there always for a purpose...like how many time have something youve had to go through help you give advice on the same thing when they go through it??/ usually alot...newyas you just gotta keep praying keep the faith going...its ok to lose track just make sure you get back on it as soon as possible....You just havta trust that God loves you...that hes watchin over you...i guess you just have to realise that things could be a lot crappier then they are now....im sorry i couldnt give you a better answer...if you wanna chat more im me....
JesusFreak
Okay I have a boyfriend. And I have a bunch of guy friends like most girls do. but here's my problem. My b/f lives two hours away and I don't get to see him much. And last nite I was hangin out with some of my friends at a fair. Well I was hangin out with this one really great guy that I liked before I started dating my b/f. Well I want to go out with him but I can't bring myself to break up with my b/f. And here's another problem. My b/f is only a few months older than me and this guy is like 4 years. I see this guy more than I see my b/f and he wants to have a chance with me but I can't bring my self to break up with my b/f. I actually ended up kissing this guy yesterday while still going out with my b/f of course I told my b/f (while crying on the phone) and he says he's not mad (which I'm sure he is) and wants to talk to him ya know "Man to Man" but I don't know if that's a good Idea because my b/f is VERY belligerent(warlike ready to fight)and I don't know what to do anymore My idea was to ask my b/f if he wanted to date some of the girls where he lives because he could see them more often. and see what he says on that. I really thought that my realationship w/ him was going to work out cuz it worked for like 10months(and still going) for my sister and her b/f(which lives in the same town as mine and his cousins to mine) and I don't know what to do anymore. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
signed
lost and confused
personally my opinion 4 years older is way to old especcially if your in your teens. but anyways on to your advice be straight up with your boyfriend tell him you have been havin thoughts ever since you kissed the guy about your and his relationship...that it would be so much nicer to date someone who is in a reasonable distance of each other....you think its for the best....the whole askin him if he likes a chicka near him i will tell you right now it aint gonna work cus he would never admit to it....so just tel him the truth.......and please just be careful with the guy who is 4 years older then you are..
JesusFreak
17f
okay, me and my ex bf went out for a year and were TOTALLY inlove with eachother we even talked about marrying eachother..we broke up about a year ago over a big fight..It was becuase he was trying to get with this other girl at like the last few days of our relationship, and then when he would try and apalogize just to become friends again, he would go off and talk so much crap about me..he did me wrong and hurt me so bad..its been a WHOLE YEAR and im still not over his ass..plzzz dont tell me, girl its been a year get over him, because TRUST ME thats whut ive been trying to do :[...im a really good looking girl, smart, ambitious, respectful..and with him, yeah hes really good looking, funny, etc, but he didnt even graduate from highschool, he smokes/drinks all the time, gets in fights, back stabs ppl, etc, but like NO1 sees that in him because he is SOO funny and makes every1 laugh,etc so they dont see the bad qualities in him..he gets alota girlz, etc..i dunno i just cannot stop thinking about him and its been so friggin long, like 4 hours cant go by in my day that I dont think about him..He changed my life so damn much, for the better and for the worst...i wonder if he ever thinks of me, i mean i was his first gf, his first love, his highschool sweetheart, etc...im still only a junior, and still have 2 years left of highschool...im just really down...plz help me if you can..
thanks so much
hey there hun....well the truth is all you can do is give it time and yeah uve had a lot of time to try to get over him but i guess u really cared for him....you try to fixate on something else i guess instead of guys doing something you like...you said your ambicious do something you werent able to do with him...start focusing on the bad of waht he did to you and you find out that overtime yyou will feel your self liking him less and less.....
JesusFreak
My parents are driving me insane, normally they don't annoy me this much. I feel Like I am aoviding them and I feel really bad. They keep picking fights with me and...well you get it! Please help!
i figure your hitting your in your teen years some age now and trust me...completely natural for your parents to seem the most annoying people in the world....whats probably is happening is that the older you get the less and less you talk to your parents and the only way sometimes to talk to you is to fight with you and thats what they do...happened to me alot...justimprove communication with them, talk to them more about stuff...and i guarentee the fighting will go down....
JesusFreak
okay well theres this kid and i known him for 2 years but we didnt know eachother 2 years ago because we didn't have the same classes but he always caught my eye,he was cute!! n then in 7th grade we became good friends and he was one of my locker buddies :-d!! anyways the year went by really fast n it was a funn year because me and him got close and i asked him out but he said no n he just wanted to be friends..i got a little upset b.c it really seemed like he liked me but anyhow this year we don't have any classes together but we still hang out n he flirts w. me alot like we have sports studyhall and we chill there until practice starts and me n him click very well together and i kept takin his hat n wudnt give it bak so he'd hold my hand n not let go... i really want to be more than friends w. him cuz he soo hott OMG lol yeah bomb diggity anyways how can i approach him? and how else should i flirt w. him then tryin to hold his hand...??
thank you
and i will rate
well it seems he likes you most guys would do other things to get there hat back them hold your hand...cus the odds are he could easily over power you so many the next you take his hat and when he grabs your hand grab his hand too and when you give his hat back keep holding his hand and see what does if he keeps holding yours not as tight as he was before make your move ask him if he is doing something this weekend or whatever
JesusFreak
Homecoming is October 9th. I can't dance at all. I never have been able to... Also I don't have a date yet and I have to go because I'm having a foreign exchange student. No one will go with me... I asked this one guy whos my friend and at the time he wuz going out w/ someone and i liked him as friends. THen I got over him and he kissed me but I don't like him anymore like that... or I don't think... DO you think I should ask him? I'm 13 I'm a Freshman in highschool!
Id say go for it but also think of the foriegn exchange student will she/he have date if they odnt then it would be better off not going wiht anyone so you can keep them company rather then go dance with someone and let them fend for them selves
thanx for answering my question about the sin thing but i mean i live my life saying that if god were to come down at this moment would he be happy with me and so i guess if he came down and i was masturbating he wouldn't be happy :-( but isn't it natural?? like sooo many people do it most guys do because thats just what happends to them and also like every guy has watched porn and i am 13 and i haven't yet i mean not actual porn i mean i have seen nude pics but not porn and ne ways it is so tempting but i haven't anyways were you saying it is a sin to watch porn or were you saying it just was if you were watching and masturebating at the same time??? sorry to be so graphic or whatever but yea i just don't want to diapoint god because he has gotten me through so many things
thanx 4 the help
it is sin to watch porn by its self and also nude pics also count as porn even if you cant watch them...and yes it is natural to masturbate...some studies have shown guys who masturbate 2-3 times a week stay healthier then the ones who dont...however i honestly dont think God approves of it but God also tells you to keep your thoughts pure and that is also hard when your horny as heck and its better to get the thoughts out by masturbating then some other way that could possibly violate someone...the arguement is split in half dude...is say talk to God about it pray to him ask whether or not its right and tell him to speak to heart...maybe even try it and see if there is guilt in you and then you know it is God speaking that its something you shouldnt do....
JesusFreak
So you are a Jesus Freak. Are you familar with the group DC Talk? They have a song by that name. I was a big fan in my middle school/high school years along with Newsboys, Geoff Moore and the Distance, Michale W. Smith, Go Fish and more. Could you recommend some of the more popular christian contemparay bands of today.
yeah thats where i got the name JesusFreak from, some of the contemporary bands i really like are...P.O.D.,Relient K, SuperChick, Jeremy Camp, Jon Reuben, Sanctus Real....P.O.D, Relient K and Santus Real being some of the more popular.....