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How long does cherry kool aid last in your hair.

It all depends on the colour of your hair the lighter your hair the more the colour will stick resulting in it lasting longer I know people who have done this and it lasted for a couple of months but those with darker hair it really didnt stay on for that long it was basically the next wash and they wished they'd spent a few more to get a proper hair dye. It really depends on your hair, how you do it, and a few other factors. get a few packets of red kool-aid (cherry) and boil a small pot of water. Then dump the kool-aid in it. Make sure not to use to much water. You want a lot of kool-aid and a little water. DONT ADD SUGAR!! Dip your hair in the boiling water, but be careful not to burn yourself. Put a towel over your shoulders, but try to let it air dry. Then don't wash it for a couple of days. And then you can start washing it again, but not everyday. When you do wash it don't overdo it on shampoo. Hope this helps!!xx

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Hey what is a good down load system similar to "vuze" but is not "limewire". "Limewire" carries to many viruses and I can not get "Vuze" to work. Please and thank you.

Hey my sister uses frostwire? Its similiar to limewire but thats about the only one I know apart from the ones you have stated, hope this helps!!xx

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Please, notice I did NOT say removal. I was wondering if anyone had any experience with tattoo removal creams such as Wrecking Balm, but not necessarily that one. I would like to know if it would work.

I have a mostly red tattoo with a black outline, I'm looking to get it faded so I can get it covered up. I understand it will not go away completely.

Also, I was wondering if the TCA removal actually worked for anyone. I realize that it takes more than once to achieve any results, but I was wondering if anyone has tried & gotten results.

Thank you for you time.
Gina

you could try asking your tattoo artist and there are some places where they can possibly fade it for you.If your looking to fade a tattoo, there are products available for doing this as well, although you need to be careful what you're buying. There are many do-it-yourself tattoo removal creams and lotions on the market that work to fade the tattoo in a matter of months. Some do not work as well as others, but there are a few tattoo removal systems that do actually fade a tattoo over time such as Wrecking Balm and Nuviderm. Though some of these can be a little expensive. Hope this helps!! good luck xx

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So, almost everytime me and my boyfriend hang out, we always mess around. I like to keep the V shaved but since we are always doing stuff, i have to shave it all the time and it gets bad razor burn. I don't want it to be unshaved when he goes down on me, but i can't shave it all the time and im not getting a wax. What do i do?

Thats a real bummer and when ever I shave it really burns and leaves nasty red bumps, not nice at all!!. But if you use a lady shaver its a lot better it may not be as close as you would like it but its close enough for it not to burn or get any ingrown hairs. Its very very good! the hair is just the tiniest bit bigger from when you shave. but trust me there is no burn or pain or tug or anything its really quite safe and easy, give it a go and tell me how it goes, hope this helps good luck!xx

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can you get pregnent if you get fingered and your boyfriend has sperm on his finger???

Umm well it does normally depend on how much sperm but it is possible, maybe not highly likely but very possible. If any sperm is inside you then its possible. Sorry :/ your best bet is it get a test and just to make sure, or if its not too late take the morning after pill? Hope this helps good luck xx

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One of my friends at school keeps enbaressing me by telling people i have not been out with anyone and to make matters worst she keeps asking boys I do not even like out for me now and I just do not want to go out with anyone at the momment how do i get her to shut up without breaking friends

I get how you feel, what you should do rather than letting it escalate to you breaking ur friendship off is take her to the side and actually talk to her and tell her the problems you have with her doing this and how it embarasses you and upsets you and just makes you feel worse. Tell her that she needs to stop doing that and when your ready you'll do al of that yourself. But you have to talk to her and make sure she listens to you and actually agrees to stop rather than just saying ok and letting her walk away show her what its doing to you. If she is a good friend to you then she will understand and stop. I hope this helps! good luck xx

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First i'd like to start off by saying that i'm a 16 m in high school right now. The purpose of this post is that I believe I need some sort of advice or somebody to talk to. So the beginning of the end of happiness is in 2001. It was just a normal day but a roomate had to pay the rent he his wife and his son rented a room. At about 9 or 10 pm they had an arguement and it ended in him shooting my mother, her friend that was there at the time and a couple of minutes later commiting scuicide. I believe this is what has affected me so much and has turned me into the current failure I am. Right now i am a junior in high school and am very confused about life in general. I don't know if i should even try at school or even have thoughts of just ending everything but i've been hopeful and haven't took that kind of measure. I know it could and might get better but the pain of not having your mother and having her besides you helping you with problems and keeping you up when you're down. My dad is a jerk, at the time when my mom was shot he was in prison for domestic violance(hitting my mom). I alson feel ALOT of pain knowing that I have a little brother and he didn't really have any time to know his mother and will live thrus the same pain I go thru every night. It is really hard for me specially because I really don't have anibody that could help me and give me advice about life for I am not close enough to anibody right now. I feel as if I have no purpose in life and I am a complete failure. Please give me any advice that may be helpful in my situation.ANY advice will be greatly.(I was tearing up writing this post just talking and thinking of the pain of losing my mom and having no one "there"

I'm really sorry to hear about your mother and what has happened to you, The pain of losing a parent must be really hard to bare. I'm 16 myself so maybe I can give you perspective on it from our age. It's good that you've gotten this far and havn't ended your life. You doing that shows you want to get over this. Your little brother needs somebody to be there for him and I'm sure you would like to make his life as easy as possible when he has to go through this. It must be hard not being able to speak to people about this but Seeing a therapist could really help they will not judge and will try there damn hardest to help you like we do. But what they do best is they see past sympathetic phrases and actually help you on a deep emotional and mental level.From this I can tell that you love your mother and you really really miss her it must be really difficult. But she would never want to see you throw your life away or give up on life.She'd want you to be happy and live your life as best you can. You will never forget what happened but you can move on from this and learn to live with it and deal with it better. Your willingness to get over this helps because nobody can help unless your willing. Your not a failure. You've just gone through a lot and have never really opened up to anyone about it. You need to have some time to yourself, not to think about what happened but to think about what your going to do now that it happened. You can still talk to your mum I mean it helps me. Just talking aloud to that particular person. You may not get a reply but sometimes it does help. Maybe you could start a diary. You just really need to release this feelings because what happened has traumatised you and you need some help with that. You can always inbox me if you want for more help on this matter. Thats what us people are here for. To help people like you. I really do think that seeing a therapist will really benefit you though, so keep that in mind? I really do hope this helps love, all the best, xx

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Im 16 male and i think im gay im more attracted to guys than girls and ive become close friends with this guy we hang out a lot together and spent quite a lot of time together over the last few months and recently he told me hes gay and he likes me i wasnt sure how i felt about him but now i do think i like him more than a friend a couple of days ago we were in his room we nearly kissed i wanted to but i was to nervous i think i do want to be with him should i go for it?

Definately go for it dude. Put yourself out there, the 1st part is over and that's finding somebody you like who is a nice person and they like you back. Try not to be nervous bcus u both want this so nothing about it will be bad. Judging by what you sed here i'm guessin you have never kissed a guy before? So maybe thats why your stressin but im not sure but think about it like this, you really like his company and you guys hang out a lot, you both like each other so the kiss would be perfectly normal and no one would feel weird after. Just relax and maybe be a bit cheeky with it if that helps but I do say go for it and I wish you the absolute best of luck, i really do hope it goes well for you but like I said, relax and just go for it :) I hope this helps babe!!xx

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HI, im 13 and i never made out w anyone i kinda of want to but im afraid im going to mess up and all my camp friends call me "prude" esp. my suppose to b bff so help me plzz

Its totally normal for sum1 your age to be inexperienced in this sorta thing so dnt worry and ignore youd friends for thr minute. Everybody gets worried tht theyll mess up kissing but you cnt really go all too wrong with it try practicing on your pillow or on your hand bcus its sumthing you get better at with practice but just dnt go kissing your friends and askin if your gd. When you do get to kiss this boy when you go in for the kiss make sure your head tilts a bit the opposite way to his and have your lips slightly parted and when your lips touch his kiss him then from there you kinda just have to go with the flow but one rule is if you are inexperienced try saving using your tongue till your completely safe and comfortable with just plain old kissing there are tutorials on this kinda thing i think maybe with youtube if you need any more help just inbox me :) hope this helps!!xx

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i just recently lost it, sunday night. i'm still pretty sore down there when you touch it and my thighs have been burning, not to mention the pain in my back. and i feel so dirty complaining about it but can't help but feel like this has gone on too long. is it normal?

Those are called Adductors. There's adductor longus, adductor brevis, and adductor magnus (there's even adductor minimus, but it's argued if that's it's own muscle, or part of magnus). When you work them out, they get sore. Having sex really works them out. Once they've been strengthened enough (through sex maybe?) they'll stop getting sore. You just need to relax and take a nice hot bath and possibly get a massage of some sort to help ease your muscles. And then the next time you do have sex take it nice and slow. Hope this helps xx

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can i be pregnant if my boyfriends hand had barly any prurm on it and fingered me

The chances of you being pregnant are very slim. Its not the most optimal way of enducing pregnancy. And plus it depends how long the sperm was on his hand for because sperm cannot live outside of the body, not for very long.you have to have direct contact with the penis and vagina and he needs to cum either right outside of your vagina or inside of you to get pregnant. so dont worry. But then again it doesnt hurt to check just to be sure because you can't always rely on everybody elses stories and stuff. Youll feel much better if you get yourself tested. Hope this helps goood luck xx

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my boyfriend is acting wierd...... Is he cheating?

Your boyfriend acting weird doesnt necessarily mean that he's cheating it could mean that theres something happening at home and he doesnt wanna tel you or maybe hes having doubts and doesnt wanna tell you until hes dealt with it himself. But unless you explain how he's acting then its a bit difficult. But the best way is to actually ask your boyfriend. I mean dont just be like are you cheating on me because you've been acting weird be like are you okay because recently you've been weird? or distant? something like that and just hope hell come clean with whats going on. Hope this helps good luck xx

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My earing is stuck in my ear. I can twist the earing and its fine, but my problem is the back won't come off!!!! I can twist the back but i can't push it forward or pull it backwards.

The earing as been in my ear for a while but I have never had this problem with other earings. Yea i should know better but i'm busy with work at the moment so some times i forget to change my earings.

What should i do? I tried babies oil but the back still won't budge. Should I keep twisting the back to see if it'll come off on its own? Or should I try some other liqud product? HELP!!!!!!!!!

My sister had ths problem with her piercings all the other one's would come out just fine but this one piercing just would not budge we tried oil we tried to see if there was gunk by washing her ear in warm salty water, tried twisting constanty to see if we could eventually twist off the back but none of it would work in the end she got it off but with pure brute force of pulling it out of her ear. It did hurt quite badly form her reaction but it only lasts a couple of minutes. So i'm sorry but your gonna have to pull it out there :/ i hope this helps good luck xx

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Well I'm still a virgin but I masterbate a lot. Ill orgasm and right when I'm about to "finish" the feeling goes away but I never cum at all. Its dry down there .. =/ what's wrong with me? TMI? I'm a female btw

I don't know how old you are so it's kind of difficult to help you out here not kowing your age.But some people can't come during masturbation along or during sex alone it's kinda either one or the other and you may find that during sex you can cum. You say you masturbate a lot and you cant cum and you think your abnormal that could be the problem. That your not relaxing yourself enough down there or maybe not giving yourself enough stimulation. Sometimes you coming depends on what part of the vagina it is that your actually stimulating. Sometimes you just need to find new inventives ways to allow you to reach climax and maybe then you can cum too because your feeling really aroused and you have no expectations and your completely and utterly relaxed. that's they key to most sexual pleasures, relaxation. Maybe try using a shower head? On a high setting to get you there, or even a vibrator and stimulate your g spot. Bcus for a fair few women stimulationg the g spot allows them to cum. You could try clearing all the pubic hair down below as it makes the skin available for more sensation.
If you're taking care of yourself start by fingering downwards over your hood. When you're feeling good rub little circles over you clitoris and hood in whatever speed and size feels best. Again when you're comfortable, pull your hood back towards you and massage your clitoris directly. If your finger(s) are dry then you will want to lick them. Continue gathering speed as you go. And remember to relax.

The G-Spot. This is found very easily. Insert your fingers inside and press up towards the "top". You should feel a "ribbed" spot. Small ribs or hills will be present. And if you've found it you'll be sure to know. Use 1 or 2 fingers and make a "come here" movement. Pull your fingers nearly out dragging them along the g-spot at whatever pressure you find most pleasurable. Repeat repeat repeat. Hope this helps, inbox me if you need more help xx

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I have been unsure about my sexuality for awhile but now i think im gay im 16 male i thought i liked girls at one time but the for the last year ive become more and more attracted to guys i havent told anyone yet but i really want to experient and look for a boyfriend its been confusing but i do like guys more and im happy around guys thats normal feeling at this age?

Thats a completely normal feeling for your age or any age. It's round about this time that you begin to realise things about yourself like your sexuality because your maturing and stuff. I'm 16 and i started liking girls and I was so confused! I was like this can't be? But it was and you just gotta let it happen. You say you want a boyfriend which is really good because to be able to know for sure you need to experiment to see if it feels right for you or not and you can find out what you prefer. When your looking for a guy try not to be nervous and scared because it will help you when you want to experiment because then you can actually enjoy it. Sorry it took so long or me to answer your question my comp has been down. If you need any more help or if your struggling just inbox me :) hope this helps xx

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hey =[, yeah.. he keeps begging me though, and whenever im aorund him he holds my hand and kisses it and begs for me and says PLEASE give me another chance and i promise to never do it again.. we are SO close, like TOOOOOOO close.. we know EVERYTHING about one another. and we love eachohter so much =/ i STILL dontk now what to do.. maybe i should like give it some more time? i just dont want him getting tired of apolgoizing i guess=/ ? idk! im an idiot when it comes to this stuff.=/ HELP! haha.

He will keep begging but you have to stand your ground bcus u hav given nim so y chances if your really struggling with it and really feel like splitting from him isnt right then when it happens again you can take him back but on certain conditions because you cant keep taking this everytime he doesnt like something and then maybe you guys could have a talk of what it iz tht actually starts it so you guys can work through the problems together and become closer as a couple and more at ease with each other just have a heart to heart and make some conditions to stop this from happening so frequently remember just inbox me if you need more help, hope this helps xx

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Please don't answer "don't do it" because that won't be helpful at all.

So I AM going to be doing ecstasy this coming Saturday. I know it makes you so happy but does it just increase your happiness? Or is it like dreamy and shit like on weed because I don't like the 'high' feeling weed gives you. Also, I know it makes you really hot and to drink lots of water so would that mean going into a hot tub would be a bad idea? You talk a lot on it right? But is it really like annoying? Because I hate feeling annoying. Also, how long does it last for?

Thanks guys.

Well it does make you more sociable but not necessarily chatty, you like basically love and get on really well with the people around you. your more alert and able to stay awake for longer. It gives you a sense of euphoria followed by a feeling of calm. It kinda hightens your senses of surroundings such as colour and music. Some of the effects include increased heart rate and blood pressure and as you stated dehydration, but don't drink too much because your brain could swell to dangerous levels. If your taking a large amount the drug can cause anxiety, panic and confusion, and many people feel some degree of depression as the drug wears off. Although it’s clear that the drug has the potential to kill, most deaths have been caused by dehydration. The medical profession is still unclear as to the exact danger that the drug poses to health. Part of the problem is that many tablets sold as ecstasy are not what purchasers think they are.Some tablets have even been found to be fish tank cleaners or dog worming tablets whilst others contain drugs such as amphetamine or ketamine.

If you are going to take ecstasy, remember that it is illegal. Be alert to the health risks, follow advice about keeping cool and adequately hydrated with isotonic drinks, take frequent breaks from a hot dance floor or bright sunshine if you at a festival, and look after your friends.

I recommend NOT doing it but it is your choice.


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my son is 15 years old and he behaves really bad.i know that he is using marijuana and he goes to party and come home really drunk if i start to argue with him he would screem at me and get really agresive with me .i had to call the police twice because he wold come home late every weekend.what can i do can.

Ok so I know i'm not an adult but I'm 16 so maybe I can give you a kids point of view on this? I think you need to stand up to him. Give him boundaries and proper consequences. Possibly make a couple of compromises? I know its difficult to see your son kind of 'waste' his life but these things have to be done. If you want him to stop smoking marijuana then maybe you could say I don't want you smoking that in the house or anywhere. But cigarettes are better? As for coming home drunk and the arguments maybe go to his friends and tell them if he does this one more time there will be consequences. Because we all know far too well the dangers of alcohol and drugs especially when their mixed. It's really dangerous. You could allow him to drink reasonably small amounts in this house. Kind of sit him down and talk to him about everything thats going on and find out the reason for him doing this? Because personally i think maybe something bad happened in his life that he never got over or dealt with properly is affecting him which is why hes acting out in this way. You just need to hone in on his behaviour and put a stop to it yourself you know he's going out to do all this stuff so maybe if you feel brave enough to stand up to your son because it is difficult then stop him from going out. Tell him he has to stay with you because you need him to do something if he kicks up a fuss then you kick one up to about how you have to deal with this crap and all you want is for him to stop and be nice to you and stuff because you cant deal with it anymore and you have no idea what to do. Sometimes children will stop when they see its affecting their parents in a really big way. Especially if the adult sort of breaks down or stands up to them. Hope this helps btw xx

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i have been with my girlfriend for awhile,how do i know when she is ready to have sexual contact?

13/m

Well to be honest i'm 16/f and a if your girlfriend is the same age as you I don't think she's ready. Your too young to be thinking about taking your relationships to that level that said obviously when your ready then its okay because no one wants to regret their first time. As for knowing when shes ready, i don't think she is but then again i'm not her, you could try asking her but not like do you wanna have sex? just bring the topic up, ask what does she think about sex? And what would ideal first time be. Then she could possibly say she would like to have it with you, or tell you she's ready or when you do things it could lead to that and if she doesn't stop you then she might be ready but don't force it. Bcus honestly i think your quite young for sex, maybe wait a couple more years? Hope this helps xx

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So, im 16 years old.. and me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 1 year and a half.. and im really happy thank God, hes turning 18 Soon, thought you guys would want to know basically everything, but weve been having really complicated issues lately.. and i dont really have anyone to talk to about this, well.. i have alot of people in my life, but not exactly those i want to talk about this to... so i decided to come on here and maybe someone could understand and help me out.. we started off really great.. best friends..and we fell inlove.. we were perfect, i had guy friends, he had girls that were friends aswell.. but we acually approved on eachothers friends.. til one day, a friend of mine came back from a diffrent country, and they started getting close.. and i acualy THOUGHT i would like it, and i turned out to be wrong.. she wanted to basically mess up my realtionship with him.. and she brainwashed him.. and he treated me really badly, we were having problems before that so he turned to her about it, he said she was awesome and he really liked her as a friend, and i was totally against it only because she really wasnt such a good friend for brainwashing him telling him to leave me,we fell apart since, everything has changed between us, until he finally came to his senses... and stopped talking to her, after that he told me he didnt want me talking to one of my really close guy friends because he thought there was something a bit more than just that and he didnt likke the relationship between us anymore, basically ive been doing anything hes been wanting me too since day one, and im not gonna lie, he has been too..til he did what he did when it came to him wanting his freedom", even though i always let him do WHATEVER he wanted, but he would still keep saying he wanted his space.. and fucked me over pretty bad.. that was like in our 10th month. and hes changed, i see him diffrently now, and were still inlove.. but what never stopped hurting me was the fact that has alot of anger problems.. (family surrounding.) everytime we argue, or i do something he doesnt want me to do, he breaks up with me.. and after EVERYTHING hes put me through, after all the yelling and the hurting hes put me through i never FOR one second ever ended our relationship, everytime we argue like REALLY badly, he goes "your not worth it" or "im giving up my teen life for you even THOUGH hes not the type of guy that drinks. AT ALL, he doesnt care about that stuff, hes really religious, and after it he ALWAYS seems to regret it, and cry and say hes sorry.. just a couple of days ago, i did soemthing he didnt approve of, and no it wasnt going out with guys behind his back or whatever, it was just this little mistake i made, and it pissed him OFF sooo badly that he said "YOUR NOT WORTH IT, UR NOT MY GIRLFRIEND ANYMORE" so i got FED UP, and i didnt talk to him anymore, i told him to never call me up again.. and i didnt wanna know him anymore( ofcourse out of anger) i saw him today.. and he kept crying.. and begging me to forgive him and he kept saying ' you know i dont mean it when i say stuff like that when im mad, ofcourse were together we never broke up i love you" and hes like "GIVE me your hand" and id give it to him and hed smack his neck with it.. here where i live its a sign of disrepsect.. and he did it infront of all his friends and he didnt care. and he kept crying saying HED never ever do it again.. and he promisses and that hes an idiot blalblah.., now my question is.. what exactly do i do? everytime he cries i give into him.. i just dont know, i REALLY love him. i just feel SO hurt =/ someone help, please, i know this is long, i REALLY appreicaiet it though. sorry for all the typos, im in ahurry =]

Ok so im the same age as you and about a year or two ago this exact thing happened to my friend. The relationship was great in the beginning but then after a while things started to go downhill. He didnt treat her right when she wanted to do her own thing or go out with friends especially if they were boys. After arguments he would say hurtful things and then dump her but the next day say he doesnt mean it hes sorry and she wud take him back. Which gives him all the power. Meaning for you to take him back everytime gives him the comfort of knowing that he can do it because youll take him back everytime, all he has to do is apologise. When you hand all the control over to him you'll lose yourself and soon get drowned into the whole situation making it harder to get out of. You kinda need to get rid of him ASAP i know that sounds harsh and mean but so is what hes doing to you. When my friend got out of the relationship with that guy she found it so difficult cus she loved him and stuff and he made it harder because he was really quite rude he exposed her all over facebook all her secrets she told him and everything. I mean if somebody can hurt you so bad and do it so often they don't love you. They need more help then you could give them. You need to make a clean cut from him if you really don't like doing it then maybe try waiting until you've had another argument and when he apologises stick to your ground and dont take him back. Then he'll realise that he cant keep doing this. And either change or move on. But this is what you have to do or this will continue forever. If you need anymore help on this matter then just inbox me, i hope this helps, good luck xx

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