i want my nails to be longer.
they are soo short, i dont bite them.
what should i dooo.
I agree with itsmadisonyo. Any clear strengthening polish (or a "base coat" as it's sometimes called) should do the trick. It strengthens your nails so that they can grow. And it's available anywhere you buy nail polish -- heck, you might even have some at home already. Check it out and see =).
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Okay. first off I'll give you the basic details of our relationship.
Levi and I have been together for 2 years.
He's 18 and I'll be 18 in 2 weeks. We've had a bit of a rocky relationship but we love eachother. He's an Aquarius: extremely independent and seems to have no emotions sometimes. I'm a Cancer: extremely caring and loving, but can be needy.
I dropped out of highschool so his Mom doesn't like me. His cousin Blake doesn't like me because it's always a fight between us to get Levi's attention.
Okay. So here's my problem. I've been really down lately. I'm stressed out with my family because it seems like we're always fighting. I'm stressed out because of relationship problems. I just need a hug and Levi's not there for me at all....
A couple of days ago was our 2 year anniversary of the night we met. He was a friend of a friend and they came over to my house and we all went down the road to the cemetery. So for our anniversary I had planned that we go to the cemetery. We haven't been there since that night and I thought it would be special. So that night he didn't have a ride down here. He told me it didn't mean that much to him to ask his Dad to drive him all the way to my house after his Dad got off work.
We didn't hang out that night. But later, his cousin Blake showed up at his house and asked him to go with him to a party and Levi said no because it was our anniversary [Levi wouldn't have seen anything wrong with it but he knew I would be upset if he didn't at least talk to me on the phone that night] So Blake and Levi got into a fight about it. Levi blames me.
The next day I asked Levi if we could spend tonight [the 4th of July] together. We would go up to my secret place [it's really high] and watch the fireworks that are downtown. He told me that he and Blake were going to go out of town Thursday and would be back Sunday. They were going to a lake. So thursday night Levi was online and he told me one of the guys there was leaving Friday morning to come back into town. I asked him if he would take that ride back so that he and I could spend the 4th together. He said no. He wanted to spend the weekend there too... Not only did he say this, he freaked out on me. I only wanted to spend the day with him and he says I'm going to ruin his "REAL fun." He's calling me selfish. I don't understand this. He posted this... "apparently I can't spend the 4th of July weekend with my friends without being made to feel like shit as usual for trying to have some REAL fun on my own."
I really don't understand.
I was really sad and depressed for a couple of days before he left and he was never there for me. At least, not when his cousin is around. I mean, about a week ago I called Levi because I was fighting with my Mom and Brother and I needed someone to talk to. He was about to leave with his cousin to go on a walk and get some food. He tells me to suck it up and he'd call me when Blake and him were done hanging out. That night he calls me and immediately starts raising his voice saying that it's always a fight between Blake and I.
I'm like "I didn't start anything with Blake. I'm always very polite to him and he's just rude to me.. it's not my fault." that's the honest-to-god truth.
But Levi's so.. "blood is thicker than water" that he goes to such extremes as to give me all the blame for a fight that his mom or his cousin started and were completely out of line.
He's leaving for college in a couple of months and we're all fighting for his attention. But his family means so much more to him that they're getting a really unfair amount of his attention.
So... I don't really have a direct question... I just want to know... What should I say to him tonight when I talk to him? Or... should I just not talk to him at all?
Sorry it was so long. Thank you so much for your advice.
And if you would, please send your advice to my email? That way I'll get it soon, when I need it.
DivinelyBroken17@aol.com
thank you so much!
~Jessica
The simple, honest answer is: He's not worth your time. He's not giving you the respect or adequate attention that you need, and he's choosing other people over you WAY too often. I mean "blood is thicker than water" may be true, but it seems as if he's never without his cousin, so I think it's okay to say no to him once and a while and make room for you.
However, it's not easy to just give up on a two year relationship like that, especially if you really do have strong feelings for the person. I think it might be best to just be honest and upfront. Let him know that you feel hurt and that you don't appreciate the way he's treating you. (But make sure when you do this, you choose your wording very carefully -- guys will just attack if they feel like someone's offending their family or friends, even if you're not). If he doesn't respect your feelings after that, or continues to act the way he does, or raises his voice to you again, I think it might be best to ask yourself these questions:
1.) Do you really want to stay in a relationship with someone who's going off to college soon ?
Sure many people have maintained relationships while their partner is away at college, but given the situation you really have to wonder if he'd ever make an effort to talk to you or see you, since he's so ready and willing to give up a chance to see you when you're both home.
2.) Do you want to stay in a relationship with someone if their family dislikes you?
In the end it's up to the person you're with and only that person to decide whether or not you're right for them. Not their family, not their friends. However, both can be very influential. And in this case, even more so. It's nice that he cares about his family to that extent, but when he sides with them and never gives you a chance, do you think he ever will in the future? Do you want to remain with someone who doesn't seem willing to even talk to his family about you and give them reasons to like you?
and lastly,
3.) Do you want to stay in a relationship with someone who acts as if he's "trapped" and "bored" with you?
He was going to have some "REAL" fun? That's a straight up eff-ed up thing to say. Your plans sounded wonderfully romantic, and he had the chance to experience both fun with friends and then make it back in time to spend the night with you, but he gave that up. That was just plain rude. And not considering your anniversary and subsequent anniversary plans important to just merely ask for a ride? Again, rude and eff-ed up. It shows where his priorities are, and that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. It was "nice" that he chose to stay in and talk to you - but to only do it because he didn't want you to be upset, or more likely "he didn't want to hear you complain or fight with you" kinda negates it. And then to actually blame YOU for the fight with his cousin -- how could that have possibly been your fault? Had he actually gone to the cemetary with you (which again, sounded wonderfully romantic, even in a creepy way lol), he wouldn't have even had to face that problem. If anything it's HIS fault.
So in conclusion, it's best to let him know of your feelings. And if he doesn't respond well, it's best to really think if the relationship is worth it after all. I apologize for this insanely long response, but I hope it helped. And I hope for the best for you
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Okay, so I have a serious problem. I have been struggling with anorexia and bulimia for 2 years now. I'm surprised I'm not too weak to type. I've been to the doctor, I've been to eating disorder facilities, i've been to group help session, and i'm still the way i am.
i'm 5'9" and i weigh about 100-110 pounds... and i'm getting thinner. When i went for help, i was better for a little bit, but it always came back, after someone would make a fat joke or anything. I know i'm struggling for an impossible goal. I just don't know what to do, my mom doesn't know what to do, my friends don't know what to do. I'm running out of ideas to save myself! help me!
-Save my Soul
That is a very serious problem. I can't relate, and I've never been through anything like that so I'm not even going to pretend like I have. But I can attempt to offer some help. I give you kudos for actually having the strength and wisdom to seek help. I'm sorry that it hasn't been working out for you though. Maybe it would be a good idea to continue the group sessions once again. It might have not worked the first time, but it could be possible the second time around. If things don't progress, maybe it would be best to seek out some sort of rehab center that could help you deal with your problem and see you through until you're back on the right track.
Also, think positively. You did start to get better at one point: so therefore it's not impossible! And surround yourself with positive, considerate people who won't tell fat jokes (even if their not directed at you -- which would make no sense anyway) and will help you to feel better about yourself. I believe that you can do it. If you've had the will power to seek help and even get better in the past, you can do it again.
I really sincerely hope the best for you. I don't like to see (or hear about, in this case) anyone in this kind of situation. You are most definitley in my thoughts and prayers
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